Your 20s are hard, right?

Are you sitting there wondering why school taught you algebra but didn’t prepare you for the whirlwind of your 20s? You’re not alone! Many people find their 20s a cocktail of confusion, comparison, and existential dread. Let’s face it – this decade can feel like a bizarre adventure, a mix of excitement and bewilderment.

Here’s a fun little nugget: at 25, you’re about 11.7% through your adult life. By 29, you’re only at 18.3%. That means there’s a whole 82% of adulthood ahead of you. So if you’re feeling like a rookie adult, that’s because you are – no need to freak out!

Your 20s are a fast-paced, ever-shifting landscape. One day you’re in college, bonding over microwave meals and late-night study sessions, and the next, you’re attending friends' kids' birthday parties. It’s natural to question your place in this evolving world and wonder if you should embark on a grand spiritual quest to “find yourself.”

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed when you see friends hitting milestones like getting married, buying homes, or climbing the corporate ladder, while you’re still deciding between adopting a cat or a houseplant. The comparison game can be brutal, and it’s tempting to think you’re falling behind.

But here’s a refreshing perspective: the traditional paths to success – career, partner, house, kids – aren’t the only routes available. These societal expectations, deeply rooted in post-WWII media and traditional roles, are just one way to measure life’s milestones. Now, we have countless options to explore and paths to forge. This abundance of choices can be thrilling, yet also paralysing.

So, how do you cut through the noise and navigate this decision fatigue?

Instead of offering generic advice like “just be kind to yourself,” let’s get real. What you need is a bit of self-discovery. It’s time to tune out the external noise and listen to what truly resonates with you. This means getting clear on your own needs and desires, away from the constant buzz of social media and societal expectations.

But where do you start? It can be overwhelming, especially in this digital age where everyone’s life looks like a highlight reel. That’s why one of the first things I recommend is the wheel of life exercise. This powerful tool helps you dive deep into your satisfaction across various areas of your life.

The wheel of life isn’t just about ticking off boxes; it’s your VIP pass to a deeper understanding of yourself. When you team up with a coach for this exercise, you’re not just checking in on your progress – you’re diving into an adventure of self-discovery. Together, you’ll explore what’s really lighting you up and cut through the chaos of your 20s. 

Think of the wheel of life as your personal map for finding balance and creating meaningful change. It guides you through understanding your current situation and helps you make choices that lead to a more fulfilling and balanced life.

So, to end with a quote: "Your 20s are your 'selfish years'. It's a decade to immerse yourself in every single thing possible. Be selfish with your time and all the aspects of you. Tinker with shit, travel, explore, love a lot, love a little and never touch the ground" - Kyoko E

Let's get you started with your wheel of life and finally embrace this adventurous chapter with open arms and a full heart. Your 20s are your playground, so let's dive in and rewrite your trajectory.