How to choose a men's life coach

Why choose a men’s coach over a regular coach?

The first thing I would say is… men get men, but men’s coaches really get men!

I think we’d agree that women get women, right? When two women get together magic happens somehow and they connect, well in my experience anyway. There's a kind of electricity that happens between two women and they just get one another. Topic after topic is covered and they listen really well (most of the time) there’s a smoothness to their flow and they finish both satisfied and go their separate ways. I see you nodding, you’ve experienced it haven’t you?

So what does a man-to-man conversation look like in comparison?

In my experience witnessing two guys getting together, it’s a bit clumsy, awkward – it's not a dance like the women, more like a drunken wrestle, full of banter and “yeah I'm good mate” and lots of “not too bad dude, could be better but what can you do eh?” and us men are not very good at listening, or asking vulnerable questions. We just aren’t designed the same as women in this way. We are hardly ever taught how to do this stuff….

So how do us men get to have these conversations with other men, the conversations that encourage change and allow us the space to speak vulnerably about what's really going on for us and enable us to make positive change in our lives?

Answer: We work with a men’s coach.

Having a men’s coach can be an invaluable asset to any man looking to improve his life. A men’s coach is a professional who is specifically trained to understand the unique needs of men and the challenges they face in their day-to-day lives. Men’s coaches can provide a valuable service to men that can have a lasting impact on their lives. 

Benefits of working with a men's coach

Here are some of the benefits of working with a men’s coach. 

1. Help you build confidence

A men’s coach can help you build confidence in your abilities and make positive changes in your life. As a man themselves, men’s coaches understand the unique challenges that men face and can help you to identify and address the issues holding you back.

With the help of a coach, you can learn how to identify ‘what’ has been holding you back and set goals, build self-esteem, and take steps to achieve your objectives.   

2 Provide tools and strategies to make positive change

Men’s coaches can provide you with powerful tools and strategies needed to help you take control of your life and make positive changes. With the help of a coach, you can learn to identify and address your core issues, build healthier relationships, and make better decisions.   

3. Provide support and motivation

A men’s coach can provide support and motivation to help you stay on track. Men’s coaches can help you stay focused and accountable by providing regular feedback and accountability, men can learn to stay motivated, set realistic goals, and make progress towards achieving a more fulfilling life. 

4. Help you identify your core values

A men’s coach can help you to understand your core values, beliefs, and needs. How to make decisions and take action accordingly using these values are your compass.  

5. Help you understand yourself better

By working with a coach, you can develop a better understanding of yourself and develop new ways of communicating with others that will ultimately serve you in your relationships family and friendships. Having a men’s coach is a powerful resource for men to work with to make positive changes in their lives.  

5. Help you make sense of your life and relationships

A good coach will give it to you straight and help you make sense of your life and relationships. To help free you of the negative story that’s been holding you back from experiencing the life and relationship you truly want.

For many men, life can be overwhelming and demanding, and seeking out a life coach can provide the guidance and support needed to help them move forward in life. A life coach can help men identify and overcome old habits, negative inner critic voices, set and achieve goals, and create a tangible plan for a more fulfilling life. 

Life coaches come from a variety of backgrounds and specialise in different areas, such as career coaching, health and fitness, relationships, and so much more. It is important to find a life coach that specialises in the areas that you need the most help in. 

A life coach can also help men develop healthier relationships with themselves and others, manage stress and anxiety, make better decisions, and become more confident. A life coach can also provide an unbiased and objective perspective to help men work through difficult situations. 

How to find a great mens’ life coach 

Finding the right men’s life coach is essential for your success. You should look for someone who has lots of experience in working with men and is fully certified.

It's important that you feel comfortable with your coach and that you both have a connection when you jump on your sample call. Most coaches will offer free 30-45 min sample calls to do some actual coaching with you and talk to you about how they work. You can ask them lots of questions and get a feel for their style. You’re going to be sharing some big stuff with this guy so take some time to feel into his energy and see if it feels aligned with yours. 

It can be helpful to look for referrals from friends and family or to read reviews online. You can also contact local coaching organizations or look for coaches in your area. Once you have identified a few potential life coaches, it is important to meet with them on Zoom to discuss your goals and see if they are the right fit. 

10 attributes of a great men’s coach

1. Empathy: A great men's life coach should be able to understand and relate to their client's experiences and feelings and be able to provide guidance that is tailored to their unique needs.

2. Knowledge and expertise: A great men's life coach should have an extensive understanding of the challenges men face in life, as well as knowledge of the tools and strategies needed to help them overcome those obstacles.

3. Communication skills: A great men's life coach should be able to communicate effectively, both verbally and non-verbally, in order to create a safe and secure environment for their clients.

4. Positive and supportive: A great men's life coach should be positive and supportive throughout the coaching process, encouraging their clients to reach their goals and supporting them through difficult times.

5. Professionalism: A great men's life coach should be professional in their approach, following ethical standards and displaying integrity in all aspects of their practice.

6. Supportive - A great men’s life coach should be able to provide an encouraging and supportive environment for their clients. 

7. Non-judgmental - A great men’s life coach should be able to provide a safe and non-judgmental space for their clients to express themselves without fear of judgment or criticism. 

8. Positive - A great men’s life coach should be able to provide a positive outlook and environment for their clients, even in difficult or challenging circumstances. 

9. Patient - A great men’s life coach should be able to provide their clients with the space and time they need to work through their issues, without rushing them. 

10. Experienced - A great men’s life coach should have a wealth of experience in working with men, so they are able to provide the best container for their clients to work through their process and should be open to new ideas and perspectives.

I hope this insight has been useful in helping you get a clearer understanding of what a men’s coach is and how it might help you in reaching a place of fulfilment in your life. 

As a CPCC Coactive certified men’s coach myself, I offer 45-minute free sample coaching sessions where we can explore everything I have covered in this article. If you’d like to book a discovery call, you can book a slot here.

Thank you for reading my article. 

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