Can life coaching help with anxiety and stress?
In a word, yes! How? Both anxiety and stress are a mental and sometimes physical response to the way that we feel about ourselves or situations in our lives. Many people feel out of control, panicky or very tense. But it doesn’t need to be this way. If we look at things in a different way, understand what heightens levels of stress or anxiety and learn to respond and think differently, the feelings will naturally subside.
It may be difficult to do this alone, but with help it can really work. There are many people out there who believed being this way was just part of who they were and they’d have to put up with it. Yet weeks later, after working through it, their panic attacks have subsided, they feel much more in control and far less stressed.
Here are some common questions about anxiety and stress;
How can I make it go away when I don’t even know why I’m doing it?
Any response that we end up repeating can become, in a sense, a kind of habit. It is a habitual response to a particular trigger. That trigger may be a certain situation - or even the thought of it. With help you can understand the reason that it has been happening and change the way you respond.
The more I try the worse it gets, why?
Sometimes, although our intentions are good, the more pressure we put on ourselves to solve something, the more stressed or anxious we become. By working with a coach, that additional stress is taken away and you can just concentrate on feeling the way you want again.
If I go for help, will the coach just think I’m crazy?
We see people all the time dealing with stress and anxiety. It is a really understandable and common issue. We all need a bit of help sometimes (even coaches!). With a good coach any feelings of embarrassment or discomfort will disappear. The hardest part is making a decision to speak out and book to see someone. It gets easier from there on in.
Why am I doing this? I’m usually really strong and in control!
Anxiety and stress can happen to anyone. In fact sometimes it can feel worse if you are normally really capable or strong. Anxiety and stress, at their cause, happen for really logical reasons - it's just that the response has become really unhelpful. The more in control you like to be, the less you’ll like feeling these negative feelings - which can just add to the whole effect. If you want to be back to normal, own up to how you are feeling and get some help. You will feel a whole lot better and back to being you.
Will it just be a waste of money?
If you find the right coach, they will be able to help you deal with your anxiety or stress and feel like yourself again. Look for someone who is happy to have a chat and listen to what you have to say - rather than someone who is just trying to sell themselves. Ask how they might approach your situation. Also ask how many sessions they think you may need and costs. Although the coach might need to meet with you first they should be able to give you a rough idea based on experience. Then you can decide if it is worth it to you.
How long will it take to sort this out?
Surprisingly, even with people who have been suffering for quite a while, results can begin to happen very quickly. Within the space of a few weeks (sometimes much less) you will be beginning to feel much better and back in control. The key is to actually start the process of change. The sooner you do that, the sooner you will see and feel the difference.
If you have any questions, feel free to contact a coach to talk through how they might be able to help you. The chances are, you will be glad you did.
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About Rachel Coffey
One of Happiful magazine’s regular panel of experts, Rachel is a leading life coach and voice coach and communication coach. She works in a confidential, practical and intuitive way. Using innovative and person centred techniques, she helps her clients create real and lasting change in a short space of time. Enquiries are always warmly welcomed.