Elizabeth Holt. MAC. Emotional Health Coach & Educator.
Providing emotional understanding and support for overwhelmed professionals so that they can navigate their day to day with more clarity, calm, and confidence.
Elizabeth has over 20 years of coaching experience, specialising in emotional health. With proven success in the areas of emotion, anxiety, self-awareness, self-acceptance, and personal empowerment. Elizabeth works in an empowering and transformational way while providing a solution focussed integrative approach, utilising many modalities. Successfully guiding and supporting you from where you are now to where you want to be. Achieving empowering, transformational results.
Elizabeth has a varied diverse set of skills that together provide breakthrough coaching and transformational change. It is a brilliant toolkit of, life experience, Emotional intelligence, Applied Neuroscience & Brain Health, NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), EFT ( Advanced Emotional Freedom Techniques) Hypnotherapy, Coaching & professional qualifications. It is a powerful blend of skills and over 20 years of coaching experience - in both corporate and therapeutic settings. An excellent and winning toolkit that gets results!
Does this sound familiar?
- You know there has to be more to life.
- You feel as though you are living your whole life for other people, in your job, and at home.
- You feel emotional but don't really understand your emotions and often feel that you have no control over your emotions and feelings.
- You feel stuck, lack direction.
- You experience anxiety.
- You have an emotional block or blocks which hold you back.
- You are bored of hearing the same old story ruminating in your mind, which makes you believe that you can’t achieve what you would love to, or be the person that you want to be.
- You find yourself looking around at others and comparing yourself and your life.
- You lack self-belief.
- You know something has to change but you don't know what to do or how to.
If you answered yes, to any of the above, I am here I am to help you and it is no coincidence that you have found yourself here reading this. Now is the time for a change.
For a moment I invite you to imagine and consider how different your life would be if you really understood who you are, you felt empowered and you had total trust and belief in yourself?
How does that look, feel, and sound to you right now? Imagine really understanding yourself and your emotions, having the ability to enhance your self-awareness, to self-regulate, to build emotional resilience while learning about you, and developing your own emotional intelligence? How different do you feel now having thought about what is possible for you?
I am here ready to guide and support you. To help you understand yourself, to increase your self-awareness, to learn how to self-regulate while building your emotional resilience, and to develop your emotional intelligence.
Together we will remove those emotional blocks and limiting beliefs, we will break through any negative thought patterns to create your desired outcomes.
I am prepared to ask those tough questions to find out who you truly are, whilst holding a non-judgemental safe space for you. My approach is intuitive, person-centered, and solution-focused.
In return, I invite you to open your mind, be 100% committed, and trust in the process.
You will learn about yourself and your emotions and release anything that does not serve you.
All sessions are exclusively personalised to you as you are unique. Everyone else is taken and on their own journey. This is your journey and it is all about you as you are the most important person.
It really is a great privilege to be able to guide and support my clients, watching their personal transformations take place as their mindset shifts and grows through our professional and collaborative journey.
I work closely with each client to ensure that I understand their objectives and priorities. Each session has tangible benefits and includes science-backed tips that can be implemented to overcome obstacles and improve your day to day life and future goals.
I have included some of my client reviews at the bottom of this page for you to read. These reviews will give you an insight as to what you can expect from me as your coach and see the results and impact my coaching has had through the eyes and own words of my clients.
I understand that you are curious now and wondering how I can help you, so let's talk, take that first step to the new you, and contact me to schedule your complimentary 30-minute consultation phone call.
I look forward to speaking with you soon.
Training, qualifications & experience
Over 20 years of personal and corporate coaching experience. My professional background is management and leadership within the corporate environment, in both private and public sectors, specifically ICT support management and customer contact centres. Managing and transforming teams, training, leading, mentoring, and coaching teams and individuals to achieve and succeed both personally and professionally.
The reason why I achieve the results that I do with my clients is that I care, I understand, I really get it. I scratch beneath the surface while holding a secure, safe, non-judgmental space to go where I need to, to get you to where you want to be. It really can be quite a beautiful process as you release all that no longer serves you.
I work closely with each client to ensure that I understand their objectives and priorities. Each session results in tangible benefits and includes science-backed tips that can be implemented to overcome obstacles and improve your day to day life and future goals.
Certified in the following modalities; Life Coaching, NLP Trainer, NLP Master Practitioner, EFTMR Practitioner (Advanced Emotional Freedom Techniques) NLP Coaching, Youth Coaching, Business & Executive Coaching, Reiki Practitioner, Hypnotherapy Practitioner, and Applied Neuroscience and Brain Health.
Continuing Professional Development (CPD) is a priority for me to ensure that I am always up to date with the latest developments in the modalities with which I work with. In addition to this, I am currently studying the neuroscience of female health and working towards certification in this area.
