The different types of friendship in our lives

The friendships and connections we build can play an important part in our lives, particularly during difficult times and moments we want to celebrate.

Different friendships can bring different things to our lives. One person doesn't necessarily need to meet every social or emotional need we have. It is not about putting sections of our life into little boxes; it is about creating the right friendships which form an embroidery pattern for our lifestyle. Sometimes people need comforting, sometimes they need encouraging and sometimes they need someone to positively share joy.

What types of people can friends be?

• Listeners
• Encouragers
• Groups
• More experienced friends
• Opposites
• Work friends
• Similar life-stage or experience friends
• Cheerleaders
• Long-term friendships
• Support for YOUR friends

What can each one offer?

Listeners

Those who will listen to your concerns and not judge. An opportunity to get things off your chest. Sometimes you may also want support outside your friendships, such as from a coach or another appropriate professional.

Encouragers

Positive people who will help you to look ahead, set goals to achieve, encourage you to achieve them and praise you when you have.

Groups

Joining a group or club can provide connection, enjoyment and a change of focus through taking part in activities with other people. Members of the group may have experienced some of the same things that you have, so you have something in common. With regular meetings, you have something to look forward to and an activity you can enjoy.

More experienced friends

Someone who has been through a similar experience may be able to share what they learnt or simply understand some of what you're facing.

Opposites

Friends who see the world differently can introduce us to perspectives, interests and possibilities we might not otherwise encounter. They may encourage you to think about something differently or consider changes you had not previously thought about.

Work friends

They can offer support in the workplace and understand some of the experiences and challenges you share. As with any workplace relationship, it can help to be mindful of professional boundaries.

Similar life-stage or experience friends

People going through similar experiences may understand some of the challenges you're facing in a way that others don't. Peer or support groups can also provide opportunities for connection.

Long-term friendships

Long-term friends may know your history and understand how you've changed over time. That shared history can create a particularly valuable kind of connection.

Cheerleaders

The people who celebrate your achievements, encourage you and remind you how far you've come.

Support for YOUR friends

Friendship is also about what we give as well as what we receive. You may be able to offer support to your friends in many of the areas above. Share your experiences, listen and be there for your friends when they need you; it all adds to the wonderful experience of friendship.

The benefits of friendship

Friendships can change throughout our lives, but caring for the relationships that matter to us can help maintain connection, companionship and mutual support.

You do not need to live in their pockets, just to know they are there when you need them and to be there when they need you.