Jayne Cox

A little about me

I’m Jayne, a relational coach with nervous-system understanding central to my approach. 

I work predominantly with late diagnosed autistic, ADHD and AuDHD women

Being late-diagnosed AuDHD myself, with a history of complex trauma, I bring a depth of lived and professional experience.

I have been in private therapeutic snd coaching practice for almost 30 years.

I work with clients online throughout the UK and Europe and my approach is human,  neuro-affirming and trauma-informed, relational and integrative in practice.

My work is also a special interest, so I am always researching and developing my approach. I often share a love of animals with my clients, with quite a menagerie myself, and your pets are welcome to join us in sessions.

About you

You may be self-identifying, diagnosed or curious about autism, ADHD or AuDHD.  And like many of my clients, you may have spent years adapting, masking, coping and in and out of burnout, trying to understand why relationships and everyday life is so difficult.

Perhaps you appear capable on the outside but underneath feel overwhelmed, disconnected or exhausted. You may people please and support others, abandoning yourself and your own needs in the process.

If you are looking for support from someone with both professional and lived experience, my hope is offer vitally important safe human connection.

Relationality and safety

At the centre of my work is relationality, compassionate attunement and safety.

Trauma, masking and years of adapting to other people can affect how we experience connection. Safety can become difficult to find, both within ourselves and with others. We may become braced, disconnected from our own needs, unsure who to trust, unclear about our boundaries, or so used to adapting that it becomes difficult to know what feels right and safe for us.

Forming relationships can become fraught with confusion and fear as the rules we try to follow to connect and fit in don’t seem to work for us. We can also find ourselves in relationships that are unhealthy, perhaps emotionally abusive, not trusting ourselves to recognise what a healthy relationship actually feels like.

Our relationship gives us somewhere to explore this together, safely. It can become a place to notice, experiment and learn what helps you feel safe enough to connect, what makes you pull away, what a boundary looks and feels like and how to recognise trust,   and discerning who to be unmasked or more fully yourself with, and who not to be.

An integrative approach

I draw on deep nervous-system and polyvagal understanding, somatic and body-based approaches, psychoeducation, creativity, music and sound.

My approach supports nervous system regulation, which isn’t about feeling calm all the time. It is actually about resilience and flexibility, being able to naturally respond to situations, and to have greater flexibility, not getting stuck in states like shut down or fight, flight, freeze, flop and fawn. 

I work with care, and slowly, in a way that supports you to a place of safety, where you can think more clearly with more capacity to explore, learn and grow. This can also help you prepare for your next steps in life, which may include neuro-affirming therapy or perhaps a formal diagnosis.

I walk with you and together we become curious about what your nervous system is communicating and what helps you develop more capacity, flexibility and choice. 

Relational Coaching

I work in a way that is compassionate, gentle and creative, meeting you where you are, and I won't try to fix you, teach you to appear less neurodivergent or make you more productive or more ‘normal’.

I am here to help you understand yourself more deeply, your nervous system, relationships, needs, patterns and ways of connecting, so that there can be more trust in your own experience, more capacity, more flexibility and more choice in how you live, more safely.

From here you may have more capacity to make decisions about your next steps, which can include formal diagnosis, looking for a neuro-affirming therapist,  or more clarity about your life moving forward.

Relational Listening

Music and invitational listening are often integrated into my work.

It offers us another medium for exploration and discovery and it can take some of the pressure and expectation out of talking and performing , giving us a shared focus and room to create space for pause, to notice, feel, move towards and away from emotions, reflect and make sense of what emerges.

It can be both powerful and gentle at the same time.

Safe and Sound Protocol

I am also an experienced Safe and Sound Protocol practitioner and have worked with the SSP since 2019. Understanding how attuned and reactive our nervous systems can be, I  developed a specialist approach called SSP Together™.

 You can discover more in my website, and of course contact me for more details about how we can work together.

What next?

You do not need to have everything worked out, or even know exactly what you need. We can begin with what is happening for you now and work from there.

 I offer a 20–30 minute discovery call. It is a chance to meet, ask questions and get a sense of whether working together feels right and that we are a good fit.

I look forward to hearing from you, if this feels like the right time.

Kindest wishes,

Jayne

• Late diagnosed  AuDHD women
• Preparation for AuDHD Assessment/Diagnosis 
• Sense of safety and identity post AuDHD diagnosis 
• Women who identify or feel curious about AuDHD

I offer a complimentary 20-30-minute discovery call.

I include email support on working weekdays. 

I can sometimes offer 'one off'  90 minute relational and nervous system grounded coaching sessions, please contact me for availability.

Member of EMCC 

Member of ISMA (MISMAuk)

Fully Insured through Towergate Insurance.

Your confidentiality is respected at all times.

Sessions last for an hour or 90 minutes on Zoom 

I offer a 20 minute complimentary discovery call.

I provide post session takeaways and psychoeducation to understand your nervous system and help to support your wellness goals.

Email/Text support is available to all clients on working weekdays.

Walking and outdoor sessions are sometimes possible, harnessing the power of nature.