I am a recognised full member of the Association for Coaching, Professional Member of ANLP. I have regular professional supervision and CPD as detailed above. I am always learning to enhance and develop my skills and professional qualifications. I believe once we stop learning we stop growing. Every day is a chance to change your life and be better than you were yesterday.
Association for Coaching
The Association for Coaching is one of the leading professional bodies for Coaches and Organisations.
The Association is made up of a number of different membership categories, e.g. Associate Member (AMAC), Member (MAC), Accredited Member (AC Accred), with the different categories standing for different levels of training and experience. Accredited Members have achieved a substantial level of training and experience approved by the Association.
The Association has a Code of Ethics & Good Practice and a Complaints Procedure.
The Association for NLP
The Association for Neuro Linguistic Programming (ANLP) is a UK Association for NLP Professionals.
Areas of coaching I deal with
Other areas of coaching I deal with
Specialities: Emotional Health / Emotional Intelligence / Emotional Resilience / EFT / Matrix Reimprinting / Emotional Freedom Techniques / Self acceptance / Self confidence / Emotional Awareness / Breakthrough Coaching / Anxiety Management / Silent Anxiety / Self Belief / Removal of Limiting Beliefs / Goal Setting / Neuro-Linguistic Programming / Performance Coach / Mindset Coach / Neuroscience / Brain Health & Well-being /Hypnotherapy / Youth Coach / Life Coach / Corporate Coaching / Staff Coaching / Emotional well-being.
An initial 30-minute complimentary zoom consultation is offered prior to accepting new clients.
I believe that one size does not fit all when it comes to coaching. We are unique individuals who have different needs and objectives. For this reason, my packages are bespoke and tailored exclusively to the individual needs of my clients.
For your convenience sessions are available remotely via Zoom, and also in-person at my private consulting room.
In my experience, online sessions are equally as effective as in-person sessions. This means distance has no barrier and the choice is yours.
Contact me to discuss and/or to arrange your complimentary 30-minute Zoom consultation.
Access to Elizabeth's calendar to book your complimentary telephone consultation is available via this link; calendly.com/elizabethholtcoaching
* For Corporate / Staff coaching: Contact me to discuss your requirements.
I look forward to talking with you very soon.
Reviews / kind words from clients.
Here is a sample of what my coaching clients have had to say about their experience working with me...
I was introduced to Elizabeth through a close friend and was not sure what to expect at first. I’m in my mid-thirties and looked at my life and realised I had reached a crossroads. Why am I single? Why don’t I have children yet? Will I ever meet anyone? Why do I obsess about men when they don’t want to be in a relationship with me? Why me? Why is my life so pointless? What do I want to do next with my life? Can I cope alone? A few of the questions that went around in my head daily. I had previously had counselling that focussed on my feelings but this time I wanted to explore why I felt the way I did.
Within my first 30 mins free introductory call with Elizabeth I knew she was the one that could help me explore my thoughts and get a better understanding of who I am and why I felt the way I did. We started with a few zoom video calls due to Covid then were able to have them face to face, her room in Rickmansworth is the perfect environment to feel like you’re having a casual chat with a friend. Elizabeth has a great way to make you feel comfortable being yourself and you can instantly trust her with any thoughts – and I mean those thoughts where you think you are crazy and can’t share with anyone. There is zero judgment from Elizabeth, she lets the flow of conversation lead to places you may not even know it may lead to but much needed.
At the start, I answered a few questions and sent them to Elizabeth before we started our 6 sessions together. Before my last session, I had a look through my answers and can honestly say I don’t recognise the person who answered, she seemed depressed and just had zero excitement for life but now after having honest and open conversations with Elizabeth I have finally reached a place where I have self-empowerment and I’m looking forward to what’s ahead.
We covered various areas that I didn’t even know I needed to discuss – from family to a fear of spiders which I never even knew was there. I’m not deluded and I know I can’t control everything in life but Elizabeth has given me the tools to know how to control my thoughts when I usually would overreact and now I ask myself if those thoughts are serving me any purpose? If not, I no longer dwell but focus on what I want from life from seeing friends, family to having a lazy Sunday recharging my batteries and knowing it’s okay to do that.
A huge thank you to Elizabeth, couldn’t recommend her enough!!!! Be open and honest and working with Elizabeth will be the best thing for you!
I find Elizabeth very helpful, easy to talk to, got me through a tough time.
Working with Elizabeth has made me feel empowered - she spoke to me in a way that made me realise I'm OK to be me. I'm not stupid, I'm not crazy I am me and that's enough. I'm not in a race against anyone else, it's my journey and I'm doing exactly what I should be doing at this point in my life. I realised that I'm actually proud of myself. Thank you for everything.
