Stop seeking and start accepting

What if you were to be content in the present moment, to just be? To accept where you are now and embrace all that is. We can only really live in this moment.

What if you were to accept your home or your family life, your partner or lack of a partner, your children as they are, your health, education, career or job, your qualifications, your looks or physicality as they are now?

Could you make a list of all that is currently good? Try writing these things down.

Next, what are you seeking? Make another list.

Here’s a thought: if you are always seeking, you will always be seeking. Not having, not being, not feeling content or satisfied, only seeking.

Where does acceptance come in there?

Acceptance

That’s my first point really: acceptance. Accept all that is good right now.

If you were to convert your seeking list into things you hope for, how would that adjust things? For example, “I hope to have or achieve a or b, x or y, but for the moment I am accepting of where I am.”

Does it create a sense of calm, inner peace or relief? I’d say so.

Hope

So next on the list is hope.

It is important to strive for what is meaningful to you, but not to be constantly seeking, looking, searching and yearning.

Can you learn to accept yourself as you are now, being authentically you? “I am good enough and what I have or have done is good enough.”

Authenticity

This is about being your authentic self.

Which leads me to the final point: vulnerability.

Vulnerability

We can feel afraid or lost, isolated or alone, vulnerable in some way in the moment. What if you were to embrace these as part of accepting where you are, rather than fighting to overcome them?

Life can be tough, but it is OK to feel all of the above.

When we’re focused on seeking - whether it be a new job, a partner, a house, a change of career, a different body shape or image, happiness, financial security and so on - we can lose sight of the moment and often the possibilities it brings.

So, concentrate on the possibilities instead.

To summarise, stop seeking and practise acceptance. Be hopeful and open to possibilities, and allow yourself to be authentic and vulnerable. That may be a much wiser choice.