Jayne Cox

Welcome, and thanks for visiting my profile and I’m so pleased to connect. 

I’m Jayne Cox, EMCC accredited Coach, Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP) and Rest and Restore Protocol (RRP) Practitioner.

I specialise in trauma informed coaching for women, and integrate powerful evidence based nervous system regulating 'listening therapies’, The Safe and Sound Protocol, SSP, and new Rest and Restore Protocol, RRP, developed by the founder of the polyvagal theory, Dr Stephen Porges.

My clients are often midlife women, but if my approach resonates, you are welcome to get in touch to explore working together. 

I work with women because I understand being a woman, and how trauma uniquely impacts all aspects of our lives, including relationships, health, our ability to trust, sense of self, purpose, identity and self worth.

Your life and nervous system are unique to you, I understand and respect this, and we'll gently discover shared threads, deeper understand, self compassion and build connection as we go.

 My clients have often felt somehow different their whole lives, often unsafe, appeasing and pleasing their way through life and habitually putting the needs of others before their own.  The springboard for contacting me is usually a significant moment in a woman's life, for example loss and grief, and or a sense of  'what's next' or 'there must be more,' and questioning things their life purpose, lack of boundaries, and a hamster wheel existence. 

I specialise in coaching women through a polyvagal lens and deeply rooted in polyvagal theory. I coach from a foundation firmly based in feminine energy, and my personal experience, alongside neuroscience, professional trainings and something deeper, intuitive, sensitive, and spiritual.

I work with compassion, from my nervous system to yours, and with the following:

• Personal Development
• Midlife transition and change
• Stress and Anxiety
• Burnout and Boundaries
• Functional Disorders
• Women identifying as neurodivergent later in life
• Healing trauma wounds
• ‘Self nurturing' and the re-parenting journey

With a personal history of complex trauma (c-PTSD) abuse, eating disorders, and identifying as neurodivergent, I understand that the world can feel overwhelming, unsafe, and that trust can be difficult. 

I hope the following information will support you in choosing to work with me.

Specialist Coaching

I am here to provide a safe haven for women, with compassionate and specialist nervous system focussed coaching.

You are perhaps a women often feeling caught in cycles of overwhelm, fear, and burnout from your past. Perhaps it feels like a rollercoaster of change and the demands of life, family, career, perhaps running a business and generally feeling bottom of the pile, and meeting the needs of others.  

Our thoughts, emotions, behaviours, motivations, and the stories we tell ourselves are directly influenced by our lives and experiences, and unlike many coaches, I understand, both personally and professionally, that our work together begins within our bodies. Finding safety in connection and co-regulation,  supporting your nervous system back home, and to a safe space. 

If we don’t ‘feel’ safe within our nervous system, no amount of talking or will power will help us to change or be free from past harms, because the body is primed for attack and subconsciously feels under threat, no matter how many years have passed.

Fear prevents effective change, learning and the motivation and ability to move forwards, because these are not essential for survival. 

In this survival state we can’t be our true selves, or concentrate,  grow, effectively work on our personal development, feel comfortable in our skin and with others, and we certainly can't feel deep safe connection.

I am here to support women to feel safe, to thrive and perhaps meet themselves for the first time. .

It's really important to understand that you aren't to blame for where you find yourself, without the ability to feel safe and regulated, we will all find ourselves disconnected from our full potential and the important people in our lives, and will often ‘always feel on’ and busy, or shutdown, often numbing in some way, self medicating perhaps and from this burdened place we commonly experience burnout and ill health.

We can easily spread ourselves too thinly, finding ourselves caught in cycles of guilt, pleasing and serving others, avoiding and not honouring our own needs. 

 "If you want to improve the world, start by making people feel safer" - Dr Stephen Porges"

If this feels and sounds familiar,  I am here to support you through specialist coaching and providing a safe and regulating anchor through my own nervous system, as we can work together to lighten your load and help you discover and understand your unique nervous system responses and how to regulate and support your nervous system.

You can feel calmer, building resilience to bend with the winds of challenge and not break, manage your life more effectively,  seeing life or midlife transition as a springboard to a brighter future and not a dead-end.

We all deserve to function well, and more healthily without the need to numb and avoid, respecting ourselves and our unique-ness, and who wants to be ‘typical anyway?’  

I’m here to professionally and compassionately support you and your life goals, helping you to meet your needs and put necessary boundaries in place.

Ready to know more about me and connect to the inner wisdom of your nervous system? 

Like you perhaps, I feel not at all typical, and as the years roll on I am becoming more and more at ease with meeting my true self and being myself.

I have had a very bumpy life path to reach the best days of my life, in my later 50's.  I made a recent move north with my husband, our wonderful little dogs, our 4 legged family, pet hens and ducks and the breath-taking Northumberland coast is now our home.

