Jayne Cox

Welcome, I'm Jayne.

I'm AuDHD, autistic and ADHD, and a specialist nervous system coach and SSP Practitioner, working online with women, across the UK.

I support women who have spent much of their lives looking after others, feeling overwhelmed, losing themselves, or living with the effects of trauma, chronic stress or late-recognised neurodivergence. My work is nervous-system-led, trauma-sensitive and neuro-affirming, helping you develop greater safety, self-understanding, choice and self-trust.

If you have spent years feeling overwhelmed, masked, misunderstood, unheard, exhausted, or rather lost and confused. I understand, because I have lived this too.

My work is slow, relational, and compassionate. The central aim is safety: not forced calm, not fixing, and not learning to become more acceptable to other people, but a growing sense of steadiness, self-understanding, choice and self-trust in your body, your relationships and your life.

I have worked therapeutically with human complexities for almost 30 years, with wide-ranging experience of complex trauma, nervous system responses, sensitivity, anxiety, shutdown, overwhelm, and the many ways people learn to survive. I have specialised in the Safe and Sound Protocol since 2019.

I also bring lived experience of C-PTSD and complex childhood trauma, alongside late-diagnosed AuDHD. My own diagnosis reframed much of my life, and not only what had felt hard, but understanding why it had felt hard.

This work is informed by training, research and years of coaching and lived experience. It's also shaped by years of being with people, listening deeply, recognising protection, and knowing how much it matters not to rush a nervous system that has already carried too much.

Trauma and neurodivergence can both affect day-to-day living. Many sensitive, autistic, ADHD and AuDHD people have spent years trying to adapt, please, hide, perform, push through and hold themselves together.

My work is not about correcting or fixing you, polishing you, or helping you become a masked, neurotypical version of yourself. It begins from a different place. Not with pressure, and not with a list of tools to learn and perform, but with compassion, lived experience, careful listening, curiosity, and enough safety for your experience to have somewhere to land.

Together, we explore what acceptance means in real life. Not as giving up, and not as pretending everything is easy, but as understanding yourself more truthfully and learning to live with more care, compassion and choice.

How I work

My work is based on staying with you, rather than rushing to fix, analyse or move you on.

Together, we begin to make sense of the ways you have coped, protected yourself, masked, pushed through, shut down, over-explained, pleased others, braced, or kept going. These patterns are not personal failures. They are often intelligent responses to stress, trauma, overwhelm, sensitivity or neurodivergence.

This is practical work, but not in a rushed or tools-first way. I don't throw strategies at a nervous system that may already be overwhelmed. First, we understand what is happening together. Then we explore what actually helps you, as a unique individual.

When I talk about safety, I don't mean that life is easy, calm or free from difficulty. I mean the kind of safety that gives your nervous system more choice. As safety grows, life can begin to open. You may begin to understand why you have coped in certain ways, recognise what overwhelms you, notice what steadies you, and make choices from a place of more self-trust — different paths, different boundaries, different relationships, and different ways of being with yourself.

Coaching and SSP Together™

My coaching and SSP Together™ approach are woven together as one relational way of working, for lasting results and increased sense of safety. Depending on what you need, we may explore diagnosis or self-identification, masking, burnout, sensory overwhelm, relationships, boundaries, work, grief, loss, self-trust, and the question of what comes next. 

For some AuDHD people, life can feel like living with both a brake and an accelerator. One part of you may need quiet, sameness, certainty and recovery. Another may seek movement, interest, urgency, stimulation or escape. Our work gives space to understand this without shame, so you can begin to work with your system rather than constantly fighting yourself.

Integrated into my coaching practice is SSP Together™,  my gentle, relational way of offering the Safe and Sound Protocol, a listening-based programme developed by Dr Stephen Porges and informed by Polyvagal Theory. In my experience, including this nervous system focused listening practice into our sessions supports your regulation and ability to learn  and integrate what nervous system safety and flexibility feels like. 

Your listening is always invitational, supervised and supported by me in session.  Carefully paced and held with attunement, choice and co-regulation at the centre. You can discover more by following my website link.

My approach to this work is what I often call "just enough", or the three bears.  Not so little that nothing shifts, not so much that your system tips into overwhelm, but enough to begin noticing, understanding and integrating at a pace your nervous system can manage.

 Less is more. Pushing often creates overwhelm, dysregulation and prevents safety and movement forward.

How this may help

This work may help you understand yourself with less shame, notice your patterns earlier, feel less alone with what you carry, and find language for what has been hard to explain. You may become clearer about what overwhelms you, what steadies you, what matters, and what no longer fits. You may begin to make choices from steadiness rather than survival, and treat yourself with more compassion instead of more judgement.

My hope is that you develop your own personal map for navigating your life, rather than a generic toolkit or one-size-fits-all approach. I work relationally and with care, because I believe long-term change often begins with being met, not managed.

If something here resonates, you are welcome to get in touch through this profile or visit my website to read more in your own time. I can send more details, so you can decide whether a discovery call feels like a comfortable next step. From there, we can arrange a 30-minute chat on Zoom to explore whether my approach feels like a good fit.

Self and professional referrals are welcome prior to starting therapy or pre or post diagnosis.

We are different, we are not broken or wrong, and you are not alone.

I look forward to hearing from you.

With kindness,

Jayne

• Late diagnosed  AuDHD women
• Preparation for AuDHD Assessment/Diagnosis 
• Sense of safety and identity post AuDHD diagnosis 
• Women who identify or feel curious about AuDHD

Fees include individualised programme and email support on working weekdays. . SSP requires a licence and additional fee.

