What’s involved in taking the leap of faith?

What is your current leap of faith? Starting a new relationship? Resigning from a job? Moving to a new place? There can often be a great deal of inner turmoil when we are making big life choices, the head can be saying one thing and the heart can be saying something completely different. All sorts of emotions and narratives can show up, some we might not even be expecting. It can feel like it takes up so much time and energy and wading through possibilities to follow our soul's nudges of what we know is right for us.

Other times, it can be all too overwhelming and we choose to ignore it and trudge along in our discomfort because we think it might be easier than digging in and doing the work to make the necessary changes. For me, when I notice I am sick of hearing myself talk about the same problem over and over, I know it is time to dig in and do the work, time to pivot, face the fear and embrace the changes. 

So, how do we navigate it?

How do we make a big decision and trust that it’s the right thing to do? My short answer to this is just 'trust yourself' but as we know, building trust isn’t that simple… it involves quite a lot of effort and elbow grease and it can feel a little bit sludgy too.  

Go inward and get quiet

We can often look outside ourselves during a time of decision-making, seeking input from external sources, a friend, a family member, or good old Google… we can tend to override the infinite wisdom we already have available to us, with good reason, it can feel a bit murky in there at times.

It’s a good idea if you can, either in a journal, or with a coach or non-judgemental ear, to really look at all the parts that are coming up. What is your head saying about the situation? What is your heart saying about the situation? Are you able to identify the different emotions and what they have to say? Letting all 'parts' have their say, without judgement and becoming the observer of the situation puts you in a powerful place.
 
From the position of an observer, we can have a bird's eye view of where to turn next – we can ask ourselves:

• What needs to happen to bring my head and heart in line? Perhaps your head needs to see a spreadsheet of the financial implications of your resigning so it can create a savings plan or understand the consequences. Perhaps your heart needs some evidence that you will put some boundaries in place so it doesn’t get hurt again.
• What are my emotions telling me about the parts of me I need to send love and healing to? How can I go about doing this? Do I need support to hold space to figure this out? Am I able to connect with my inner child?
• Can I notice any unhelpful mindset patterns in my thinking, do I sniff some limiting beliefs or negative self-talk that’s holding me back that I’d like to work on?

If it feels difficult to navigate, you are not alone. Dealing with internal conflicts can be exhausting. Working with a coach who feels aligned with you can be a non-judgemental soundboard to support you in finding the best way for you through from A to B.