I have been in private practice for 25 plus years, originally providing eating disorder therapy, and then life coaching and stress management, this developed into nervous system regulating coaching and being amongst the first UK providers of the SSP in 2019,  as my passion for solving complex human problems grew, and this included my own.

The foundation and passion for my work was built upon my personal experience of complex childhood trauma and my understanding of why I developed anorexia nervosa in my late teens. Some poor experiences of therapy left me in tatters, as they had no understanding of trauma or how to work with compassion and knowledge of a dysregulated nervous system.

So many years lost, lead me to search for understanding, connection and safety, and to where I am now.

I research and study the latest developments in neuroscience and trauma focussed training so that I can support my clients.

I also invest in myself, walking my talk, and caring for myself through personal therapy and SSP/RRP, so that I can live and work well.

Breathing Space 

My coaching practice, ‘Breathing Space’ is built on the foundation of what I developed to support my own health, and what changed my life path. My approach focusses on supporting you and coaching you to better understand your nervous system and support you to thrive.

My approach to coaching comes from a place of respect, and trust and is integrative, drawing on fields such as somatics and mindfulness, with a relational, compassionate, and person centred style.

A lifetime of habits and ‘being as you currently are’ takes time to change, so you’ll need to set aside time and space, and feel ready to commit, to achieve results with me, but they are lasting results. 

I will guide and teach you, helping you to recognise the shifts in your nervous system, understand triggers, acknowledge glimmers, and gain confidence to work with your nervous system, rather than fear its responses.

                     'We carry wounds and wounds can heal...'

Working in a way that is mutually respectful, compassionate and kind, I also use an innovative evidence based digital sound/listening therapy, called the SSP, The Safe and Sound Protocol.

Pause: Could we be a good fit?

After you've read this far,  take a moment to notice if I am making any kind of connection, perhaps ask yourself  "what are my feelings about Jayne, or what do I sense?"

If the feeling is good, safe or ok, then please contact me.

So what next? 

The most important starting point is feeling comfortable and ready to explore working with me, in the ways I have described above.

From there,  we have a complimentary discovery call to see how we both 'feel.'
SSP coaching is an important 'attuned' relationship and we work together, becoming a team.

Together, we make sense of why our bodies and minds react as they do, to our  life stories and experiences.

In my years of experience, knowledge is empowering. In a sense, working with me will help you to demystify things and you’ll take some control back over what often feels so ‘out of your control’  and perhaps challenging, overwhelming and often painful.

 What about the Safe and Sound Protocol , SSP?

I Integrate the SSP because it is effective and life changing, in so many ways.  I use the SSP, regularly using parts of the listening for regulation and for Core 'boosters.'

It helps me to work more deeply and can support positive outcomes, including;

• Sense of safety and trust
• Reduction of unpleasant symptoms
• Stress and anxiety management /regulation
• Motivation and performance
• Sense of connection
• Attention and learning outcomes
• Improves other therapeutic outcomes and helps support integration
• Improves mental and physical health

This therapeutic, kind, yet powerful digital listening therapy programme works in conjunction with a professional and certified regulating presence and support. 

You will discover tools, often easily accessible to you within your own body, that you have readily available to use to regulate your nervous system and shift you from fight or flight or shutdown to a calmer and more social/regulated state. 

I provide coregulation, allowing you to drop anchor like a ship on a stormy sea, and from this special place you can experience a sense of safety and a place to heal and grow from.

 Developed by Dr Stephen Porges, the founder of the Polyvagal Theory, and digitally delivered through an app.  I was one of the first practitioners to become a qualified provider within the UK in 2019.

You will find  more details in the videos section of my profile, you can visit the Unyte-iLs website and of course my website, or contact me.

Feel comfortable and ready to connect?

Email me, jayne@breathingspacewellness.uk, or use the contact form to arrange a complimentary discovery call through my profile. 

Wishing you well and I look forward to our connection. 

Kindest wishes,
Jayne 💫

  *Professional referrals are welcome. Please contact me to discuss how I can support your client or patient to a sense of safety and connection*

Midlife Women's Coaching

Boundaries and Burnout

Coaching session fees include ongoing email support, available on working weekdays. 

Please contact me for further details of additional fees for the SSP listening programme and supervision. 

Please contact me for further details about my specialist delivery of the SSP.

Email jayne@breathingspacewellness.uk 

Member of EMMC 

Member of ISMA (MISMAuk)

Fully Insured through Towergate Insurance.

Your confidentiality is respected at all times.

Sessions last for an hour or 90 minutes by Zoom (other VC platforms available) 

I offer a 20 minute complimentary discovery call.

I provide post session takeaways and psychoeducation to understand your nervous system and help to support your wellness goals.

Email/Text support is available to all clients on working weekdays.

Walking and outdoor sessions are sometimes possible, harnessing the power of nature.

Please contact me for further details and to discuss your individual needs.

Please note your therapist or GP  may refer you for SSP, if you have a trauma history. 