I can sometimes offer one to one coaching sessions, without SSP Together, on an ad hoc basis, minimum of 90 minutes, please enquire for availability. 

Member of EMCC 

Member of ISMA (MISMAuk)

Fully Insured through Towergate Insurance.

Your confidentiality is respected at all times.

Sessions last for an hour or 90 minutes on Zoom 

I offer a 20 minute complimentary discovery call.

I provide post session takeaways and psychoeducation to understand your nervous system and help to support your wellness goals.

Email/Text support is available to all clients on working weekdays.

Walking and outdoor sessions are sometimes possible, harnessing the power of nature.

Please contact me for further details and to discuss your individual needs.

Please note your therapist or GP  may refer you for SSP, if you have a trauma history. 

A selection of Testimonials

SSP

If you're at all in two minds whether this is for you I implore you to take the chance & go for it.

I think the beauty of this protocol is its simplicity, but I also understand thinking that it might be too simple & that it might be too left-field to do a thing because it's exactly what I thought before giving it ago, but you know what? It's changed my life and noticeable differences were instant.

The feeling I've been carrying for some years now, a constant nervous anxious hyper-alert state from the minute I woke up that came with me through every minute of every day dissipated as the week went on. The time & space I gave to the process made me know that fundamentally I was safe & secure.

I feel like I don't have to worry about whether I can face the day, I can roll better with whatever the day holds and I feel like time isn't waiting on me. I feel I am lead by my emotions not overwhelmed by them anymore. Rachael Nov 2019 ( I am happy to speak to prospective clients about it too!)

SSP

I found the whole process of doing the SSP easy and felt very well supported by you throughout. The hardest part was actually being open-minded enough to give it a try, even though I knew the science made sense.

I don’t really know what I was expecting to change as a result of doing the SSP but I have noticed many positive effects. I feel calmer now in a way that’s hard to describe and seem able to think more clearly. I have noticed that my thoughts aren’t so negative and I feel less tired.

I feel it’s been hugely valuable in my ongoing work of taking care of mental health and managing my responses to triggers and stress. Charlotte Nov 2019

SSP

In all honesty, I was a little sceptical about the SSP but willing to complete the programme and see what happened.

The trickiest part on days one and two was doing nothing and noticing how strange the filtered music sounded. Being so quiet is certainly odd but by day 3 I was keen to complete the challenge.

Whilst I didn’t notice an instant calmness, over the course of the following weeks since its completion I found I could focus more and remain calm in challenging situations.

In short, it’s easier to not sweat the small stuff now, so the benefits are positively affecting me directly, my relationships and my business. Michael Oct 2019

"Creeping up behind me was a wave that would overwhelm my state of mind, I knew I would lose control over my own life - an eating disorder was one manifestation - and depression would follow. With Jayne's help, I have learned what it was - the underlying problem. For me it was largely loneliness, starting from the distance from family and from being largely alone when raising young children. The patterns remained – many self-perpetuated - and I didn't realise how much it was hurting me. It was truly wonderful talking to Jayne whom I found to be a gifted, mature and very experienced guide out of the wilderness. I feel blessed our paths met. Clarity has been so empowering for me and I am now in control and every day I feel stronger. And when life happens, and storms brew, I know what to do to protect myself." KR

                                                                                                                             
"I wanted to say a massive thank you for everything you did and have helped me to achieve. Through your help and support, I have managed things I would never have dreamt of doing and my life is totally different and I am so much happier! The main reason for my email was to tell you the girl who was too scared to ever go for a coffee on her own is going travelling on her own, halfway around the world!!!!! I would be lying if I said I was not scared, I am terrified and excited but also so proud of myself and feel I owe so much to you and the amazing work you do.

"Thank you again for everything Jayne words cannot express how grateful I am to you.  You have enabled me to turn my life around!!!" R

"I honestly don't believe I'd be here if it weren't for you! 'Thank you' is not nearly enough" KN

"I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for the work that you did with Susan. She is now so much more confident and able to cope with so much more than she did a year to 18 months ago. I wish you all the best with the work that you're doing with everyone else. There are many professionals out there who could benefit a lot from listening to you. I wish you success and happiness and again, thank you so very much." P B

"Your help, kindness and support has been vital in helping me begin the road to a brighter future. The advice and life coaching has given me the tools and confidence to explore difficult issues and made me look to the future rather than live in a past of regrets. Thank you." C.S

"Jayne naturally made me feel comfortable, enabling me to successfully remove barriers that were holding me back. She is very professional and offers that extra special element of holistic support that I have not found elsewhere. I highly recommend Jayne as a coach to you. Thank you Jayne. :-)" K.C.

"You have been a tower of strength to me on many occasions and keep me going on my way to recovery" B

"Just wanted to thank you for the Coaching that you have given me over the past six months. I've come a long way, with your motivation and strategies!" A P

I just wanted to let you know what a difference coaching has made to my life and to my career. I’ll be back to explore my next steps. Thank You. JP

I’m not sure where I’d be if I hadn’t asked for your professional coaching. It’s empowering to not surrender yourself to someone but to be part of the process of change. I now know how capable I am, I have my own mind fit kit and I am using it. My new business is about to launch, thank you! EW

You were there when I felt so very lost. You patiently helped me see my possibilities. If anyone wanted to make a small or large life change, I’d suggest they speak to you first. JS

Jayne brought clarity and focus back to my life and I enjoyed working with her in a very peaceful environment; she is very perceptive and calming and very creative. My time spent with Jayne gave me the chance to stop and think about my values and what is important to me, what really matters and to make a positive change to my life. PJ