Elizabeth Holt - Emotional Health Coach. MAC NLPMP NLPT EFTMR
Your guide on your journey from where you are now to where you want to be. Professional Emotional Health Practitioner & Consultant Elizabeth successfully supports and coaches adults and young people and achieves transformational results by changing lives through minds.
Elizabeth specialises in Emotional Health and has a varied diverse set of skills that together provide breakthrough coaching and transformational change. It is a brilliant toolkit of; Life experience, Intuition, Applied Neuroscience & Brain Health,EFT, NLP, Hypnotherapy, Coaching & professional qualifications. A powerful blend of skills and experience - an excellent and winning toolkit that gets results!
Emotional Health Coaching - Sessions are available online for your convenience or, in-person - Both are equally as effective so the choice is yours!
Are you feeling stuck? Do you suffer with anxiety? Is there an emotional block holding you back? Are you are fed up of hearing the same old story in your head as to why you can’t achieve what you want to or be the person you want to be? Do you want your life to be different? Do you want to understand and learn how to make anxiety work for you rather than against you? Would you love to understand you - your emotions, your triggers, to have self awareness, to self regulate and allow yourself to heal old emotions that no longer serve you?
So let me ask you to consider this, what if you could be the best version of you and live your best life? How does that look, feel and sound to you right now? Imagine really understanding yourself and your emotions, having the ability to enhance your self awareness, develop your emotional resilience and self regulate. How different do you feel now just thinking about what is possible for you?
Are you ready to dare to dream and to let go of everything that has ever held you back?
Yes? Then I am ready to guide you through this. Together we will remove those blocks and limiting beliefs, break through any negative thought patterns to create your desired outcomes.
I am prepared to ask those tough questions to find out who you truly are. My approach is intuitive, person centred and solution focused.
In return, I invite you to be 100% committed and that is when the magic starts to happen.
You will discover the best version of you and together we will design the life you love. My coaching is exclusively personalised to you as you are unique. Everyone else is taken and on their own journey. This is your journey, your life! Our time together is all about you!
It really is a great privilege to be able to guide and support my clients watching the transformations take place as their mindset shifts and grow through our professional and collaborative journey.
I specialise in Emotional Health - Helping you to understand your emotions, to have self awareness, build your emotional resilience, social awareness and relationship management.
I also have great success in helping clients to manage anxiety.
When you understand your own emotions, life takes on a whole new level of understanding in yourself and in others.
Are you are fed up of telling yourself the same old story as to why you can’t move forward? If you are ready to dare to dream of how you at your best living your best life feels, looks and sounds like then I invite you to take the first step of your journey right now. Let’s talk – contact me and schedule your complementary 30-minute consultation phone call.
Youth Coaching is a branch of Life Coaching which provides wonderful, invaluable, impartial support and guidance to youths. My intention is to provide impartial trustworthy support without judgement to your child. So that they can overcome challenges, understand their emotions, manage stress and anxiety, and importantly to develop their own emotional resilience. Resilient children are those who resist adversity, manage to cope with uncertainty and are able to recover successfully and thrive.
My Private Youth Coaching sessions are tailored to the specific needs of the child and family. That means that the child receives one on one support, attention and guidance and that the sessions are designed specifically for the child.
Private Youth Coaching sessions also provide the opportunity for children to share and explore things of a more sensitive or personal nature - things that they may feel embarrassed about or uncomfortable discussing.
Some examples may include;
- Fears, worries and anxiety
- Low self-esteem/self-worth
- Understanding and managing emotions
- Discovering their true potential
- Setting and achieving goals
- Discussing difficult issues
- Family breakdown or divorce
Now that you are wondering the many ways that I can help the child you have in mind, contact me to arrange your free 30 minute consultation. *DBS checked.
Corporate Coaching & Consulting.
Another area of my expertise is staff coaching. For the past 20 years I have managed, lead, developed and transformed individuals and teams in the workplace through my coaching to not only meet but to exceed targets and increase customer satisfaction.
