The art of knowing you - mastering self-awareness

Self-awareness is often described as the cornerstone of personal growth and development. It's the ability to understand oneself on a deeper level, acknowledging not only our strengths but also our weaknesses, our thoughts, our emotions, and our behaviour. The journey towards self-awareness is the art of knowing you.


In this article, I will showcase nine factors of self-awareness and how to use them in daily practices to understand yourself better, so that you can become the best version of yourself.

1. Think before you speak

One of the critical aspects of self-awareness is the practice of thinking before you speak. It's about understanding the impact of our words on ourselves and others. When we take a moment to reflect before responding, we're better equipped to communicate effectively and empathetically, leading to healthier relationships and building a like-minded network that thrives.

If you have nothing good to say, don’t say anything at all.

Activity: Mindful communication

Take a day to practice mindful communication. Before responding to someone, pause for a moment and consider how your words may be received. Notice any patterns in your communication style and think about how you can improve it.

2. Tough love

Self-awareness also involves the ability to exercise ‘tough love’ towards ourselves. It means recognising our shortcomings without self-judgment. Instead of being overly critical, we embrace our imperfections and use them as opportunities for growth. It’s being harsh to help someone else overcome a problem, it might not be something you want to hear, but you will need to hear it in order to move past whatever is going on.

Tough love is the hardest, but most necessary form of love.

Activity: Self-compassion journal

Start a self-compassion journal. Whenever you notice self-criticism, write it down, and then reframe it with a compassionate and constructive perspective. Over time, this practice will help you become kinder to yourself and others.

3. Controlling emotions

Emotional self-awareness is the foundation of emotional intelligence. It means recognising our feelings and understanding their origins. By controlling our emotions rather than letting them control us, we can navigate life's challenges with resilience and grace. Remember you are in control!

Control your emotions or they will control you.

Activity: Emotional check-ins

Set aside a few minutes each day for emotional check-ins. Reflect on your feelings, their triggers, and how they influenced your actions. This practice will enhance your emotional self-awareness over time.

4. Overcoming the 'I don't know'

Self-aware individuals are less likely to respond with "I don't know" when faced with a problem. Instead, they embrace curiosity and self-reflection to find solutions. This attitude fosters a growth mindset, where challenges become opportunities to learn and evolve.

Never let what you don't know stop you from doing what you do know.

Activity: Curiosity challenge

Challenge yourself to ask "Why?" or "How can I?" instead of responding with "I don't know" when confronted with a problem or question. This simple shift in mindset can lead to innovative solutions.

5. Are you an onion?

Self-awareness often reveals that we are like onions with many layers. It's about peeling back those layers and examining our beliefs, values, and motivations. As we uncover our innermost selves, we gain a deeper understanding of why we act and think the way we do.

Life is like an onion; you peel off one layer at a time. Sometimes you weep and sometimes you make soup.

Activity: Journal your layers

Create a personal 'layers of me' journal. In each entry, explore a different aspect of your personality, values, or beliefs. This practice will help you discover hidden facets of yourself.

6. Opening your mind

Having an open mind is essential for self-awareness. It means being receptive to different perspectives and ideas. By expanding our horizons, we become more adaptable, empathetic, and open to personal growth.

Our mind is like a parachute. It doesn't work if it isn't open.

Activity: Explore new perspectives

Dedicate time each week to explore new perspectives. Read books, watch documentaries, or engage in discussions with people from diverse backgrounds. Reflect on how these experiences broaden your understanding of the world.

7. It's OK to be wrong

Embracing the idea that it's okay to be wrong is a sign of emotional maturity. Self-aware individuals are not afraid to admit when they're wrong because they understand that making mistakes is an integral part of the learning process.

Being wrong is the only way I feel sure I've learnt anything.

Activity: Embrace a growth mindset

Cultivate a growth mindset by reframing mistakes as opportunities for learning and growth. When you make a mistake, reflect on what you've learned and how you can apply it in the future.

8. Intentions

Understanding the intentions behind our actions is crucial. Self-awareness allows us to align our actions with our values and intentions. It helps us make choices that resonate with our authentic selves.

When your intentions are clear, so is the way.

Activity: Define your core values

Take time to define your core values. List the values that matter most to you and reflect on how they align with your actions and decisions. Adjust your choices to better align with your values.

9. Mastering self-talk

The way we talk to ourselves matters. Self-awareness enables us to recognise and challenge negative self-talk. By fostering a positive internal dialogue, we boost our self-esteem and cultivate a healthier self-image.

Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.

Activity: Positive affirmations

Practice positive affirmations daily. Replace negative self-talk with affirmations that promote self-love, confidence, and resilience. Over time, these affirmations can reshape your self-image.

In conclusion, the art of knowing you is a journey worth embarking on. It leads to personal growth, improved relationships, and a deeper connection with your authentic self. As a life coach, I am here to guide and support you on this transformative journey. Together, we can explore these facets of self-awareness and empower you to become the best version of yourself.

By incorporating these activities into your life, you can gradually enhance your self-awareness, setting the stage for personal growth, improved well-being, and a deeper connection with your authentic self. Self-awareness is not a destination but a lifelong journey, and every step you take brings you closer to knowing and embracing the true you.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Life Coach Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Written by Luke Kingston, Accredited Life Coach (AC) NLP Practitioner
London, Middlesex, UB5

I'm Luke, a passionate life coach dedicated to empowering young adults (16-30) in their personal growth journey. Helping you to find direction, overcome limiting beliefs, and master effective communication. Thrive and become your best self today!

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