I went to see Elizabeth after 2 major events in my life - being made redundant and then a few weeks later, the death of a parent. I was stunned, numb, and had hit a very big brick wall, my emotions were all over the place. I knew I didn’t want to go on feeling or acting the way I’d always done as nothing was changing and I was really unhappy and frustrated with life. Elizabeth helped me make sense of my thinking, slowly gave me back my confidence and showed me the way to take control of my life and stop letting others steer my path. Elizabeth is amazing and I can’t say exactly how she does it but she tidied up my brain, rearranged my thinking and put it back on a brighter path. There were weeks where I had a wobble but she showed me this was normal, I wasn’t a robot and having emotions, even if they might seem strange to me, were actually OK – I was OK, I was a good and normal human being. I will always be grateful to Elizabeth for that, she’s a lovely person, non-judgemental in every way and has a great sense of humour. If you have a problem – Go see her! She will help you get to where you need to go. Thanks Elizabeth
I have just completed 6 sessions with Elizabeth, and I feel so much better, I was suffering for anxiety, drinking too much alcohol, and having nightmares.
Now my sessions are complete I feel so much better, my anxiety is under control, so is my drinking and nightmares, and I value myself as a person.
Elizabeth is really easy to work with, she makes you feel really comfortable, and able to talk about anything, and a very nice person.
If anyone knows about the expression hearts and mind, it easy to win someone mind, but winning their heart is a much bigger task, Elizabeth wins your heart.
Thank you Elizabeth for all your help and support xx
- Carol M
Elizabeth is the most amazing coach, I felt like I had come to a crossroads in my life and she gave me some amazing tips and ways to overcome this. Even just after 3 sessions I now feel back on track thanks to her, she is an incredible coach, so approachable and friendly. Thank you so much.
Putting it simply... She saved my life.
I was contemplating the worst, not talking to anyone and shutting myself away from everything. She gave me the tools I needed to save it, and always went above and beyond what I had ever experienced or expected from someone. You can't put a price on that...
She's always right ;)
"One of the most amazing people and coaches on this planet. No one more committed and dedicated to those who choose to make positives change in their life. Pleasure and treat to know her!"
"When I first spoke to Elizabeth I had hit rock bottom and never thought I’d emerge from feeling so completely sad and hopeless but with in a matter of months she helped me to regain my confidence and navigate me back to where I was before the darkest moments and feel an even better version of myself. I have seen many therapists but Elizabeth is the only one who really and truly got me. I can’t recommend her highly enough. Thank you for all your help!!"
- Zoe, Radlett.
So, I've had some issues, I'm over 40, my confidence and self esteem were cracked and fragile to say the least. To me, it was just life, I got on with it. I smiled when I needed to, and faced the dark lonely side of my world when no could see me or my sadness.
I was kind of recommended to speak to Elizabeth by over hearing a conversation with a colleague who Elizabeth had helped. To me it was something akin to fate, in all the places at this time of my life, I hear that conversation.
I called Elizabeth and I lightly touched on the easier parts of my issues during the consultation. I was very impressed with how much attention she paid and how seriously she took my well being, so I signed up to some sessions.
From the very get go, due to her calm, and caring nature, I found myself in Elizabeth's absolutely compelling ability to extract the information out of me that has been buried so very deeply and that I have been so very desperately trying to understand myself. It was emotional for me, emotions I never knew I had anymore, by the end of each session I felt what I can only describe waves of euphoria as I could and can finally see the world through my eyes that I never knew existed for me.
Elizabeth shared some 'tools' and techniques which I have been using to help me, and I feel so very differently about myself. I am able to smile at myself, I am able to feel good about myself, I am able to know that another person could like me, enjoy my company and enjoy just being around me. I can engage and interact with people without feeling useless and pointless.
My outlook and view has completely changed, Eizabeth Holt has truly changed my life and I so very very grateful, for now I can live my life feeling purposeful and positive. Maybe I will still experience some days that are lower than others, but I know now how to change the way I think, re-assess and see a different perspective.
- Daniel, Oxfordshire
"I owe my life to Elizabeth. I was suffering from emotional problems that had caused Depression and Panic attacks and severe OCD. I had to walk away from the place where I had worked for 15 years. My wife had ostracised me as she could no longer cope with my issues and that led my children to abandon me. My best friend of 15 years who I had trusted like a brother and looked to for support became fearful of me. I was in a terrible place made worse by the fact I had no one to turn to for guidance and support. And then I was introduced to Elizabeth. I was very scared and apprehensive about opening up and talking about my problems. I thought she would also think that I was 'mad' and walk away from me in fear.
