Why M.E.? /chronic fatigue syndrome/fibromyalgia
Although people with M.E./chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia are very ill and very debilitated, there are no medical diagnostic tests and no medical evidence for the disease. However you still need to see your doctor to rule out any other conditions. People with Fibromyalgia do have sore or trigger points in certain identifiable areas of the body. I suffered with severe fibromyalgia and M.E. for 12 years and nearly took my life a number of times as I was so ill and in such severe pain. I spent thousands of pounds on healing techniques and supplements until I found the combination of techniques that I now use with clients. Since using these techniques I have been symptom-free for the last four years and have never felt as good in my entire life as I do now.
Mind and body connection
The mind and body interact and either create health or disease such as M.E./CFS/fibromyalgia/IBS. The HPA axis (Hypothalamus/Pituitary/Adrenal axis) gets disrupted. This results in the hypothalamus which controls many functions in the body sending signals to the sympathetic system which is the stress response and immune system which sends them into overdrive resulting in debilitating symptoms and illness. These symptoms are a result of the mind/body alerting us that something isn’t right. This response occurs as a result of subconscious stress brought about by dissociating and suppressing painful memories. Suppressed emotions cause all kinds of unpleasant symptoms and illness in our body.
Why you need to listen to your emotions
Emotions need to be acknowledged and felt so that they can be released. We may need to take external action or may just need to feel and acknowledge the emotion. Ignoring them sends the brain into overdrive and results in it sending even more intense symptoms if we continue to suppress and ignore the emotions. The trauma also affects your thoughts, feelings and beliefs on a subconscious level which then affects how you feel, think and behave in the present day.
Trauma and adverse childhood experiences (ACES)
Your previous trauma may be having a bigger effect on you than you realise especially if there was no one there to support you and listen to you at the time it occurred. Trauma isn’t always physical or sexual, it maybe something like being told over and over again that you are stupid, useless, worthless, lazy, fat etc. It is possible to look at how much trauma you have had and its likely effect on you by looking at the ACES study (https://acestoohigh.com/got-your-ace-score/). ACES stands for Adverse Childhood Experiences and have been found to affect your physical, emotional and mental health throughout your lifetime. This study didn’t include other important traumas such as being picked on at school which would also be relevant. The study found that generally the more ACES’s someone had, the worse their health would be. They affect the emotional centres of the brain and often result in an overdeveloped stress response which affects that individual throughout their life.
Trauma (and this maybe something as small as a teacher calling us stupid or a child wetting themselves in school) gets stuck in the body when a child doesn’t feel loved and supported which enables them to release that trauma. It may be that they felt too embarrassed or afraid to seek help and support. Young children can’t always put what they are feeling into words. The trauma may have involved witnessing someone else such as a parent or sibling being physically, sexually or emotionally abused. Dr Bruce Lipton author of 'Biology of Belief', talks about epigenetics and how the cells of our body continue to tune into past unprocessed trauma.
Inherited family trauma
Author Mark Wolynn is one of many people to talk about the research and evidence on inherited family trauma in his article 'Breaking the Cycle of Inherited Family Trauma'. It talks about how we can be born with post traumatic stress without having suffered any trauma if previous generations have suffered trauma and post traumatic stress. He is one of many people to talk about how the Holocaust is affecting future generations and gives a specific client example.
He also talks about Yehuda’s research which demonstrates that we are three times more likely to suffer symptoms of PTSD if one of our parents had PTSD resulting in us being likely to suffer from anxiety and depression. Yehuda was one of the earliest researchers to show that people can experience physical and emotional symptoms of traumas they didn’t experience by inheriting them.
Why you can keep attracting the same difficult experiences into your life
When we have a trauma that we are unable to process and therefore repress, we form a negative or limiting belief about ourself, the world or other people. This then runs in our subconscious brain and we then keep attracting more incidences of similar things that keep reinforcing that belief and how we feel about ourself, the world and others. These may include beliefs such as “I’m unlovable”, “I’m worthless”, “I’m not important”, “my needs don’t matter”, “It’s not safe to express myself”, “the world is a dangerous place”, or any other negative self-talk that you hear.
How to change your health as well as what you feel and what you attract into your life
Techniques such as life coaching, Emotional Freedom (EFT), matrix reimprinting and NLP allow you to find the source of the trauma whether it be in your life, previous generations or past life and transform it along with the limiting beliefs so that the trauma and limiting beliefs no longer affects you. This in turn transforms your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well-being.
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