When you build a coaching culture in the workplace it means that not only are you developing your Leaders, you are also empowering your Leaders to guide and support your employees. NLP is powerful and is as equally effective in business as it is in personal therapy. When you combine coaching and NLP you build a culture which emphasises continuous communication, feedback and learning to maximise potential which promotes a healthy, valued, motivated and supported working environment.
Get in touch today to see how I can make a difference to your business too through staff coaching.
Training, qualifications & experience
Over 20 years personal and business coaching experience. My professional background is Management and Leadership within the corporate environment in both Private and Public sectors - specifically Customer Contact Centres and ICT Support Management. Managing and transforming teams, training, leading, mentoring and coaching individuals to achieve and succeed both on a personal and team level.
Certified in the following modalities; Trainer of NLP, NLP Master Practitioner, EFTMR Practitioner, Coaching, NLP Coaching, Hypnotherapy Practitioner and Applied Neuroscience and Brain Health.
A recognised full member of the Association for Coaching, Professional Member of ANLP
Areas of coaching I deal with
Other areas of coaching I deal with
Specialities: Emotional Health / Emotional Intelligence / Emotional Resilience / EFT / Matrix Reimprinting / Emotional Freedom Techniques / Emotional Awareness / Breakthrough Coaching / Anxiety Management / Silent Anxiety / Self Belief / Removal of Limiting Beliefs / Goal Setting / Neuro-Linguistic Programming / Performance Coach / Mindset Coach / Neuroscience / Brain Health & Well-being /Hypnotherapy / Youth Coach / Life Coach / Corporate Coaching / Staff Coaching / Emotional well-being.
An initial 30 minute complementary telephone consultation is offered prior to Elizabeth taking new clients. Elizabeth believes that one size does not fit all when it comes to coaching and that we are unique individuals who have different needs and objectives. For this reason Elizabeth's packages are bespoke and tailored exclusively to the individual needs of her clients.
Elizabeth works closely with each client to ensure that she understands their objectives and priorities. Each session results in tangible benefits and includes science backed tips that can be implemented to overcome obstacles and improve your day to day life and future goals.
For your convenience sessions are available online via Zoom and in person at one of Elizabeth's Consulting Rooms which are located in Rickmansworth, Hertfordshire and Uxbridge, Middlesex
In Elizabeth's experience online sessions are equally as effective as in-person sessions which means distance is no barrier as Elizabeth works worldwide so, it really is your choice.
Contact Elizabeth to discuss and or to arrange your complementary 30 minute telephone consultation.
Access to Elizabeth's calendar to book your complementary telephone consultation is available via this link; calendly.com/elizabethholtcoaching
* For Corporate / Staff coaching: Contact Elizabeth to discuss your requirements.
A sample of what some of my coaching clients have had to say about their experience of my coaching...
"One of the most amazing people and coaches on this planet. No one more committed and dedicated to those who choose to make positives change in their life. Pleasure and treat to know her!"
"When I first spoke to Elizabeth I had hit rock bottom and never thought I’d emerge from feeling so completely sad and hopeless but with in a matter of months she helped me to regain my confidence and navigate me back to where I was before the darkest moments and feel an even better version of myself. I have seen many therapists but Elizabeth is the only one who really and truly got me. I can’t recommend her highly enough. Thank you for all your help!!"
- Zoe, Radlett.
"I owe my life to Elizabeth. I was suffering from emotional problems that had caused Depression and Panic attacks and severe OCD. I had to walk away from the place where I had worked for 15 years. My wife had ostracised me as she could no longer cope with my issues and that led my children to abandon me. My best friend of 15 years who I had trusted like a brother and looked to for support became fearful of me. I was in a terrible place made worse by the fact I had no one to turn to for guidance and support. And then I was introduced to Elizabeth. I was very scared and apprehensive about opening up and talking about my problems. I thought she would also think that I was 'mad' and walk away from me in fear.