However as I began to talk to Elizabeth, my fears about opening up and describing my issues were cast aside. She was truly 'non-judgemental' and never flinched at anything I recounted. There were times that I repeated myself over and over again but she never complained, she was never frustrated or bored, she was always truly in the moment when we had our consultations. Over time I began to heal and all of my symptoms disappeared, I regained my life, my confidence returned and I was happy again. Elizabeth had been the rock who I relied upon and was responsible for my transformation. I could not fathom how this transformation occurred and it was only when I read the following (quote from 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle) that I understood how I was healed by Elizabeth.
".......If you are fortunate enough to find someone who is intensely conscious, if you can be with them and join them in the state of presence, that can be helpful and will accelerate things. In this way your own light will quickly grow stronger. When a log that has only just started to burn is placed next to one that is burning fiercely, and after a while they are separated again, the first log will be burning with much greater intensity........" To be such a fire is one of the functions of a healer."
- Josh, Middlesex
"I approached Elizabeth as I was so concerned for my daughter and I didn't know what else I could do to help and the situation was becoming worse. My daughter is 15 years old and according to the hospital she was suffering from Anxiety and Depression and they wanted her to take anti depression tablets a path I really didn't want my daughter to go down. She would never go out even to the corner shop, could not make friends and would follow me everywhere including room to room in the house. She always seemed sad and would often cry when she thought I was not looking.
All I wanted was for her to be a carefree teenager, have friends, go out and most of all be happy and be herself like she is when she's with me. My daughter was very nervous to meet with Elizabeth but she understood and wanted to change and be happy. Elizabeth met with my daughter and they went for coffee so it was kept informal to make my daughter more comfortable. I wasn't expecting a miracle and I thought it would take a while for my daughter to open up because she is so shy and nervous. When they come back my daughter seemed different like a light had been turned on behind her eyes, I know that sounds strange but it’s the only way I can describe it. I asked how it went and she said really good and asked if she could see Elizabeth again, which surprised me as she is so shy and doesn't like to talk about how she feels.
The next day my daughter's behaviour had changed she seemed brighter and happier, even family members who didn't know she had met Elizabeth the day before were asking what's happened and how different she seemed. At her next hospital visit to see the psychologist they even asked what's changed and noticed how different she was. My daughter met with Elizabeth again and the change was evident, afterwards I asked my daughter how it went and she replied we talk and Elizabeth helps me to think differently about things.
My daughter now goes out has friends and I haven't seen her cry since, it is like Elizabeth turned the lights on in her head her and her personality shines through. She's happy which in return I'm happy, I can not believe the difference in her Elizabeth helped us so much and I believe changed her future. Elizabeth's style is amazing, she's easy to talk to, listens and is non judgemental which I feel has impacted on the outcome as my daughter finds it hard to talk, I was also concerned about my daughter discussing such personal details with someone but I shouldn't have been. Elizabeth is kind, approachable and has such a talent for making you rethink things and changing behaviours.
We can not thank Elizabeth enough for what she has done for us."
"I met Elizabeth a few years ago and feel truly blessed that I met her when I did. Elizabeth coached me through a breakthrough session and the results were truly life changing. Before I met her, I was struggling with confidence and self worth and with Elizabeth's guidance and support, I left the session with a new lease of life! I have had subsequent sessions with Elizabeth over the years, all with remarkable results, and I wouldn't hesitate to recommend her services to anyone. Elizabeth works in such a supportive and strengthening way. She has an emotional intelligence that allows her to cut through the rubbish and to focus on what the issue really is all the while holding space and being non-judgemental. She has an empathy and compassion for others that is just amazing. I can't thank her enough for the support and tools she has given me."
- Lisa Bristol
"Before seeing Elizabeth I had a severe mental barrier when it came to my dietary habits. This stemmed from issues I had from when I was a baby. I was unable to eat or even try vegetables and fruit, my body would physically reject it before I had even eaten it. I would gag at the smell of vegetables, throw up if I tried to force them down and it had been this way for as long as I could remember. Going out for food was a nightmare, I had to order food plain all the time so I could eat without issue and would always be questioned for my food choices. This would also affect those I was with, having to consider my dietary habits when considering what/where to eat.
I needed to be able to eat freely without restriction, not only to allow me to be more flexible when eating socially but also for health reasons. Being someone who competes in Powerlifting, diet is a massive factor of this and not having a balanced diet was starting to limit my progression. I needed to be able to consume a healthy balanced diet and get the nutrition I needed.
Since Seeing Elizabeth this is exactly what I am able to do, it was like she picked the mental lock to the door that I was unable to open myself. Not eating Fruit or Vegetables for basically all of my life, I obviously don’t really know what ones I do or do not like but I now have the freedom to try them, without the mental barriers that had held me back for 22 years. I am very excited at the chance to discover new foods and taste things for the first time, i can now do this freely and at my own pace. This was a massive weight that got lifted off my shoulders and I couldn’t of done it without Elizabeth.