A selection of Testimonials

SSP

If you're at all in two minds whether this is for you I implore you to take the chance & go for it.

I think the beauty of this protocol is its simplicity, but I also understand thinking that it might be too simple & that it might be too left-field to do a thing because it's exactly what I thought before giving it ago, but you know what? It's changed my life and noticeable differences were instant.

The feeling I've been carrying for some years now, a constant nervous anxious hyper-alert state from the minute I woke up that came with me through every minute of every day dissipated as the week went on. The time & space I gave to the process made me know that fundamentally I was safe & secure.

I feel like I don't have to worry about whether I can face the day, I can roll better with whatever the day holds and I feel like time isn't waiting on me. I feel I am lead by my emotions not overwhelmed by them anymore. Rachael Nov 2019 ( I am happy to speak to prospective clients about it too!)

SSP

I found the whole process of doing the SSP easy and felt very well supported by you throughout. The hardest part was actually being open-minded enough to give it a try, even though I knew the science made sense.

I don’t really know what I was expecting to change as a result of doing the SSP but I have noticed many positive effects. I feel calmer now in a way that’s hard to describe and seem able to think more clearly. I have noticed that my thoughts aren’t so negative and I feel less tired.

I feel it’s been hugely valuable in my ongoing work of taking care of mental health and managing my responses to triggers and stress. Charlotte Nov 2019

SSP

In all honesty, I was a little sceptical about the SSP but willing to complete the programme and see what happened.

The trickiest part on days one and two was doing nothing and noticing how strange the filtered music sounded. Being so quiet is certainly odd but by day 3 I was keen to complete the challenge.

Whilst I didn’t notice an instant calmness, over the course of the following weeks since its completion I found I could focus more and remain calm in challenging situations.

In short, it’s easier to not sweat the small stuff now, so the benefits are positively affecting me directly, my relationships and my business. Michael Oct 2019

"Creeping up behind me was a wave that would overwhelm my state of mind, I knew I would lose control over my own life - an eating disorder was one manifestation - and depression would follow. With Jayne's help, I have learned what it was - the underlying problem. For me it was largely loneliness, starting from the distance from family and from being largely alone when raising young children. The patterns remained – many self-perpetuated - and I didn't realise how much it was hurting me. It was truly wonderful talking to Jayne whom I found to be a gifted, mature and very experienced guide out of the wilderness. I feel blessed our paths met. Clarity has been so empowering for me and I am now in control and every day I feel stronger. And when life happens, and storms brew, I know what to do to protect myself." KR

                                                                                                                             
"I wanted to say a massive thank you for everything you did and have helped me to achieve. Through your help and support, I have managed things I would never have dreamt of doing and my life is totally different and I am so much happier! The main reason for my email was to tell you the girl who was too scared to ever go for a coffee on her own is going travelling on her own, halfway around the world!!!!! I would be lying if I said I was not scared, I am terrified and excited but also so proud of myself and feel I owe so much to you and the amazing work you do.

"Thank you again for everything Jayne words cannot express how grateful I am to you.  You have enabled me to turn my life around!!!" R

"I honestly don't believe I'd be here if it weren't for you! 'Thank you' is not nearly enough" KN

"I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the work that you did with Susan. She is now so much more confident and able to cope with so much more than she did a year to 18 months ago. I wish you all the best with the work that you're doing with everyone else. There are many professionals out there who could benefit a lot from listening to you. I wish you success and happiness and again, thank you so very much." P B

"Your help, kindness and support has been vital in helping me begin the road to a brighter future. The advice and life coaching has given me the tools and confidence to explore difficult issues and made me look to the future rather than live in a past of regrets. Thank you." C.S

"Jayne naturally made me feel comfortable, enabling me to successfully remove barriers that were holding me back. She is very professional and offers that extra special element of holistic support that I have not found elsewhere. I highly recommend Jayne as a coach to you. Thank you Jayne. :-)" K.C.

"You have been a tower of strength to me on many occasions and keep me going on my way to recovery" B

"Just wanted to thank you for the Coaching that you have given me over the past six months. I've come a long way, with your motivation and strategies!" A P

I just wanted to let you know what a difference coaching has made to my life and to my career. I’ll be back to explore my next steps. Thank You. JP

I’m not sure where I’d be if I hadn’t asked for your professional coaching. It’s empowering to not surrender yourself to someone but to be part of the process of change. I now know how capable I am, I have my own mind fit kit and I am using it. My new business is about to launch, thank you! EW

You were there when I felt so very lost. You patiently helped me see my possibilities. If anyone wanted to make a small or large life change, I’d suggest they speak to you first. JS

Jayne brought clarity and focus back to my life and I enjoyed working with her in a very peaceful environment; she is very perceptive and calming and very creative. My time spent with Jayne gave me the chance to stop and think about my values and what is important to me, what really matters and to make a positive change to my life. PJ