The drivers of human behaviour
The commonality of all peoples regardless of race, colour, creed, socio-economic status etc. is to avoid pain and suffering and to be happy - how we achieve this is an individual journey but nonetheless connected divinely by the unity and oneness of people, the planet, nature and all life forms.
When we stop filtering for the differences (separateness) we become closer to the (oneness) of all peoples and from this place peace and compassion can grow.
I want to focus on the six drivers of human behaviour; I found this profoundly life-changing - when we question the programme that is driving our behaviours we can positively change our outer world.
The six core human needs are:
- certainty (safety/control/consistency)
- variety (adventure, challenge)
- significance (meaning/importance)
- love and connection (communication/approval/connection)
- growth (emotional/spiritual/physical development)
- contribution (give/serve others)
The first four are defined as needs of the personality and the last two are defined as needs of the spirit. We meet these needs daily either in a constructive/resourceful way or in a destructive and unresourceful way.
With awareness of their drivers and needs the individual can empower themselves to change their programme from destructive to resourceful and to foster more balance in their lives.
Paradoxes exist when we have an imbalance in the drivers of our behaviour e.g. focusing on significance at the expense of love, growth and connection (manifests ego-driven behaviour and outcomes/disconnect).
Having too much security and thus craving adventure .. (manifests discontentment and poor decision making).
Awareness of the drivers/programme of our behaviour can help bring balance into our lives, if the drivers are out of alignment we can review internally the lack of balance as an expression of the above six core needs and ultimately live a more authentic and joyous life!
How are you meeting your core needs? Are your drivers resourceful, neutral or destructive? Are you going to change anything with this awareness?
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