Jayne Cox

Thank you for visiting my profile.

I'm Jayne Cox and I provide online  specialist trauma informed and neurodivergent sensitive coaching and the safe and sound protocol (SSP)  particularly suited to women who identify as neurodivergent, or have a history of trauma.

I work with;

•  HSP's 
• Nervous System Regulation
• Stress and anxiety 
• Trauma symptoms
• Women identifying as neurodivergent later in life/ADD/ADHD

With a personal history of complex trauma and identifying as neurodivergent myself, I understand that the world can feel overwhelming and unsafe, and that trust can be difficult. 

Struggling with trust and connection can make relationships and all aspects of life and work challenging and lead to withdrawal from connection, isolation, and problems with boundaries and people pleasing behaviour.

I believe that change begins in the body, our thoughts, behaviours, motivations, and the stories we tell ourselves are directly influenced by how safe we feel.

If we don’t ‘feel’ safe, we’ll be held back by our defensive survival state, because survival is our primary goal.

Women who feel unsafe often find themselves caught in cycles of pleasing and rescuing, and avoiding and not honouring themselves or their needs. 

"If you want to improve the world, start by making people feel safer" - Dr Stephen Porges"

If this means something to you, you can contact me for a complimentary discovery call or read on to discover more about me and how we can work together. 

I warmly invite you to connect by starting to get to know me.

So, I'm Jayne, with a bumpy life path to reach the best days of my life, in my 50's.  I made a recent move north with my husband, our 6 wonderful dogs, pet hens and ducks and the breath-taking Northumberland coast is now our home.

I have been in private practice for 25 plus years, originally providing eating disorder therapy and then life coaching and stress management. The foundation and passion for my work was built upon my personal experience of complex childhood trauma and my understanding of why that lead to anorexia in my late teens and self medication.

I research and study the latest developments in neuroscience and continue my trauma focussed training so that I can understand myself and help my clients.

My coaching at ‘Breathing Space’ focusses on helping you to understand yourself, your nervous system and create a tool kit that supports you to be well.

What you want to change has been with you for some time, a commitment to work with me will require time and space to achieve results. 

I will guide and teach you, giving you the skills to recognise the shifts in your nervous system, recognise triggers, and how to take this understanding and  work with your nervous system, rather than fight it.

                     'we carry wounds and wounds can heal...'

Working in a way that is respectful, compassionate and kind, I also use an innovative evidence based digital sound/listening therapy, called the SSP.

Pause: Are we a good fit?

After you've read this far,  take a moment to notice if I am making any kind of connection, perhaps ask yourself  "what are my thoughts or feelings about Jayne?" 

If you don't feel much, that is ok, but if you feel any sense that this is too uncomfortable, this may not be right for you.  

If the feeling is good, safe or ok, then you may feel ready to contact me.

So what next? 

The most important starting point is feeling safe and feeling ready to work with me, in the ways I have described above.

From there,  we have a complimentary discovery call to see how we both 'feel.'

Coaching is an important relationship and we become a team, I walk beside you as a safe human. 

Together, we make sense of why minds and bodies react as they do to life stories and experiences.

Knowledge is empowering. In a sense working with me will help you to demystify things and you’ll take some control back over what often feels so ‘out of your control’  and perhaps challenging, overwhelming and often painful.

 What about the Safe and Sound Protocol , SSP?

I Integrate the SSP because it is the most effective and life changing technologies I have found and I use it personally.

It helps me to work more deeply and can support positive outcomes, including;

• Sense of safety and trust
• Reduction in trauma symptoms
• Stress and anxiety
• Motivation and performance
• Sense of connection and reduced loneliness
• Attention and learning outcomes
• Improves other therapeutic outcomes

This therapeutic, kind, yet powerful digital sound therapy programme helps to regulate the autonomic or automatic nervous system. Developed by Dr Stephen Porges, the founder of the Polyvagal Theory, and digitally delivered through an app.  I was one of the first practitioners to become a qualified provider within the UK in 2019.

You will find  more details in the videos section of my profile, you can visit the Unyte-iLs website and of course my website, or contact me and I can send more details. 

Goal Focussed Life Coaching

I also provide more generalised life coaching sessions for women with a trauma history/identifying as neurodivergent and we may integrate elements of the SSP, and not a full programme.

My approach to coaching comes from a place of respect and creating safety to achieve your goals. From here you can move forward, compassionately guided and supported.

You can email me here, jayne@breathingspacewellness.uk or use the contact form, or arrange a free discovery call, through my profile. Please add me to your contacts or I may end up in your junk folder.

*Professional referrals are welcome, please contact me to discuss* 

Wishing you well and I look forward to connecting.

Kindest wishes,

Jayne

I can offer coaching sessions alongside your existing therapy and I accept self or therapist referral. 

The SSP is only available to those with a significant trauma history if therapy is already in place. 

Please contact me for details of fee structures for the SSP programme and coaching packages are available after initial intake assessment session. 

Member of ISMA (MISMAuk)

Fully Insured through Towergate Insurance.

Your confidentiality is respected at all times.

Sessions last for an hour or 90 minutes by Zoom (other VC platforms available) 

I offer a 20 minute complimentary discovery call.

