Are you struggling to heal and move on from narcissistic abuse?

Gorgeous gorgeous soul, I'm here for you. Leaving a toxic or abusive relationship is hard, staying away can be even harder... why?

Having experienced a lifetime of controlling, manipulative, toxic and abusive relationships, at the age of 48 I was finally able to recognise the patterns and receive the 'gift' of my experiences. This literally forced me to face the facts, feel the pain, heal the wounds, and with pleasure now I can truly say break free from the toxic and abusive patterns and cycles and to healthily and happily heal and move on.

Narcissistic abuse, astonishingly, isn't about the person that's in front of us. I've come to learn that they are actually more of a vessel of awareness and communication to acknowledge what we are truly missing in our lives... self-love, self-worth and self-respect.

How they've treated you isn't right nor is it fair, but understanding why and how they came to be in your life is more the focus I want to bring your attention to. Somehow they bring a sense of familiarity to an earlier part of your life, where an all-important care giver sadly may not have been emotionally able or available to give you the love, attention and validation that you so needed, desired and deserved, leaving you in those early years with heart-breaking feelings of 'I'm not good enough, I am worthless, I'm not important and I an unloveable'.

This leaves devastatingly deep-rooted feelings of rejection and abandonment,and the outcome is sadly that we spend our lives looking for that same feeling of 'love', 'comfort' and 'relatability' in others, resulting in us only attracting the same kind of abusive cycles and patterns.

At the age of 48, due to a 'no contact' order being honoured by the Courts, I finally had no choice but to honour the absence, feel the pain and learn to heal and move on. At the beautiful age of nearly 53, with all that I have learned and discovered, I've made it my personal mission to take you on a beautiful journey of self-love, in order to help you take back your power, reclaim your life and rediscover your sparkle.

Narcissistic abuse is experienced by a horrifying 25% of people in the world, whether that be at work, through parenting or an intimate relationship or friendship, and it's heart-breaking when you feel and come to realise there really isn't anybody around you that seems to understand all that you have and quite possibly are still are going through.

This can leave you feeling even more confused, lost, empty and alone, spending month after month trawling the internet, spending time in Facebook groups hoping to validate your experience, when all it is sadly doing is keeping you 'stuck'.

Narcissistically abusive relationships are hard when you're in them, hard to leave, and even harder, sadly, to stay away from. This is why it can take us up to seven times of leaving and returning, before we eventually find the courage and confidence to leave once and for all.

You're gorgeous, you're amazing, you're perfect just the way you are, you always were. Why not take a little time today just for you, take a walk, take yourself for a coffee and treat at your local cafe to spend some time journalling how you truly feel - speaking your truth probably isn't something you've ever been able or felt safe to do, but it's a beautiful and essential way to start your healing journey.

I'm writing this article in hope to comfort, inspire and empower you to know you're not alone, and to let you know that that beautiful, most authentic life, that you truly want, desire and deserve isn't so far away.