The session that I had with Elizabeth was very relaxed and I felt very comfortable, upon completing the session I could feel the difference right away and I hadn’t even tried to eat anything at that point but knew I would no longer have an issue. After the session I ate kale for the first time without any issue.
I recommended Elizabeth to a family member of mine as she really is a miracle worker and I had nothing but a positive experience with her."
"I went to see Elizabeth when I was suffering with Anxiety. At this point I was very low, worried about going out & scared to eat or drink anything. I had been to my GP, to see if there was anything physically wrong with me, who suggested I take tablets to help calm my nerves - a route I really didn't want to go down! I had recently helped a family member through their anxiety so I knew how bad it could get if I just left it. I didn't know what else to do and this is when a friend told me how Elizabeth had helped her.
I was very nervous about speaking with someone but Elizabeth was so kind and reassuring I felt I could open up to her. When I went to the meeting, I felt as if my problem was really silly and people would think I'm crazy. Again Elizabeth made me feel at ease and didn't judge me.
We talked through my problem step-by-step, Elizabeth found the issue and changed the way I thought about it. I couldn't believe how well she understood and after 1 meeting I felt much more confident!
I am very happy with my progress which is all down to Elizabeth and her techniques. I am very grateful to Elizabeth in getting me back to 'me'! I would recommend her in a heartbeat."
I had a few sessions with Elizabeth and it changed my perspective of life completely. After the 30 minute consultation call I felt lighter. She truly is amazing and I can't thank her enough for what she has done for me and my confidence.
"I spend half of the year living in southern Spain in a small village which has quite a high retired ex-pat community, as such it is all too easy to succumb to the drink culture. Just going for a walk with the intention of half an hours exercise can result in bumping into friends sitting in the sun outside a bar, one can be very easily be tempted to stop for a quick glass! All too soon, I found I was drinking far too much white wine! When I started to get leg cramps I decided enough was enough.
I contacted Elizabeth as I had heard what fantastic results she was achieving using NLP, (although to be honest I was extremely sceptical) as I am not normally a person who is susceptible to the power of suggestion.
As I was in Spain Elizabeth agreed to undertake the consultation via Skype.
The session lasted approximately 40 minutes, at the end of the session Elizabeth asked me to pour myself a glass of wine, to my utter amazement I really didn't want to do this and when she asked me to take a sip I was utterly repelled at the thought of it. The consultation was in March 2015 and to this day I have not drunk or wanted to drink white wine. If anyone had told me that a 45 minute NLP session could change my life, I would never have believed it.
Elizabeth isn't just an NLP counsellor, she is extraordinary, anyone can train to be a counsellor but with her it's as if she has found her vocation in life! She seems to have a special gift and is so committed to helping people. I cannot thank her enough for helping me.
A truly satisfied client!".
Elizabeth brings humour and wise counsel to her coaching practice. Her gift is to dig deeply into unhelpful thought patterns, and help you challenge the beliefs which keep you stuck. I enjoyed my sessions with her and came away with some practical tools which I am putting into practice.
- Lisa W,
"I didn't know who I was or where I was going in my career or in my life. I always felt so unhappy but didn't know why or how to change. Elizabeth believed in me and gave me confidence until I found confidence in myself. Since working with Elizabeth I have changed my job and I am in a healthy happy relationship and life is great. I know if I hadn't met Elizabeth my life would not be how it is now. I have found me and I like me actually, no I love me! Thank you thank you and thank you again Elizabeth for being you!"
"Elizabeth is a lovely professional down to earth lady she is so easy to talk to. You can have a good cry and a good giggle with her not once did she make me feel stupid in the way that I had been feeling.
Elizabeth helped me look at situations so differently and that was just after one session. Elizabeth made me see that worrying about every aspect of life was very exhausting and how easy it is with the right words and encouragement you can change your mindset!
Elizabeth has helped me in a tricky time of my life and I am very grateful to have met her. I wouldn't have any problems recommending her to any of my friends or family".
When I had my first session with Elizabeth, I was in despair, I've battled with anxiety for years with times where it's just been in the background and other times when it's been all consuming. This time around it had arrived at a point in my life where everything was wonderful, I had an amazing relationship with my husband, we were in a good place financially, I had a job I enjoyed and was looking forward to my life for the first time in so long.
Then I started to get anxiety attacks everytime I left our house, I was struggling to get through a day at work, I was panicking any time I had to travel but more so when my husband wasn't with me. I couldn't stand in a queue or sit in a cafe, without getting very anxious. I couldn't go to meetings at work unless I was sat by a door, and could leave at any time. I couldn't be in a crowded room or have lots of people near me I couldn't travel off site at work or travel by public transport. I couldn't go out for day trips or shopping because of it. Physically I couldn't breathe and the need to empty my bladder was painful and constant. Every moment I was away from home, was terrifying and a trial to be endured and ended as quickly as possible. I was tired, comfort eating, on edge all the time and my poor husband bearing the brunt.