However as I began to talk to Elizabeth, my fears about opening up and describing my issues were cast aside. She was truly 'non-judgemental' and never flinched at anything I recounted. There were times that I repeated myself over and over again but she never complained, she was never frustrated or bored, she was always truly in the moment when we had our consultations. Over time I began to heal and all of my symptoms disappeared, I regained my life, my confidence returned and I was happy again. Elizabeth had been the rock who I relied upon and was responsible for my transformation. I could not fathom how this transformation occurred and it was only when I read the following (quote from 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle) that I understood how I was healed by Elizabeth.
".......If you are fortunate enough to find someone who is intensely conscious, if you can be with them and join them in the state of presence, that can be helpful and will accelerate things. In this way your own light will quickly grow stronger. When a log that has only just started to burn is placed next to one that is burning fiercely, and after a while they are separated again, the first log will be burning with much greater intensity........" To be such a fire is one of the functions of a healer."
- Josh, Middlesex
"I approached Elizabeth as I was so concerned for my daughter and I didn't know what else I could do to help and the situation was becoming worse. My daughter is 15 years old and according to the hospital she was suffering from Anxiety and Depression and they wanted her to take anti depression tablets a path I really didn't want my daughter to go down. She would never go out even to the corner shop, could not make friends and would follow me everywhere including room to room in the house. She always seemed sad and would often cry when she thought I was not looking.
All I wanted was for her to be a carefree teenager, have friends, go out and most of all be happy and be herself like she is when she's with me. My daughter was very nervous to meet with Elizabeth but she understood and wanted to change and be happy. Elizabeth met with my daughter and they went for coffee so it was kept informal to make my daughter more comfortable. I wasn't expecting a miracle and I thought it would take a while for my daughter to open up because she is so shy and nervous. When they come back my daughter seemed different like a light had been turned on behind her eyes, I know that sounds strange but it’s the only way I can describe it. I asked how it went and she said really good and asked if she could see Elizabeth again, which surprised me as she is so shy and doesn't like to talk about how she feels.
The next day my daughter's behaviour had changed she seemed brighter and happier, even family members who didn't know she had met Elizabeth the day before were asking what's happened and how different she seemed. At her next hospital visit to see the psychologist they even asked what's changed and noticed how different she was. My daughter met with Elizabeth again and the change was evident, afterwards I asked my daughter how it went and she replied we talk and Elizabeth helps me to think differently about things.
My daughter now goes out has friends and I haven't seen her cry since, it is like Elizabeth turned the lights on in her head her and her personality shines through. She's happy which in return I'm happy, I can not believe the difference in her Elizabeth helped us so much and I believe changed her future. Elizabeth's style is amazing, she's easy to talk to, listens and is non judgemental which I feel has impacted on the outcome as my daughter finds it hard to talk, I was also concerned about my daughter discussing such personal details with someone but I shouldn't have been. Elizabeth is kind, approachable and has such a talent for making you rethink things and changing behaviours.
We can not thank Elizabeth enough for what she has done for us."
"I met Elizabeth a few years ago and feel truly blessed that I met her when I did. Elizabeth coached me through a breakthrough session and the results were truly life changing. Before I met her, I was struggling with confidence and self worth and with Elizabeth's guidance and support, I left the session with a new lease of life! I have had subsequent sessions with Elizabeth over the years, all with remarkable results, and I wouldn't hesitate to recommend her services to anyone. Elizabeth works in such a supportive and strengthening way. She has an emotional intelligence that allows her to cut through the rubbish and to focus on what the issue really is all the while holding space and being non-judgemental. She has an empathy and compassion for others that is just amazing. I can't thank her enough for the support and tools she has given me."
- Lisa Bristol
"Before seeing Elizabeth I had a severe mental barrier when it came to my dietary habits. This stemmed from issues I had from when I was a baby. I was unable to eat or even try vegetables and fruit, my body would physically reject it before I had even eaten it. I would gag at the smell of vegetables, throw up if I tried to force them down and it had been this way for as long as I could remember. Going out for food was a nightmare, I had to order food plain all the time so I could eat without issue and would always be questioned for my food choices. This would also affect those I was with, having to consider my dietary habits when considering what/where to eat.
