How to cope when life throws unexpected things at us

Life can sometimes throw unexpected things at us. When this happens, we can feel overwhelmed, uncertain, anxious and out of control.

Here are five things that may help you change your mindset when you are feeling overwhelmed. 

5 things to try when you feel overwhelmed

1. Try meditation

Even if you are a beginner, taking a few minutes each day to meditate may help you relax your mind and body. Meditation can also support relaxation before sleep.

2. Write down your thoughts

Grab a journal and a pen and write down what is on your mind. Make two lists: one about your life now and another describing how you would like your life to be.

This may help you see more clearly what you would like to change. You can then prioritise the things that are most important to you and, one by one, create a practical plan. Writing everything down can relieve some of the pressure, clear your head and give your thoughts somewhere to go.

3. Be kind to yourself

The most important time is now. Making time for play, rest, and the things you love is part of being kind to yourself. Try to turn down the volume of harsh or negative thoughts and give more attention to supportive ones.

4. Set realistic goals

Be ambitious, but don’t take on too much at once. Doing so may leave you feeling even more overwhelmed. Break larger goals into smaller, manageable steps and recognise the progress you make.

5. Ask for help

Please remember that it is OK not to be OK, and asking for help is a sign of strength. Support might come from friends, family, a qualified therapist or another appropriate healthcare professional.