Confidence hack: 4 tips to know your worth
Most of us want to feel more confident. This is one of the most common limiting beliefs that I have coached most of my clients through because Self-confidence isn't just about feeling good. It fuels motivation and boosts success rates. When you believe in yourself and have confidence that you can do something you more likely will do it.

Confidence gives us the courage to take action and try new things. On the other hand, if you feel like you just do not measure up or you are incapable, you will expect to fail and so most likely do.
Research indicates that one of the most important parts of feeling confident is knowing your worth. Those of us who do not know our worth may consciously or unconsciously feel worthless. This can be a major drag on your confidence and happiness. The feeling of low self-worth can in turn affect your thoughts, emotions, actions and experiences.
So let us learn how to know and build our self-worth.
What stops us from feeling worthy?
When you base your self-worth on external things, you realise that your self-worth depends on things you can't control, like your job or weight. It's like building your house on sand. One bad day and the whole thing crumbles.
Instead, let's focus on building a strong foundation of self-worth from the inside out.
Here are four tips for better knowing your worth
- Learning is the new winning: When we focus on learning and growing, instead of getting hung up on failures or lack of approval, we can see them as a chance to improve. This way, setbacks become stepping stones instead of roadblocks.
- Do good, feel good: Helping others while helping yourself is a win-win. Focusing on how you can contribute to the world while accomplishing your own goals helps to boost your self-worth and makes you feel good.
- Do not depend on external contingencies: Ditch the idea that your worth depends on things like other people's approval or how you look. Focus on what matters to you, your values, positive qualities, character, personality, integrity and so on.
- Focus on your strengths and look within: What makes you, YOU? What are your talents and quirks? What do you do that no one else does? Recognizing your unique qualities and strengths and recognising your own superpower helps to build self-worth.
Building self-worth
Remember, building self-worth takes time and effort. Research indicates that our sense of worth is shaped by our experiences. Sometimes certain experiences in childhood or early messages we receive get internalised without our realising and it affects our worth. Experiences such as bullying in school, overtly critical parents or societal expectations based on your gender, race or other features can all affect our beliefs and how we feel about ourselves. These early influences can become our internal narrative. The good news is this narrative can be rewritten. It is not easy, but it is possible to change these beliefs. However, the longer you have had these beliefs, the harder it may be to change them.
The first step is to bring awareness to the beliefs that make you feel less worthy and less confident. Then by following the tips here, you can start to shift your worth more towards things you have control over so that you start feeling confident from the inside out.
