When you’re ambitious and striving for success, there are almost always a few pitfalls along the way. The key to not letting them get you down or deter you is to be resilient.
Having resilience means having an innate belief in yourself, seeking the positive in situations and learning from difficult situations.
Below coach Tina Campbell reveals her top 10 tips to help you build resilience:
1. Your brain will always focus more strongly on the negative but to be resilient you need to see things accurately. So ask yourself what is positive here? What’s working?
Once you see the whole picture you can better understand the problem you are facing and you will have a greater chance of solving it.
2. Remember that just because you think something is true doesn’t mean it is, so look for the evidence that shows what you are thinking is true and look for the evidence that shows what you are thinking is false. The reality is usually somewhere in the middle.
3. When faced with a difficult situation think how you have solved similar situations successfully in the past. Ask yourself what you can do rather than focusing on what you can’t.
4. Think about what strengths you have that you could use to help you deal with this situation.
5. Remember it is only when we are tested that we can find out how strong we are and how adaptable we can be. Think back to past situations that at the time felt bad but later led to good outcomes.
6. Practise self-compassion. When bad things happen it is normal and appropriate to feel hurt and upset. Acknowledge how you are feeling and give yourself time to adapt.
7. Take good care of yourself – get a good night’s sleep; drink plenty of water, eat lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and keep moving.
8. Practise paying attention to what is actually happening right now in this moment rather than fretting over the past or worrying about the future.
9. Being resilient doesn’t mean that you have to do things alone, ask for help.
10. Finally, remember that unless you are prepared to risk failing and getting things wrong that you will never find out how good you really are. Through failure we learn experience and with experience we learn to succeed.