Vanessa White

Hi, I am Vanessa, an Accredited Breakup and Divorce Master Coach. I attract clients experiencing a broad range of challenges in the area of relationships, separation and divorce. 

My expertise and background in the area of relationship and divorce is extensive, based on my Accreditation and Master Accreditation training as well as my own lived experiences including, but not exclusively:

• domestic abuse, including post-separation abuse
• divorce,
• raising 4 children as a single parent,
• Infidelity and betrayal

My extensive training is further enhanced by my own lived experiences including:

• doing the work to learn to value myself, believe in myself and know my worth.
• I rebuilt my life, started working again after a long break; retrained and set up my business. 
• I worked with neurodivergent young people for many years
• I learnt how to spot toxic behaviours, notice red flags, build healthy boundaries
• I entered the world of dating, never having beein in it before
• Death of a parent as a child

I created a life I want to live and I am very content. It's a different life to that  which I had imagined, but a much better one. If you get in touch and work with me I can help you get there too.

How Can 1:1 coaching with me help you?

I give you strategies that will improve how you feel right now:

Heartbreak,separation and divorce

• You're unhappy but want to give your relationship one last try and need some professional guidance and strategies 
• An unexpected event like infidelity, addiction or redundancy is affecting you and your relationship and you want help to navigate the way ahead
•  After breakup/separation you want to overcome your feeling of heartbreak and move forward
• I can give you the ability to recover from the huge sense of loss you may be feeling. A lot of the loss is actuallyabout the loss of the future you had imagined with your ex. You want the tools and techniques to create the future you deserve by shifting your focus from all the negative emotions you're struggling with to positive ones.
• You want to know where to start with your divorce
• You want support through the divorce process - understanding the legal process, finances, child arrangements, where to go for the right knowledge and expertise if needed
• There are so many important decisions to make during divorce and separation - about money, children, where to live and these require good judgment and clarity, I can help you get that
• You need help with parenting with an ex-partner, which can be particularly tricky where abuse has been involved

Rebuilding and reviving yourself so you go forward and thrive

• I will work with you to rebuild your self-esteem; learn to value yourself; create self-belief; understand your worth, all so you can build the  happy life you want with or without a romantic partner
• You want to feel 'unstuck'. It can be really hard feeling like you still love your ex-partner but you see them moving on, getting re-married, maybe even having more children. I will give you strategies to stop you feeling 'stuck' and move your focus from your ex onto you.
• You want to understand healthy relationship patterns
• You want to understand how to identify red flags in relationships
• You've been betrayed and you want to learn how to trust again
• You need to start putting in healthy boundaries into your life but find the thought of that terrifying and don't know how to start.
• You want to start dating again but have no idea how. I can help you identify your core needs in relationship, teach you how to not abandon them and move forward in dating in a positive way, where you are in control of your decisions.
• You are divorcing in later life and do not know how to 'start again'
• You are looking for a Coach who understands neurodivergence because you, your partner/ex-partner or your child is neurodivergent and this brings another dimension to navigating the end of a relationship

Domestic Abuse

The challenge of divorcing an abusive ex partner is huge and my experience and expertise will support you in the right way, here are some examples:

• You think you are in an abusive relationship and don't know what to do
• You have an abusive or toxic partner and you need help getting out of the relationship safely 
• I have knowledge and first-hand experience of post separation abuse, which can feel overwhelming to those not expecting it or struggling with it. 
• You are divorcing an abusive ex and the process is high-conflict and causing you a lot of stress. I can support you through the divorce process, including if you are required to go through the Family Court process
• You want to know how to parent with an abusive ex partner
• You want help to understand abusive behaviours, how to spot them and go forward to have healthy relationships.

I am results focussed and give clients tried and tested tools and techniques so they can take action to recover from any kind of breakup, no matter how complex, and so create the happy, fulfilling lives they desire. 

Outside of Work

I am a Single Mum of 4 children and have a Dachshund called Frank! I love spending time with friends and family and taking Frank for walks.

I run a few mornings a week, which really helps me feel good physically, but more importantly, mentally. I also go to resistance training classes at my local gym.

I love to travel and explore new places, which I hope to do more of now my children are growing up.

What to do next?

As a brief reminder,, here are some of my areas of expertise:

Domestic Abuse Specialist
Expert in coercive control and post-separation abuse
Parenting and co-parenting support
Support clients struggling with heartbreak
Help clients prepare for dating and creating healthy relationships
Experienced in working with Neurodivergent individuals

I coach male and female clients of any age and stage from 18 years upwards

If you think I may be able to help you then please do get in touch by emailing me or arranging a call with me, I would love to be the person that helps you to recover and move forward from where you are now.

CONFIDENTIALITY

Coaching sessions with me are confidential. I would only ever share anything  with a trusted 3rd Party in line with safeguarding procedures if my Client or someone else vulnerable is at risk of harm and/or in danger.

As some of my Clients are in highly sensitive situations, I am very aware of risk and helping people to feel safe. When reaching out to me, if relevant, please do give clear instructions if there is a particular way that you would like me to respond  (e.g. you may not want me to call/text, or you may want to specify a specific time etc).

I am an accredited Breakup and Divorce Coach, specialising in emotional and practical issues relating to this area:

• Abusive/toxic relationships - before or after leaving
• Support with the legal aspect of divorce/separation and the court process
• Parenting, co-parenting, parallel parenting with an abusive ex 
• Boundaries and understanding red flags
• Trust
• Heartbreak
• Dialling down the negative emotions from breakups like guilt, anger, disbelief, sadness
• Preparing for healthy love and relationships
• Dating

• Please do not let price put you off taking that first step if you think I might be the right coach for you and could help you. Let's have a chat and go from there.
• I offer a FREE, no obligation 20 minute call initially so that potential clients can see if I am the right coach for them, which I think is invaluable. It also gives me the opportunity to understand what kind of support they are looking for and where they need help
• I run coaching sessions on a 1:1 basis, either in person or virtually and so can coach clients from anywhere in the World
• The first coaching session is 90 minutes and any subsequent sessions are 60 minutes (but sometimes clients request or require longer sessions by prior arrangement between Coach and Client)
• I often run 'seasonal promotions' on my coaching sessions, so it is always worth asking me about these.
• I do offer discount for a block booking of a number of sessions in advance
• I do offer other paid services eg 'telephone SOS' service where clients can speak to me outside of coaching sessions. These kind of services are always by prior arrangement between Coach and Client.

Examples of Client Testimonials

“ Vanessa has been an invaluable source of advice, motivation and guidance throughout an incredibly stressful and (at times) difficult breakup. I was incredibly anxious and emotionally overwhelmed when I first met Vanessa. I didn’t really know which way to turn. She quickly assessed my situation and was able to give me both practical advice and the emotional support that I needed. She is approachable, caring and has a natural gift for putting clients at ease from the start, I’d describe her as “bullet proof”! She doesn’t judge and I feel I can tell her anything. Every week she helps me to make positive steps forwards towards a happier future using a variety of brilliant tools and techniques that really work. Without her help I honestly don’t think I would have made the progress that I have in the last 6 weeks. I honestly can’t praise her enough.”

Tina*

“ The sessions with Vanessa have helped me to become more aware of myself and for me to self-reflect. Vanessa really understands, listens and is able to dig deep with me and my limiting beliefs in order for me to gain my power back… Absolutely love our sessions.”

Amanda* 

*names have been changed