I needed to be able to eat freely without restriction, not only to allow me to be more flexible when eating socially but also for health reasons. Being someone who competes in Powerlifting, diet is a massive factor of this and not having a balanced diet was starting to limit my progression. I needed to be able to consume a healthy balanced diet and get the nutrition I needed.
Since Seeing Elizabeth this is exactly what I am able to do, it was like she picked the mental lock to the door that I was unable to open myself. Not eating Fruit or Vegetables for basically all of my life, I obviously don’t really know what ones I do or do not like but I now have the freedom to try them, without the mental barriers that had held me back for 22 years. I am very excited at the chance to discover new foods and taste things for the first time, i can now do this freely and at my own pace. This was a massive weight that got lifted off my shoulders and I couldn’t of done it without Elizabeth.
The session that I had with Elizabeth was very relaxed and I felt very comfortable, upon completing the session I could feel the difference right away and I hadn’t even tried to eat anything at that point but knew I would no longer have an issue. After the session I ate kale for the first time without any issue.
I recommended Elizabeth to a family member of mine as she really is a miracle worker and I had nothing but a positive experience with her."
"I went to see Elizabeth when I was suffering with Anxiety. At this point I was very low, worried about going out & scared to eat or drink anything. I had been to my GP, to see if there was anything physically wrong with me, who suggested I take tablets to help calm my nerves - a route I really didn't want to go down! I had recently helped a family member through their anxiety so I knew how bad it could get if I just left it. I didn't know what else to do and this is when a friend told me how Elizabeth had helped her.
I was very nervous about speaking with someone but Elizabeth was so kind and reassuring I felt I could open up to her. When I went to the meeting, I felt as if my problem was really silly and people would think I'm crazy. Again Elizabeth made me feel at ease and didn't judge me.
We talked through my problem step-by-step, Elizabeth found the issue and changed the way I thought about it. I couldn't believe how well she understood and after 1 meeting I felt much more confident!
I am very happy with my progress which is all down to Elizabeth and her techniques. I am very grateful to Elizabeth in getting me back to 'me'! I would recommend her in a heartbeat."
"I spend half of the year living in southern Spain in a small village which has quite a high retired ex-pat community, as such it is all too easy to succumb to the drink culture. Just going for a walk with the intention of half an hours exercise can result in bumping into friends sitting in the sun outside a bar, one can be very easily be tempted to stop for a quick glass! All too soon, I found I was drinking far too much white wine! When I started to get leg cramps I decided enough was enough.
I contacted Elizabeth as I had heard what fantastic results she was achieving using NLP, (although to be honest I was extremely sceptical) as I am not normally a person who is susceptible to the power of suggestion.
As I was in Spain Elizabeth agreed to undertake the consultation via Skype.
The session lasted approximately 40 minutes, at the end of the session Elizabeth asked me to pour myself a glass of wine, to my utter amazement I really didn't want to do this and when she asked me to take a sip I was utterly repelled at the thought of it. The consultation was in March 2015 and to this day I have not drunk or wanted to drink white wine. If anyone had told me that a 45 minute NLP session could change my life, I would never have believed it.
Elizabeth isn't just an NLP counsellor, she is extraordinary, anyone can train to be a counsellor but with her it's as if she has found her vocation in life! She seems to have a special gift and is so committed to helping people. I cannot thank her enough for helping me.
A truly satisfied client!".
Elizabeth brings humour and wise counsel to her coaching practice. Her gift is to dig deeply into unhelpful thought patterns, and help you challenge the beliefs which keep you stuck. I enjoyed my sessions with her and came away with some practical tools which I am putting into practice.
