Recognising why you've got a fear of change

I want to talk to you today about change.

Some of us love change. It excites and exhilarates us and we embrace it, and all of its possibilities with wide open arms.

But some of us simply do not. Some of us hate the thought of change and fight it with all we have. Because with change comes uncertainty and vulnerability, and sitting with those feelings is too much. We fear judgement, rejection and failure and so stick with what we know, even when what we know makes us feel awful.

What I see in women concerned about change

I work with a lot of women through my one-to-one coaching who are apprehensive of change. Change worries them and they would do anything to avoid it, despite being unhappy and unfulfilled in certain areas of their life.

Quite often they've been dreaming about how different life could be. They talk about what they would like to be happening in their life, instead of their current reality. But getting started on making it happen is another story.

This could be going after that promotion they know deep down that they deserve, creating a better work/life balance before they end up burnt out, having the confidence to show up as their best self in their existing role or something completely different.

Maybe you’re the same? 

The massive realisation that they all have, is when they realise that there are lots of things that are scarier than change.

What can feel scarier than change?

This doesn’t stop change from feeling scary for my clients, it just puts into perspective that not making the change has other consequences, that for some can actually feel worse/more impactful. They might realise that going through their life without risk, could ultimately be the biggest risk to their feelings of fulfilment and happiness overall.

I’m sharing this with you because this mindset shift has helped so many women finally take that bold and brave step outside of their comfort zone. And let me tell you, these women have not looked back.

How to move forward from here

So my question for you today is this:

What feels scarier for you right now: making that change? Or staying exactly where you are?

If you feel like change is scary, but staying where you are right now could ultimately feel much worse in the long-run, then take this as your sign to take a small step towards the life you're really longing for - one small change at a time.