I struggled for a year before Elizabeth and I thought I'd got a handle on it when I did manage to achieve a dream of seeing my fav band in the world - I'd waited 25 years to see them and I thought if I could make it through the gig, I'd be better. I did make it through the gig and then a week later I was back to square 1 and on a downward spiral and getting worse.
It was my husband who found Elizabeth, based on a testimony by client of hers. The best thing about Elizabeth? I could do it one on one through video conference - I cried with relief at this. Of all the coaches listed, she was the only one who would and could do it via video link. This was a deciding factor as it meant I didn't have to deal with the stress of trying to travel and then worrying about the journey back. It meant I could go into the session more relaxed and open and more focused.
I can honestly say from the first session things started to improve. We talked about what I was dealing with and how it made me feel and where I wanted to be. It helps that Elizabeth has been through anxiety herself and come out the other side. So when she said, " I understand how you feel" -for me she really did!
We had just 6 sessions in all and my progress has been and continues to be amazing. I wouldn't have believed I could make such progress so fast and it didn't make any difference that Elizabeth wasn't physically in the room with me.
Elizabeth has given me the tools I needed. From breathing techniques, to advice on how to deal with my anxious feelings, to other tools and techniques to use. All of these and more have changed my life. I am now managing my anxiety and controlling it - I'm no longer suffering with it.
I have started working full days again at the office, I'm having meals out with my husband again and enjoying browsing in a shop. I had to travel to a 2 day meeting with an overnight stay in a dodgy hotel and have dinner with 20 slightly drunk engineers in a town I hadn't been to and travelling with someone I didn't know well. This was unthinkable before Elizabeth - if I'm honest, this would have sent me into a meltdown before with me finding any excuse not to go and then feeling guilty about it . However I did go and had a good time despite the dodgy hotel.
I've now got on a bus and sent a selfie to Elizabeth of myself and the driver, to remind me of how far I've come, I've been on a trip to a wildlife park, attended a party with friends and in the last couple of weeks sat through 2 all day conference with 200 other people. I'm sleeping through the night and finally started to reduce my medication.
Life is improving day by day and it has been noticed by friends and colleagues how much calmer I am and I'm starting to pick up my hobbies again and I'm looking at learning to drive, and beginning to plan holidays away. All of this was unimaginable at the start of the year.
If someone suffers in a similar way to how I did (see how I phrased that - mindfulness at work!) it is extremely difficult to get help. I've had numerous conversations with health care professionals over the years and trying to explain to them that travelling to them was difficult for me because I was a borderline agoraphobic and it wasn't taken seriously. It seemed to be that if I wanted help, then I would have to get to them but, that was the issue!
I couldn't have got this far without Elizabeth - I can almost hear her saying " You did all the hard work, I just gave you the tools" however, I can't thank her enough for all her wise words and coaching and the fact I wasn't physically at her location made no difference in how she helped me.
"So, I should start by saying thank you for giving us our son back...
Now, I know how incredibly corny and clichéd that sounds; but if you compare the quiet, pale and tired boy who walked into the session (and subsequently placed himself as far away from Elizabeth as was physically possible and barely let himself breathe let alone talk to her) with OUR lively, vibrant confident boy who danced back out (literally ‘dabbing’ and ‘flossing’ like any 10 year-old of this decade who’s worth their salt!), giggling and chatting away to Elizabeth like he’d known her forever, then you’ll get an idea of where I’m coming from.
Couple this with the fact that I’m writing this fresh from the first uninterrupted night of sleep our household has seen in over a week and I’m sure you’ll see my opening line is no hyperbole
Our son’s ‘issue’ was (see Elizabeth I’m putting it in the past where it belongs ;) ) that he had periods when he felt that he couldn’t swallow and then subsequently couldn’t breathe - we initially took him to an Ear, Nose and Throat specialist thinking it was a physical issue; they ruled out anything serious and gave a few suggestions of what may be causing it along with some sprays etc to soothe his throat.
Almost a year then went by with several periods of this problem presenting itself, we were able to get him through these ourselves, but we noticed that the frequency and level of these was escalating and started to realise that there were some triggers for these events...
At this point I think it’s worth saying that where we’re from ‘coaching’ or getting help for anxiety issues isn’t really a thing... you are much more likely to be encouraged to ‘man up’ or ‘crack on’ than seek any kind of help for issues that are not physical.
Having had the assistance of Elizabeth personally in the past, she was the first person I thought of when I realised that our son was struggling with more than what we could help him with so I made the call...
