Why aren't you living a life you love?

Take a few moments, a couple of hours, a day or even a week to consider what living a life you love would be like. What would it feel like, look like and sound like? Can you dare to imagine it? Can you describe it? Have a go.

If that feels too hard to think about, consider instead what you might change: your job, your house, your lifestyle, your partner, your working hours, your “best” friend, your boredom, your stress, your lack of energy or your exhaustion. Or something else entirely?

It might be one or more of these big things, or it might be smaller changes: your Saturday grocery run, the bathroom tiles, your gym membership, the friends you feel obliged to see every Tuesday when you would rather be doing something else, the bedding or decor you’ve never liked, fixing that light, mending the broken fence, playing more golf, making new friends, going snowboarding or flower arranging, learning to play the guitar or speak Spanish, dancing in the moonlight, going to bed earlier, and more.

What small changes are right for you?

Create a vision for the life you want

So, where do you start? I encourage you to be creative.

First, set aside some time. An hour is good. Plan it in. Find some peace and quiet, or put on music you love, and be in a favourite place.

Take some paper and coloured pencils, crayons or pens. Use paper rather than your phone, laptop or tablet if you can. You will also need a black pen.

Breathe deeply. Write down, in colour, everything that comes to mind when you imagine living a life you love. Enjoy the exploration and the imagination.

Then, in black pen, write down everything in your current life you would choose to change. Does that feel liberating? Scary? Notice the emotions and thoughts it brings.

You are creating a vision of your future. How does it feel, sound and look now? Exciting? Why not? What’s getting in the way? Time, money, fear, effort, energy, other people, resources, guilt, panic, or yourself?

Work through your barriers and choose to change. If it feels too tough to do alone, a coach can help you gain clarity and take practical steps forward.

Every single day, make one small step to change something for the better. Connect with your colourful vision and deal with the actions required.

If it sounds simple, it’s because it is. We all deserve to live a life we love. Go on, try it. An exciting journey lies ahead.