- Lisa W,
"I didn't know who I was or where I was going in my career or in my life. I always felt so unhappy but didn't know why or how to change. Elizabeth believed in me and gave me confidence until I found confidence in myself. Since working with Elizabeth I have changed my job and I am in a healthy happy relationship and life is great. I know if I hadn't met Elizabeth my life would not be how it is now. I have found me and I like me actually, no I love me! Thank you thank you and thank you again Elizabeth for being you!"
"Elizabeth is a lovely professional down to earth lady she is so easy to talk to. You can have a good cry and a good giggle with her not once did she make me feel stupid in the way that I had been feeling.
Elizabeth helped me look at situations so differently and that was just after one session. Elizabeth made me see that worrying about every aspect of life was very exhausting and how easy it is with the right words and encouragement you can change your mindset!
Elizabeth has helped me in a tricky time of my life and I am very grateful to have met her. I wouldn't have any problems recommending her to any of my friends or family".
When I had my first session with Elizabeth, I was in despair, I've battled with anxiety for years with times where it's just been in the background and other times when it's been all consuming. This time around it had arrived at a point in my life where everything was wonderful, I had an amazing relationship with my husband, we were in a good place financially, I had a job I enjoyed and was looking forward to my life for the first time in so long.
Then I started to get anxiety attacks everytime I left our house, I was struggling to get through a day at work, I was panicking any time I had to travel but more so when my husband wasn't with me. I couldn't stand in a queue or sit in a cafe, without getting very anxious. I couldn't go to meetings at work unless I was sat by a door, and could leave at any time. I couldn't be in a crowded room or have lots of people near me I couldn't travel off site at work or travel by public transport. I couldn't go out for day trips or shopping because of it. Physically I couldn't breathe and the need to empty my bladder was painful and constant. Every moment I was away from home, was terrifying and a trial to be endured and ended as quickly as possible. I was tired, comfort eating, on edge all the time and my poor husband bearing the brunt.
I struggled for a year before Elizabeth and I thought I'd got a handle on it when I did manage to achieve a dream of seeing my fav band in the world - I'd waited 25 years to see them and I thought if I could make it through the gig, I'd be better. I did make it through the gig and then a week later I was back to square 1 and on a downward spiral and getting worse.
It was my husband who found Elizabeth, based on a testimony by client of hers. The best thing about Elizabeth? I could do it one on one through video conference - I cried with relief at this. Of all the coaches listed, she was the only one who would and could do it via video link. This was a deciding factor as it meant I didn't have to deal with the stress of trying to travel and then worrying about the journey back. It meant I could go into the session more relaxed and open and more focused.
I can honestly say from the first session things started to improve. We talked about what I was dealing with and how it made me feel and where I wanted to be. It helps that Elizabeth has been through anxiety herself and come out the other side. So when she said, " I understand how you feel" -for me she really did!
We had just 6 sessions in all and my progress has been and continues to be amazing. I wouldn't have believed I could make such progress so fast and it didn't make any difference that Elizabeth wasn't physically in the room with me.
Elizabeth has given me the tools I needed. From breathing techniques, to advice on how to deal with my anxious feelings, to other tools and techniques to use. All of these and more have changed my life. I am now managing my anxiety and controlling it - I'm no longer suffering with it.
I have started working full days again at the office, I'm having meals out with my husband again and enjoying browsing in a shop. I had to travel to a 2 day meeting with an overnight stay in a dodgy hotel and have dinner with 20 slightly drunk engineers in a town I hadn't been to and travelling with someone I didn't know well. This was unthinkable before Elizabeth - if I'm honest, this would have sent me into a meltdown before with me finding any excuse not to go and then feeling guilty about it . However I did go and had a good time despite the dodgy hotel.
I've now got on a bus and sent a selfie to Elizabeth of myself and the driver, to remind me of how far I've come, I've been on a trip to a wildlife park, attended a party with friends and in the last couple of weeks sat through 2 all day conference with 200 other people. I'm sleeping through the night and finally started to reduce my medication.
