Statements to boost your confidence

Would you talk to a friend the way you talk to yourself?

It’s true that one of the most common ways in which we undermine our self-confidence is in the way we talk to ourselves.

In my experience, many of the individuals that seek coaching for a lack of self-confidence and self-esteem usually have self-talk that is rarely positive and, often, it is actually quite hurtful.

The problem is, we spend so much time inside our own heads. So, if the ongoing internal voice is negative and self-loathing, it can affect how someone views themselves and approaches situations.

Although it’s often easier said than done, if you can, it’s important to talk to yourself as a good friend. Try using positive language and statements - you may give your self-belief a real boost.

Using positive affirmations

I'm not a big believer in positive affirmations myself (I find repeating phrases over and over to myself doesn't work for me), but I do appreciate there are times when a positive statement can really give you a lift. Simple statements of self-love can help you carry on when you're struggling.

With this in mind, I've made a list of some of the phrases that past clients have said they find helpful when they are overcome by self-doubt. Try them in times when you’re lacking in confidence and self-belief - be your own best friend.

Phrases my coaching clients have successfully used:

• "I can't control my thoughts but I can choose my reaction to them."
• "Failing is part of the journey to success."
• "Having confidence isn't about not being scared, it's about putting yourself out there anyway."
• "You can't change the other person but you can change your reaction to them."

• "If the mountain you want to climb is overwhelming, take it one molehill at a time."

It’s not easy to build confidence on your own - it can take time, work and, often, support from others. But, I hope that some of these statements resonate with you and can help you to see how important you are and can help to improve your self-confidence. You don't need to use them all the time but keep them listed somewhere for when you need a positive reminder about life.

If negative self-talk is affecting your confidence, a life coach can help you recognise unhelpful patterns, build greater self-belief and find practical ways to feel more confident in yourself.