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Any divorce is a very charged emotional process. Nobody starts a marriage with the expectation of not being able to sustain it and when it becomes clear that it is not working, it is always sad. It is the death of a dream and the disappointment of failure. When along the way new little people have joined, it is extra painful because the little ones have to face the consequences of the mistake of their parents. Divorce can also be a messy business as people might look to ‘translate their...

There is so much talk around goals - about whether we should have them or not, whether they work or not and so on. The conversation, in my view, is huge, and here are some of my thoughts for you. A common expectation in the 21st century, with developments such as Netflix, Amazon Prime, increasing fast food deliveries and almost everything "on demand", is that results or material things ought to come to us fast. Children today grow up with this normality whilst those of us who are slightly...

I was at a recent networking event. As I introduced myself to everyone in the room I used an example of a vision which one of my mum clients created. Two of the mums said ‘that sounded just like my vision!’. It wasn’t theirs, but this got me thinking about the similarity between the visions which my mum clients tend to set when they work with me. A vision might be the most powerful way to keep you focused on what you want in life whilst keeping you motivated in achieving it....

"Gaslighting" is a type of manipulation that invalidates you and can even lead to you questioning your own sanity. You may recognise statements such as:

“That never happened; you must be imagining it.” “Everyone agrees with me, you’re overreacting.” “Wow, are you going mad or something?”

If these do sound familiar, you may have been the target of "gaslighting" which in essence is a form of emotional abuse. The term comes from the 1938 play...

Do you surround yourself with people who light your path? Who, when life can get dark, they shine hope and offer you comfort? Have you noticed how your mood can be lifted INSTANTLY when you are with the people who nourish you as a person?Do you remember what you can see, hear and feel the last time you had a really good belly laugh? Or a naturally flowing conversation? Can you remember feeling at ease, relaxed, calm, warm, happy, free, comfortable, confident, excited? Just being in your own...

Once a year on 14th February, many of us declare our love to someone we admire – our Valentine. You might do this secretly with an anonymous card or openly at a candlelit dinner. However, feelings are too important to express only once a year. The failure to express feelings can lead to emptiness in relationships and ultimately misunderstandings and conflict such as:

Why didn’t you tell me? Well you should know how I feel But I don’t know how you feel if you don’t...

We have all been there, trying to make ourselves seem as perfect as possible to appeal to a date, a potential date, or for goodness sake, just anyone who will bother to look!  Sure we all want to make the best of ourselves, but with the ever-increasing use of dating apps and a whole host of other social media channels that require us to update our photo, for some, it has become a near obsession. How in the world can we match up to that photo that we spent 2 hours taking and then adding...