How knowing yourself can build confidence

Considering we’ve spent our whole lives with ourselves, you’d think the answer to “who are you?”  would be there, ready and waiting for airplay. In fact, being asked to express who we truly are can leave us feeling awkward and unsure of what to say.

Why? Fear of being judged by others, as well as ourselves, could be behind it. There might be parts of us that we turn our back on and avoid getting familiar with because, we see them as flaws rather than parts of ourselves that can grow and develop.

How would it feel, to reach a point where you are confident in who you are and with that feel more accepting of yourself?

Here are some starting points that may help you get to know yourself better.

Recognise your strengths and areas for growth

Start by thinking about your personality traits. For example, here are a couple of mine: “I’m caring”, “I’m impatient”.

Ask people you trust for feedback

An outside perspective can also help you develop a deeper understanding of yourself. Consider asking people you trust to give you honest and constructive feedback about the qualities they see in you.

This doesn’t have to be a quick exercise. Add things as they come to mind and give yourself time to reflect.

Which of your qualities serve you well? Are there any traits or behaviours you’d like to work on or develop?

Spend time in your own company

Make room for it, if not every day, as regularly as possible. Make it time that’s spent quietly, with just you, your thoughts and senses.

I know this is easier for some than others, wherever your comfort zone with this lies, I encourage you to find something that you enjoy and that allows you some time to yourself.

Consider working with a life coach

If you’d like support getting to know yourself, recognising your strengths or building greater confidence in who you are, a life coach can help you explore these areas. Take some time to find a coach who feels like the right fit for you and your needs.