Life is improving day by day and it has been noticed by friends and colleagues how much calmer I am and I'm starting to pick up my hobbies again and I'm looking at learning to drive, and beginning to plan holidays away. All of this was unimaginable at the start of the year.
If someone suffers in a similar way to how I did (see how I phrased that - mindfulness at work!) it is extremely difficult to get help. I've had numerous conversations with health care professionals over the years and trying to explain to them that travelling to them was difficult for me because I was a borderline agoraphobic and it wasn't taken seriously. It seemed to be that if I wanted help, then I would have to get to them but, that was the issue!
I couldn't have got this far without Elizabeth - I can almost hear her saying " You did all the hard work, I just gave you the tools" however, I can't thank her enough for all her wise words and coaching and the fact I wasn't physically at her location made no difference in how she helped me.
"So, I should start by saying thank you for giving us our son back...
Now, I know how incredibly corny and clichéd that sounds; but if you compare the quiet, pale and tired boy who walked into the session (and subsequently placed himself as far away from Elizabeth as was physically possible and barely let himself breathe let alone talk to her) with OUR lively, vibrant confident boy who danced back out (literally ‘dabbing’ and ‘flossing’ like any 10 year-old of this decade who’s worth their salt!), giggling and chatting away to Elizabeth like he’d known her forever, then you’ll get an idea of where I’m coming from.
Couple this with the fact that I’m writing this fresh from the first uninterrupted night of sleep our household has seen in over a week and I’m sure you’ll see my opening line is no hyperbole
Our son’s ‘issue’ was (see Elizabeth I’m putting it in the past where it belongs ;) ) that he had periods when he felt that he couldn’t swallow and then subsequently couldn’t breathe - we initially took him to an Ear, Nose and Throat specialist thinking it was a physical issue; they ruled out anything serious and gave a few suggestions of what may be causing it along with some sprays etc to soothe his throat.
Almost a year then went by with several periods of this problem presenting itself, we were able to get him through these ourselves, but we noticed that the frequency and level of these was escalating and started to realise that there were some triggers for these events...
At this point I think it’s worth saying that where we’re from ‘coaching’ or getting help for anxiety issues isn’t really a thing... you are much more likely to be encouraged to ‘man up’ or ‘crack on’ than seek any kind of help for issues that are not physical.
Having had the assistance of Elizabeth personally in the past, she was the first person I thought of when I realised that our son was struggling with more than what we could help him with so I made the call...
From the very moment I did there was such tremendous relief; for my husband and I as we knew help was on it’s way - but most importantly for our son, who for the first time in months was presented with a way out of the anxiety loop he had found himself in.
I told Elizabeth that the night I told him the appointment was made he went to sleep with a smile for the first time in ages and she summed it up by saying ‘because you’ve given him hope - hope that he can overcome this...’ - surely as a parent we can’t ask for more?
Anyway, this is turning into an epic tale and I’m sure you’re thinking ‘OK ‘Margaret’ from ‘London’ - we get that the pizza was the best you ever tasted and you only got 1 free slice for writing such an ‘honest’ review - but please get on with it...’ so I’ll try to summarise the session briefly!
Through the whole process our son was given control; whether we stayed, whether we waited outside, whether he talked, cried, laughed or flushed things down the loo (!!!) - all under his control...
Elizabeth not only got to the root of his issues, but gave him actual real-life techniques to manage himself should the issues reoccur; but she did such a good job of ‘flushing his worries away’ that I doubt he’ll need them... !!
Elizabeth then gave us the tools we would need to support him as parents; using some really simple yet astonishingly effective techniques that were demonstrated before our eyes.
Elizabeth was patient, engaging and non-judgmental and we’ll never be able to thank her enough for putting the smile back on our son’s face.
So... that’s a YES from us...".
Kelly - Middlesex
"I went to see Elizabeth to help me work on my confidence and to get some help to better cope with a very busy and stressful time at work. Very quickly Elizabeth was able to help me with some techniques that I could apply straight away. She helped me work on my confidence which improved very quickly, all I needed was a little help from her to get it out. I can really tell the difference after our sessions, it’s just what I needed and I’m happier overall thanks to her help. I would definitely recommend her and I’m sure I’ll be back next time I get ‘stuck’.