I provide post session takeaways and psychoeducation to understand your nervous system and help to support your wellness goals.

Email/Text support is available to all clients on working weekdays.

Walking and outdoor sessions are sometimes possible, harnessing the power of nature.

Please contact me for further details and to discuss your individual needs.

Please note your therapist or GP  may refer you for SSP, if you have a trauma history. 

A selection of Testimonials

SSP

If you're at all in two minds whether this is for you I implore you to take the chance & go for it.

I think the beauty of this protocol is its simplicity, but I also understand thinking that it might be too simple & that it might be too left-field to do a thing because it's exactly what I thought before giving it ago, but you know what? It's changed my life and noticeable differences were instant.

The feeling I've been carrying for some years now, a constant nervous anxious hyper-alert state from the minute I woke up that came with me through every minute of every day dissipated as the week went on. The time & space I gave to the process made me know that fundamentally I was safe & secure.

I feel like I don't have to worry about whether I can face the day, I can roll better with whatever the day holds and I feel like time isn't waiting on me. I feel I am lead by my emotions not overwhelmed by them anymore. Rachael Nov 2019 ( I am happy to speak to prospective clients about it too!)

SSP

I found the whole process of doing the SSP easy and felt very well supported by you throughout. The hardest part was actually being open-minded enough to give it a try, even though I knew the science made sense.

I don’t really know what I was expecting to change as a result of doing the SSP but I have noticed many positive effects. I feel calmer now in a way that’s hard to describe and seem able to think more clearly. I have noticed that my thoughts aren’t so negative and I feel less tired.

I feel it’s been hugely valuable in my ongoing work of taking care of mental health and managing my responses to triggers and stress. Charlotte Nov 2019

SSP

In all honesty, I was a little sceptical about the SSP but willing to complete the programme and see what happened.

The trickiest part on days one and two was doing nothing and noticing how strange the filtered music sounded. Being so quiet is certainly odd but by day 3 I was keen to complete the challenge.

Whilst I didn’t notice an instant calmness, over the course of the following weeks since its completion I found I could focus more and remain calm in challenging situations.

In short, it’s easier to not sweat the small stuff now, so the benefits are positively affecting me directly, my relationships and my business. Michael Oct 2019

"Creeping up behind me was a wave that would overwhelm my state of mind, I knew I would lose control over my own life - an eating disorder was one manifestation - and depression would follow. With Jayne's help, I have learned what it was - the underlying problem. For me it was largely loneliness, starting from the distance from family and from being largely alone when raising young children. The patterns remained – many self-perpetuated - and I didn't realise how much it was hurting me. It was truly wonderful talking to Jayne whom I found to be a gifted, mature and very experienced guide out of the wilderness. I feel blessed our paths met. Clarity has been so empowering for me and I am now in control and every day I feel stronger. And when life happens, and storms brew, I know what to do to protect myself." KR

                                                                                                                             
"I wanted to say a massive thank you for everything you did and have helped me to achieve. Through your help and support, I have managed things I would never have dreamt of doing and my life is totally different and I am so much happier! The main reason for my email was to tell you the girl who was too scared to ever go for a coffee on her own is going travelling on her own, halfway around the world!!!!! I would be lying if I said I was not scared, I am terrified and excited but also so proud of myself and feel I owe so much to you and the amazing work you do.

"Thank you again for everything Jayne words cannot express how grateful I am to you.  You have enabled me to turn my life around!!!" R

"I honestly don't believe I'd be here if it weren't for you! 'Thank you' is not nearly enough" KN

"I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the work that you did with Susan. She is now so much more confident and able to cope with so much more than she did a year to 18 months ago. I wish you all the best with the work that you're doing with everyone else. There are many professionals out there who could benefit a lot from listening to you. I wish you success and happiness and again, thank you so very much." P B

"Your help, kindness and support has been vital in helping me begin the road to a brighter future. The advice and life coaching has given me the tools and confidence to explore difficult issues and made me look to the future rather than live in a past of regrets. Thank you." C.S

"Jayne naturally made me feel comfortable, enabling me to successfully remove barriers that were holding me back. She is very professional and offers that extra special element of holistic support that I have not found elsewhere. I highly recommend Jayne as a coach to you. Thank you Jayne. :-)" K.C.

"You have been a tower of strength to me on many occasions and keep me going on my way to recovery" B

"Just wanted to thank you for the Coaching that you have given me over the past six months. I've come a long way, with your motivation and strategies!" A P

I just wanted to let you know what a difference coaching has made to my life and to my career. I’ll be back to explore my next steps. Thank You. JP

I’m not sure where I’d be if I hadn’t asked for your professional coaching. It’s empowering to not surrender yourself to someone but to be part of the process of change. I now know how capable I am, I have my own mind fit kit and I am using it. My new business is about to launch, thank you! EW

You were there when I felt so very lost. You patiently helped me see my possibilities. If anyone wanted to make a small or large life change, I’d suggest they speak to you first. JS

Jayne brought clarity and focus back to my life and I enjoyed working with her in a very peaceful environment; she is very perceptive and calming and very creative. My time spent with Jayne gave me the chance to stop and think about my values and what is important to me, what really matters and to make a positive change to my life. PJ