Please contact me for further details and to discuss your individual needs.

Please note your therapist or GP  may refer you for SSP, if you have a trauma history. 

A selection of Testimonials

SSP

If you're at all in two minds whether this is for you I implore you to take the chance & go for it.

I think the beauty of this protocol is its simplicity, but I also understand thinking that it might be too simple & that it might be too left-field to do a thing because it's exactly what I thought before giving it ago, but you know what? It's changed my life and noticeable differences were instant.

The feeling I've been carrying for some years now, a constant nervous anxious hyper-alert state from the minute I woke up that came with me through every minute of every day dissipated as the week went on. The time & space I gave to the process made me know that fundamentally I was safe & secure.

I feel like I don't have to worry about whether I can face the day, I can roll better with whatever the day holds and I feel like time isn't waiting on me. I feel I am lead by my emotions not overwhelmed by them anymore. Rachael Nov 2019 ( I am happy to speak to prospective clients about it too!)

SSP

I found the whole process of doing the SSP easy and felt very well supported by you throughout. The hardest part was actually being open-minded enough to give it a try, even though I knew the science made sense.

I don’t really know what I was expecting to change as a result of doing the SSP but I have noticed many positive effects. I feel calmer now in a way that’s hard to describe and seem able to think more clearly. I have noticed that my thoughts aren’t so negative and I feel less tired.

I feel it’s been hugely valuable in my ongoing work of taking care of mental health and managing my responses to triggers and stress. Charlotte Nov 2019

SSP

In all honesty, I was a little sceptical about the SSP but willing to complete the programme and see what happened.

The trickiest part on days one and two was doing nothing and noticing how strange the filtered music sounded. Being so quiet is certainly odd but by day 3 I was keen to complete the challenge.

Whilst I didn’t notice an instant calmness, over the course of the following weeks since its completion I found I could focus more and remain calm in challenging situations.

In short, it’s easier to not sweat the small stuff now, so the benefits are positively affecting me directly, my relationships and my business. Michael Oct 2019

"Creeping up behind me was a wave that would overwhelm my state of mind, I knew I would lose control over my own life - an eating disorder was one manifestation - and depression would follow. With Jayne's help, I have learned what it was - the underlying problem. For me it was largely loneliness, starting from the distance from family and from being largely alone when raising young children. The patterns remained – many self-perpetuated - and I didn't realise how much it was hurting me. It was truly wonderful talking to Jayne whom I found to be a gifted, mature and very experienced guide out of the wilderness. I feel blessed our paths met. Clarity has been so empowering for me and I am now in control and every day I feel stronger. And when life happens, and storms brew, I know what to do to protect myself." KR

                                                                                                                             
"I wanted to say a massive thank you for everything you did and have helped me to achieve. Through your help and support, I have managed things I would never have dreamt of doing and my life is totally different and I am so much happier! The main reason for my email was to tell you the girl who was too scared to ever go for a coffee on her own is going travelling on her own, halfway around the world!!!!! I would be lying if I said I was not scared, I am terrified and excited but also so proud of myself and feel I owe so much to you and the amazing work you do.

"Thank you again for everything Jayne words cannot express how grateful I am to you.  You have enabled me to turn my life around!!!" R

"I honestly don't believe I'd be here if it weren't for you! 'Thank you' is not nearly enough" KN

"I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the work that you did with Susan. She is now so much more confident and able to cope with so much more than she did a year to 18 months ago. I wish you all the best with the work that you're doing with everyone else. There are many professionals out there who could benefit a lot from listening to you. I wish you success and happiness and again, thank you so very much." P B

"Your help, kindness and support has been vital in helping me begin the road to a brighter future. The advice and life coaching has given me the tools and confidence to explore difficult issues and made me look to the future rather than live in a past of regrets. Thank you." C.S

"Jayne naturally made me feel comfortable, enabling me to successfully remove barriers that were holding me back. She is very professional and offers that extra special element of holistic support that I have not found elsewhere. I highly recommend Jayne as a coach to you. Thank you Jayne. :-)" K.C.

"You have been a tower of strength to me on many occasions and keep me going on my way to recovery" B

"Just wanted to thank you for the Coaching that you have given me over the past six months. I've come a long way, with your motivation and strategies!" A P

I just wanted to let you know what a difference coaching has made to my life and to my career. I’ll be back to explore my next steps. Thank You. JP

I’m not sure where I’d be if I hadn’t asked for your professional coaching. It’s empowering to not surrender yourself to someone but to be part of the process of change. I now know how capable I am, I have my own mind fit kit and I am using it. My new business is about to launch, thank you! EW

You were there when I felt so very lost. You patiently helped me see my possibilities. If anyone wanted to make a small or large life change, I’d suggest they speak to you first. JS

Jayne brought clarity and focus back to my life and I enjoyed working with her in a very peaceful environment; she is very perceptive and calming and very creative. My time spent with Jayne gave me the chance to stop and think about my values and what is important to me, what really matters and to make a positive change to my life. PJ