Thanks again for your help! I loved our conversations!".
- Lucia Middlesex
I cannot thank Elizabeth enough for the help she has given me in such a short time.
I came to Elizabeth in desperate need to help me with my anxiety and panic attacks that I was having on a regular basis. This was all due to a fear of eating and choking on my food.
I have had a battle for 15 years with my fear of eating, I've tried so many things to help and nothing has helped me until I was recommended Elizabeth by another friend. She has taught me how to have a positive mind, talk to myself positively, understand the thought process and the triggers for anxiety and panic attack. I now have full control of this and it feels amazing, I am making very positive changes in my life removing the negativity and old habits.
I had sessions with Elizabeth once a week for around 7 weeks and I did find that I had to almost ween myself off her because I didn't think I had the strength and courage to do it alone but, I know that she will be there if I need her and I am going to still remain doing one session a month to keep my strength going.
My life has been changed for the better now, anxiety doesn’t rule me any more I rule anxiety and would recommend anyone struggling with this to see Elizabeth. "
- Sam, Middlesex
“ My anxiety, before coming to Elizabeth, was at a point where I thought nothing could help. I was having multiple panic attacks everyday, I stopped going to school for a few weeks, I didn’t even leave the house. It felt like my whole life had fallen apart completely. I thought I was stuck in that state forever.
I began sessions with Elizabeth weekly, finding each week brought a little more progress towards my “battle” with anxiety. I had to be patient, but it was all worth it. Elizabeth helped me figure out the best coping mechanisms for me, and we talked through all my problems and fears until we found solutions for each one.
My anxiety is better now, If I have little dips I can think of what Elizabeth has taught me to get through them. I couldn’t have gotten this far without her.”
Thank you so much :)
I have known Elizabeth for a few years. We studied together and her passion for helping others shines through. She is always looking to expand her knowledge and she is constantly challenging and helping me in even the briefest of chats! I would recommend working with Elizabeth to anyone wanting to take control an charge over their emotional wellness.
- Gail, Surrey.
It started with my anxiety I feel a long time ago when I was young, in my early teens. I didn't realise what it was and how to cope with it when situations arose, so how I handled it was to "Man-Up" and just brush it away and get on with things. I was young, I didn't know why my head was thinking the things it was but I just got on with it. I was bullied for the majority of my secondary school years which did not have a nice impact on my confidence and self worth. I wasn't a "naughty" teenager, I admit I was lazy but I never did drugs and had a very supportive family and still do. I would meet up with friends occasionally and hang out, play video games is mostly what I enjoyed to do. It was only when I began to do things I wanted to do did it waver slightly. I started going to the gym alot in my a-levels and in that time developed hobbies that I enjoyed for me.
These good habits began to wither away the older I got, and bit by bit I began to bottle up thoughts about everything, from "bad" social encounters that at the time I believed, to insecurities to constant self-bullying and destruction of my self worth. These thoughts convinced me that I was someone I was not and made myself believe all these horrible things I was telling myself for no reason.
I found excuses not to go out socially, even with my best friends. I would fixate on problems that may not have even existed, spiralling my head out of control. This could be something as simple as is there a toilet there?
Sometimes these experiences would result in me questioning whether I was also any fun being out with people. In a group conversation, if I said something and the group shortly after went quiet or the conversation ended, that would be my night done. I would fixate on that experience, analysing every single small aspect of that and pick away at myself everything wrong about me with it. I would often think of myself as the 'grey man' in the corner that no one would remember or care for. This would then spiral again to lead me to believe I was worthless and what was the point of me being in this world?
