How courage can help you build confidence

''I would like to be more confident'', a client declared this week during her coaching session. ''How strong is your courage muscle?'' I asked. The client seemed perplexed. Yes, I know what you're thinking - why would I respond to a question about confidence with courage?

Well, let me tell you about an insider's hack about confidence... we can develop our confidence by exercising our courage muscle. Phew - I'm glad I've got that one out there!

The truth behind building confidence

Now, some of us may believe that confidence is a Super Mario coin that we simply collect along the road of life. However, confidence is earned with sweaty palms, crackling/croaky voices, deep breaths and small reluctant steps forward. These actions all start with the courage to try. That's right: to show up, regardless of the outcome.

When courage is exercised and actions are repeated on a consistent basis, the foundation of your confidence will form. Depending on the results of the action, you can step forward and become more confident or reassess, change your approach, and try again. Courage is a big factor in overcoming the fear that stops you from taking action.

How can you exercise your courage muscle?

Start by choosing something that feels challenging, but manageable. You could:

• speak up when you'd usually stay quiet
• set a boundary or say no to something that isn't right for you
• apply for an opportunity even if you're unsure whether you'll succeed
• try something new without expecting yourself to be good at it straight away
• make a decision without waiting until you feel completely confident.

The important thing is to recognise the action you've taken, regardless of the outcome. Each time you step outside your comfort zone, you have an opportunity to learn what works, adjust your approach and try again. Over time, these small acts of courage can help you build greater trust in yourself and your abilities.

So, the next time you're asking yourself, ''Why aren't I more confident?'', change the question and ask yourself, ''Am I ready to be courageous and take action?'' Remember, you're always one courageous step away from making a start towards your goal. 

If you're finding your fears are too strong to take the steps forward, have a look for a confidence coach who is the best-fit for you and will support you in achieving the goals you have set in your life.