Lauren Johns

The ‘Should I Stay Or Should I Go’ Coach

Helping women in their 40s & 50s make life-changing decisions with logic, intuition & zero regret

Are you stuck in ‘analysis paralysis’ asking yourself questions like:

Should I leave my partner?
Should I quit my job and start my own business?
Should I move out of the city?

As a woman entering your second act, you’re done with ‘good enough.’ You want true happiness and to live to your full potential.

As an ICF & AC Certified Coach & NLP Master Practitioner, I don’t just help you pick a door. I help you combine logic and intuition to regulate your nervous system and align your head and heart. When you make your move, you’ll do it with conviction and zero regret.

If you choose to stay...

You stay with a new sense of awareness, clear boundaries, and fresh goals. You stop wasting energy agonising over the "what ifs" and start making changes to thrive where you are. You can truly enjoy your life again, because you know—with total conviction—you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.

If you choose to go...

You leave because you finally know it’s the only way to truly shine in your "second act." Once the choice is made, that heavy weight of indecision lifts. You can finally use your energy to grow, reconnecting with the authentic self you’ve been hiding away.

The outcome is alignment:

Relationships: Leaving a dynamic that no longer serves you to reclaim the time, freedom, and space to be yourself.

Career: Walking away from a role that limits your growth to embark on a career aligned with your values, identity, and true purpose.

Location: Moving to a new community where you can finally put down roots, feel grounded, and be connected.

Whether you rebuild where you are or begin again elsewhere, my process ensures your next move isn't just a change of scenery—it's an evolution of self.

Why I’m your ‘Should I Stay Or Should I Go’ Coach…

I’ve grappled with ‘stay or go’ decisions about relationships, careers and where to live myself. In our 40s & 50s the stakes are so much higher and a list of pros and cons isn’t enough. I’ve developed a unique process to help women connect to their authentic selves, identify what’s most important to them and their life purpose, and tap in to their intuition to guide them to true happiness. 

My approach...

I combine 14 years of business logic with somatic intuition in a three-session process.

My expertise includes NLP, neuroscience-backed meditation, and Generative Coaching, to help you look beyond the immediate decision to the ultimate outcome you’re striving for. We will find your ‘North Star,’ enabling you to move forward—whether you choose to rebuild or begin again.

What’s keeping you awake at night? 

Let’s kickstart your decision-making process today. Stop wasting energy ruminating & start moving towards true happiness with confidence, clarity & zero regret. Email me now to set up a free 30 minute Zoom call to see if we're a good fit for each other. 

My unique decision-making process…

I’m an NLP Master Practitioner and certified in Generative, Somatic, and Life Coaching. These multiple modalities give me extensive tools and processes to guide you quickly to the heart of the matter and help you make life-changing decisions with confidence, clarity & resilience in just a few transformational sessions.

Clients usually work with me for 3 × 90 minute sessions to arrive at their aligned decision. I adapt my sessions to the clients needs so it’s completely bespoke, but here’s an idea of what the process might look like:…

I begin every session with a different guided meditation to regulate your nervous system and ensure that you’re in the right frame of mind to access your most powerful and resourceful self and make decisions from a place of assurance, love and possibility rather than fear.

Session 1 - Find Your North Star
Using playful NLP tools we’ll uncover your values, vision and purpose to find your North Star - what’s truly important to you and what should be guiding every decision you make. This will become your unique compass. 

Session 2 - Put Yourself In The Scenarios 
We’ll use NLP & somatic tools to delve into the different scenarios so you can visualise and feel what each would be like, uncovering important information from your intuition rather than relying solely on your cognitive brain to make a decision.

Session 3 - Make It Happen
Using a Generative Coaching model and somatic movement techniques, we’ll connect to your intuition & resources, walk through a logical timeline of actions to get to your desired outcome, identify any obstacles you face and turn them into resources, and create an anchor to keep you on track in your chosen direction.

By the end of the third session you will have made a confident decision.

My method…

Albert Einstein said, "We cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that we used to create them.”

Somatic and Generative Coaching move away from relying on cognitive thought, and strengthen the mind–body connection, helping you tap into your intuition and feel your goals, which is proven to be more effective in making those dreams a reality.

NLP tools and Life Coaching further support your growth by enhancing communication, emotional regulation, confidence, leadership, and meaningful habit change.

Together we uncover insights into limiting beliefs, obstacles holding you back and tracing where these ideas come from, reframing them with something more positive and productive. We find your opportunities and resources – unlocking your true potential and purpose.

You’ll see your ‘should I stay or should I go’ questions in a new light and be able to make complex, life-changing decisions that are fully aligned with who you are and want to be.