These experiences started off few and far between at first, but they sky rocketed out of control when I first went down to University at 22. Before heading down to Uni, I was never a party head, I enjoyed staying in playing on my computer. Being at Uni, there were far more occasions where I would feel like I should be going out to fit in. I would constantly look at people laughing, having a good time and wonder why I wasn't so at ease and able to just enjoy myself. I would over-analyse everyone's reactions to me and if one "negative" thing happened, I would put myself down and feel like no one liked me and I was worthless.
The combination of all this caused me to want to isolate myself in my uni room and skip classes and put on a lot of weight. This led to my first panic attack in an exam where I froze for an hour before walking out. I then realised I needed to leave so headed home and left the uni behind me.
In the years after uni I did some pub work which got me back into great shape, regularly going gym and having to talk to strangers constantly but not in a social encounter and my thoughts and feelings about myself were more manageable. I still isolated myself a little and was not kind to myself, however again I brushed all this aside and didn't speak about it to anyone. I found an amazing woman and enjoyed spending dates, going on adventures and good times together.
I then left a year later and headed into the corporate world in my first "real" job and felt so excited. However, my good habits of gym and eating well subsided, causing me to gain weight again. I was happy there at first, but the longer life went on, I started to worry about everything. I would doubt myself at every opportunity, worry that I wasn't any good both in my job and in my relationship and friendships. That I was boring, that I was ugly, that no one would care if I just curled up and died. I now started to hate my job. I found myself in a horrible dark place, worse than uni. I was contemplating ways how to escape this world without tormenting my family with tragedy. Something inside knew I needed help still though. So I confided in my boss who was incredibly understanding and gave me everything I needed to try get me back on track to treating myself with kindness and learning. The professional I saw for therapy was lovely and kind however didn't quite gel with myself and so I kind of still plodded along, thinking I was getting better but wasn't still addressing my issues head on.
I then found a new job, my current one still, where my partner works and thought this is a new start. I picked up myself again briefly thinking all was ok, however just 2 months into my new job it hit me again, and hit me like a truck. I bottled up every emotion about every aspect of my life and found myself back in the horrible darkest place as before thinking the absolute worst. I tried to quit my job, I split from my partner, thinking I would just find somewhere to curl up and leave this place, but my boss was (and still is) the best boss I have ever had and was incredibly supportive. That's when they recommended me to someone who is always right - Elizabeth Holt :)
I began very quiet, I was scared, I still didn't see any purpose to my life or even trying. I isolated myself completely in my room away from everyone and didn't speak, barely washed or took care of myself, I saw no purpose to getting out of bed. I would tell myself I was trying, but really I wasn't. Elizabeth was extremely patient and constantly challenged all my 'beliefs' I had been telling my self all my life. I told her to be tough on me... and that she was, while at no point feeling like I was being ridiculed or judged. She gave me small tasks and goals as a stepping stone to becoming a better version of myself like buying a new water bottle to hydrate better, going on walks. I began to open up about thoughts that I had never spoken to anyone ever about in my life, but that I thought had defined me until now. Mid-way through the sessions (5-7) I began to feel free after leaving, like this huge black cloud over me dissipating that had been throwing on me all these beliefs and behaviours that convinced me of who I was, and I began to critique my thoughts to be kinder to myself. I was going on frequent walks, went back to the gym, opened up more to my partner and began allowing myself to improve, whereas before I felt like I wasn't allowed to get better and improve, that I was to be miserable for the rest of my life.
I would say that if it wasn't for Elizabeth I wouldn't be alive today being able to tell my story, I know that (yes Elizabeth I know what your going to say!) it was myself that did the improving and challenged myself to become the best version of myself, I just never had any of these tools I have now that Elizabeth taught me to use.
After finishing my sessions with Elizabeth I felt like I had everything I needed and could do this and become the best I could be. I've gotten back with my partner and are now excited about our future together, not just for us but for myself. I continue to improve upon myself each and everyday and after seeing Elizabeth I know I could never ever go back to being in that dark place I once was. I know that some days will be lower than others, but that is ok, and I learn from these emotions when they arise and challenge myself to learn more about my mind.
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