From the very moment I did there was such tremendous relief; for my husband and I as we knew help was on it’s way - but most importantly for our son, who for the first time in months was presented with a way out of the anxiety loop he had found himself in.
I told Elizabeth that the night I told him the appointment was made he went to sleep with a smile for the first time in ages and she summed it up by saying ‘because you’ve given him hope - hope that he can overcome this...’ - surely as a parent we can’t ask for more?
Anyway, this is turning into an epic tale and I’m sure you’re thinking ‘OK ‘Margaret’ from ‘London’ - we get that the pizza was the best you ever tasted and you only got 1 free slice for writing such an ‘honest’ review - but please get on with it...’ so I’ll try to summarise the session briefly!
Through the whole process our son was given control; whether we stayed, whether we waited outside, whether he talked, cried, laughed or flushed things down the loo (!!!) - all under his control...
Elizabeth not only got to the root of his issues, but gave him actual real-life techniques to manage himself should the issues reoccur; but she did such a good job of ‘flushing his worries away’ that I doubt he’ll need them... !!
Elizabeth then gave us the tools we would need to support him as parents; using some really simple yet astonishingly effective techniques that were demonstrated before our eyes.
Elizabeth was patient, engaging and non-judgmental and we’ll never be able to thank her enough for putting the smile back on our son’s face.
So... that’s a YES from us...".
Kelly - Middlesex
"I went to see Elizabeth to help me work on my confidence and to get some help to better cope with a very busy and stressful time at work. Very quickly Elizabeth was able to help me with some techniques that I could apply straight away. She helped me work on my confidence which improved very quickly, all I needed was a little help from her to get it out. I can really tell the difference after our sessions, it’s just what I needed and I’m happier overall thanks to her help. I would definitely recommend her and I’m sure I’ll be back next time I get ‘stuck’.
Thanks again for your help! I loved our conversations!".
- Lucia Middlesex
I cannot thank Elizabeth enough for the help she has given me in such a short time.
I came to Elizabeth in desperate need to help me with my anxiety and panic attacks that I was having on a regular basis. This was all due to a fear of eating and choking on my food.
I have had a battle for 15 years with my fear of eating, I've tried so many things to help and nothing has helped me until I was recommended Elizabeth by another friend. She has taught me how to have a positive mind, talk to myself positively, understand the thought process and the triggers for anxiety and panic attack. I now have full control of this and it feels amazing, I am making very positive changes in my life removing the negativity and old habits.
I had sessions with Elizabeth once a week for around 7 weeks and I did find that I had to almost ween myself off her because I didn't think I had the strength and courage to do it alone but, I know that she will be there if I need her and I am going to still remain doing one session a month to keep my strength going.
My life has been changed for the better now, anxiety doesn’t rule me any more I rule anxiety and would recommend anyone struggling with this to see Elizabeth. "
- Sam, Middlesex
“ My anxiety, before coming to Elizabeth, was at a point where I thought nothing could help. I was having multiple panic attacks everyday, I stopped going to school for a few weeks, I didn’t even leave the house. It felt like my whole life had fallen apart completely. I thought I was stuck in that state forever.
I began sessions with Elizabeth weekly, finding each week brought a little more progress towards my “battle” with anxiety. I had to be patient, but it was all worth it. Elizabeth helped me figure out the best coping mechanisms for me, and we talked through all my problems and fears until we found solutions for each one.
My anxiety is better now, If I have little dips I can think of what Elizabeth has taught me to get through them. I couldn’t have gotten this far without her.”
Thank you so much :)
I have known Elizabeth for a few years. We studied together and her passion for helping others shines through. She is always looking to expand her knowledge and she is constantly challenging and helping me in even the briefest of chats! I would recommend working with Elizabeth to anyone wanting to take control an charge over their emotional wellness.
- Gail, Surrey.
It started with my anxiety I feel a long time ago when I was young, in my early teens. I didn't realise what it was and how to cope with it when situations arose, so how I handled it was to "Man-Up" and just brush it away and get on with things. I was young, I didn't know why my head was thinking the things it was but I just got on with it. I was bullied for the majority of my secondary school years which did not have a nice impact on my confidence and self worth. I wasn't a "naughty" teenager, I admit I was lazy but I never did drugs and had a very supportive family and still do. I would meet up with friends occasionally and hang out, play video games is mostly what I enjoyed to do. It was only when I began to do things I wanted to do did it waver slightly. I started going to the gym alot in my a-levels and in that time developed hobbies that I enjoyed for me.
These good habits began to wither away the older I got, and bit by bit I began to bottle up thoughts about everything, from "bad" social encounters that at the time I believed, to insecurities to constant self-bullying and destruction of my self worth. These thoughts convinced me that I was someone I was not and made myself believe all these horrible things I was telling myself for no reason.
