When a marriage ends if effects both parties, and men and women can suffer equally physically and emotionally. Men, however, often try to put a brave face on things keeping everything bottled up inside. That is not to say they do not have friends or family to talk to, but many are often reluctant to seek out or receive emotional support. So how do they cope? Research actually states that now more than ever it is the women who are initiating the break up. It can often come as a complete...
With traditions and celebrations such as Christmas and Easter, families often spend an extended amount of time together, under one roof. Whether it’s a new personality arriving into the mix, or family dynamics changing as people grow up, managing relationships can often be tricky between trying to please everyone, and remain in a healthy, happy mindset yourself.
One of the most important things to remember is that sometimes you simply can't please everyone, but you do have to please...
Positive psychology - the science of happiness - places great emphasis on the role of forgiveness as an essential part of achieving a complete sense of well-being. But this is not a new concept. All the major religions preach the importance of forgiveness; and many of the greatest thinkers, philosophers and people who have changed the course of history have reached the same conclusion. For example, Nelson Mandela, remembering the day he was freed after 27 years in captivity once...
Any divorce is a very charged emotional process. Nobody starts a marriage with the expectation of not being able to sustain it and when it becomes clear that it is not working, it is always sad. It is the death of a dream and the disappointment of failure. When along the way new little people have joined, it is extra painful because the little ones have to face the consequences of the mistake of their parents. Divorce can also be a messy business as people might look to ‘translate their...
There is so much talk around goals - about whether we should have them or not, whether they work or not and so on. The conversation, in my view, is huge, and here are some of my thoughts for you. A common expectation in the 21st century, with developments such as Netflix, Amazon Prime, increasing fast food deliveries and almost everything "on demand", is that results or material things ought to come to us fast. Children today grow up with this normality whilst those of us who are slightly...
I was at a recent networking event. As I introduced myself to everyone in the room I used an example of a vision which one of my mum clients created. Two of the mums said ‘that sounded just like my vision!’. It wasn’t theirs, but this got me thinking about the similarity between the visions which my mum clients tend to set when they work with me. A vision might be the most powerful way to keep you focused on what you want in life whilst keeping you motivated in achieving it....
When I was growing up my Dad did his best, he was always saying "parenting doesn’t come with a manual". He tried his best, but he didn’t have a clue. He genuinely believed that enforcing his beliefs and values on us was a necessity, an obligation of parenting. If he was around today, he would have crumpled under the strain. Now when children grow up they don't always leave home, some go off to University then come back as matured independent adults, some stay at home, living in...
Gaslighting is a type of manipulation that invalidates you and can even lead to you questioning your own sanity. You may recognise statements such as:
“That never happened; you must be imagining it.” “Everyone agrees with me, you’re overreacting.” “Wow, are you going mad or something?”
If these do sound familiar, you may have been the target of gaslighting which, in essence, is a form of emotional abuse. The term comes from the 1938 play 'Gas...
Do you surround yourself with people who light your path? Who, when life can get dark, they shine hope and offer you comfort? Have you noticed how your mood can be lifted INSTANTLY when you are with the people who nourish you as a person?Do you remember what you can see, hear and feel the last time you had a really good belly laugh? Or a naturally flowing conversation? Can you remember feeling at ease, relaxed, calm, warm, happy, free, comfortable, confident, excited? Just being in your own...
Once a year on 14th February, many of us declare our love to someone we admire – our Valentine. You might do this secretly with an anonymous card or openly at a candlelit dinner. However, feelings are too important to express only once a year. The failure to express feelings can lead to emptiness in relationships and ultimately misunderstandings and conflict such as:
Why didn’t you tell me? Well you should know how I feel But I don’t know how you feel if you don’t...
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