Three sessions are enough to get you there, but some clients decide to continue working together through the transitional process, to help with confidence, relational issues, goal-setting, creative thinking, resilience, mindset and more.

Send me a message and we can set up a free 30 minute Zoom call to see if we're a good fit for each other.

• Making major life-changing decisions
• Positive Mindset
• Define Your Purpose
• Achieve Your Goals
• Decision Making
• Trust Your Intuition
• Confidence
• Emotional Regulation
• Overcome Creative Block
• Public Speaking
• Enhancing Creativity
• Strengthen Identity & Empowering Beliefs
• Transform Limiting Beliefs & Negative Self-Talk
• Procrastination

Prices start from £90 for a one hour session, and £120 for 1.5 hours. Block bookings are highly recommended, and I offer a 10% discount for a block booking of 3 sessions or more. 

Testimonials

I spotted Lauren‘s post on Instagram at the perfect moment. Years of circular thoughts. What if’s, should I’s, became one direction after two sessions and a phone call.

 The sessions gave me time and space to process what I enjoy and value in life. Using those values to inform my decisions and silence the circular thoughts I’ve had for years.

 I feel happier, more settled, I have a direction that is forward rather than a circle. 

My husband noticed something had changed and I hadn’t told him about the sessions until I knew me, my wants, my values.

 Life coaching then changed direction into business coaching because that’s what I needed after I’d made my decision. 

Lauren knows what to ask and when to ask so you can get the answers you want. I’ve recommended her to so many friends. We should all have a session with Lauren, thank you so much. X

Karen B, 45 - Should I stay or should I change everything?

I was forever trying to decide whether to move my family out of London to buy a bigger house with more space and be closer to family, but I just couldn’t decide as I love London so much…On paper it made complete sense to make the move but I had a nagging feeling that it was the wrong choice. It took up so much head-space!

After several years (I’m embarrassed to say) of indecision, changing my mind like a see-saw, I’m so glad I found Lauren! After the first session I was able to see so clearly what it was about London that was so important to me, and everything just made sense. In the second session I was able to actually feel what it would be like to live in both scenarios, and it just become more and more clear why I couldn’t leave London, and not only that….it made me realise all the things I want to do to make my life here better, fuller and more ‘connected.’ The third and final session was all about getting really clear on my new goals for my life in London.

It felt so exciting to be able to finally feel settled and happy to stay where I am, with room for growth. I can now make plans knowing that I’m here for the long-haul, and really put down some roots.

The guided meditations were so helpful in shifting my mindset and relaxing into the session so that I could get the best out of our time together (I’m practicing them at home too), and lots of the tools were quite fun and playful. I really looked forward to the sessions. Thank you, Lauren!

JP, 47 – Should I stay in London, or should I go back to my hometown?

My indecision was multi-layered! Not only was I not sure which city I should be living in, I also wasn’t sure if I should be going part-time so I could do a course, or start my own business…or move town to live with my partner. I didn’t know where to start!

Lauren was able to help me break it down and see a logical order to these decisions. She used meditation and somatic modelling which I loved as I’m someone who feels things a lot, but never know whether to trust it or not. She brought some much needed logic, but also let me trust my intuition too. Some interesting stuff from my past popped up which I hadn’t realised was so relevant, so we did another session to work on that, which made a massive shift!

I’m now in the process of moving cities and going part-time so I have more time to work on my creative projects, and for the first time I actually feel excited about it rather than anxious and constantly questioning myself. Can’t recommend Lauren enough!

CP, 43 – Should I stay in my job or should I pursue my creative passion? 

I couldn’t decide whether to leave my husband as we had drifted apart - I felt lonely and like I was just treading water, but knew that living separately would be so sad for our son (and us too) but perhaps we’d move on and find true happiness. Not an easy decision.

Through the coaching with Lauren I was able to see what I truly wanted out of life and what was most important to me. I made up my mind to leave him, and through the coaching I felt confident and positive about the decision, and could see a way forward.

HOWEVER (plot twist!) when I talked to my husband about it, in a positive, loving, caring way (which the coaching definitely helped me to do), everything changed between us…I think because I was able to articulate so clearly what I wanted, my husband completely changed and we decided to stay together!

Since then our relationship has grown so much, and we are closer than ever. I was able to stay knowing it was absolutely the right decision, and stop constantly thinking about it. I just needed to get clear on what I wanted and then communicate it to him – so thank you Lauren! It felt like once I became clear on what I wanted, the universe shifted to make it happen!

KC, 48 – Should I stay with my husband, or should I go?