I found excuses not to go out socially, even with my best friends. I would fixate on problems that may not have even existed, spiralling my head out of control. This could be something as simple as is there a toilet there?
Sometimes these experiences would result in me questioning whether I was also any fun being out with people. In a group conversation, if I said something and the group shortly after went quiet or the conversation ended, that would be my night done. I would fixate on that experience, analysing every single small aspect of that and pick away at myself everything wrong about me with it. I would often think of myself as the 'grey man' in the corner that no one would remember or care for. This would then spiral again to lead me to believe I was worthless and what was the point of me being in this world?
These experiences started off few and far between at first, but they sky rocketed out of control when I first went down to University at 22. Before heading down to Uni, I was never a party head, I enjoyed staying in playing on my computer. Being at Uni, there were far more occasions where I would feel like I should be going out to fit in. I would constantly look at people laughing, having a good time and wonder why I wasn't so at ease and able to just enjoy myself. I would over-analyse everyone's reactions to me and if one "negative" thing happened, I would put myself down and feel like no one liked me and I was worthless.
The combination of all this caused me to want to isolate myself in my uni room and skip classes and put on a lot of weight. This led to my first panic attack in an exam where I froze for an hour before walking out. I then realised I needed to leave so headed home and left the uni behind me.
In the years after uni I did some pub work which got me back into great shape, regularly going gym and having to talk to strangers constantly but not in a social encounter and my thoughts and feelings about myself were more manageable. I still isolated myself a little and was not kind to myself, however again I brushed all this aside and didn't speak about it to anyone. I found an amazing woman and enjoyed spending dates, going on adventures and good times together.
I then left a year later and headed into the corporate world in my first "real" job and felt so excited. However, my good habits of gym and eating well subsided, causing me to gain weight again. I was happy there at first, but the longer life went on, I started to worry about everything. I would doubt myself at every opportunity, worry that I wasn't any good both in my job and in my relationship and friendships. That I was boring, that I was ugly, that no one would care if I just curled up and died. I now started to hate my job. I found myself in a horrible dark place, worse than uni. I was contemplating ways how to escape this world without tormenting my family with tragedy. Something inside knew I needed help still though. So I confided in my boss who was incredibly understanding and gave me everything I needed to try get me back on track to treating myself with kindness and learning. The professional I saw for therapy was lovely and kind however didn't quite gel with myself and so I kind of still plodded along, thinking I was getting better but wasn't still addressing my issues head on.
I then found a new job, my current one still, where my partner works and thought this is a new start. I picked up myself again briefly thinking all was ok, however just 2 months into my new job it hit me again, and hit me like a truck. I bottled up every emotion about every aspect of my life and found myself back in the horrible darkest place as before thinking the absolute worst. I tried to quit my job, I split from my partner, thinking I would just find somewhere to curl up and leave this place, but my boss was (and still is) the best boss I have ever had and was incredibly supportive. That's when they recommended me to someone who is always right - Elizabeth Holt :)
I began very quiet, I was scared, I still didn't see any purpose to my life or even trying. I isolated myself completely in my room away from everyone and didn't speak, barely washed or took care of myself, I saw no purpose to getting out of bed. I would tell myself I was trying, but really I wasn't. Elizabeth was extremely patient and constantly challenged all my 'beliefs' I had been telling my self all my life. I told her to be tough on me... and that she was, while at no point feeling like I was being ridiculed or judged. She gave me small tasks and goals as a stepping stone to becoming a better version of myself like buying a new water bottle to hydrate better, going on walks. I began to open up about thoughts that I had never spoken to anyone ever about in my life, but that I thought had defined me until now. Mid-way through the sessions (5-7) I began to feel free after leaving, like this huge black cloud over me dissipating that had been throwing on me all these beliefs and behaviours that convinced me of who I was, and I began to critique my thoughts to be kinder to myself. I was going on frequent walks, went back to the gym, opened up more to my partner and began allowing myself to improve, whereas before I felt like I wasn't allowed to get better and improve, that I was to be miserable for the rest of my life.
I would say that if it wasn't for Elizabeth I wouldn't be alive today being able to tell my story, I know that (yes Elizabeth I know what your going to say!) it was myself that did the improving and challenged myself to become the best version of myself, I just never had any of these tools I have now that Elizabeth taught me to use.
After finishing my sessions with Elizabeth I felt like I had everything I needed and could do this and become the best I could be. I've gotten back with my partner and are now excited about our future together, not just for us but for myself. I continue to improve upon myself each and everyday and after seeing Elizabeth I know I could never ever go back to being in that dark place I once was. I know that some days will be lower than others, but that is ok, and I learn from these emotions when they arise and challenge myself to learn more about my mind.