Is it time to meet your inner child?

I meet my inner child every day now. I meet her amongst the childlike joy of doing a spin and a skip on my morning walk and I meet her amongst the tears when I cannot find the words to express my frustration. I meet her as I sing gleefully at the top of my lungs, and I meet her amongst the rage as I fly ‘off the handle’ unexpectedly at someone I love. And I meet her everywhere in between. And the more I meet her, the more I know her, the more I know myself and the more peace and calm are invited into my life.  
Healing or reparenting your inner child is a process, a journey, the building of a trusting relationship. It is not a one-off event. As John Bradshaw, author of ‘Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child’ puts it,


“When you are finished [the healing work], no band will play, calling you to a banquet. However, if you’ve done your work well, you can take your inner child to dinner and listen to a good band. You will be more serene and peaceful."

I think this statement sums up the power of doing ‘the work’ beautifully because it really does lead to an abundance of ever-growing and ever-evolving inner peace.  

Finding your inner child

The journey of meeting and connecting with your inner child may well require some support and facilitation. In doing ‘the work’, transformational healing will take place. Below are just a few examples of how actively engaging in this work can help you.

It can take you from:

  •  chronic stress to calm competence
  • an overthinking ‘monkey’ mind to an observing mind, acknowledging thoughts for what they are
  • harshness and judgement of self, to loving curiosity and self-compassion
  •  carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders and taking responsibility for everyone else’s problems, to remembering that you are worthy of meeting your own needs first and foremost
  • people pleasing and perfectionism, to authenticity and purposeful living
  • feeling pulled to assert control (e.g. in work, a relationship, food, exercise, etc.) to finding flexibility and freedom
  • spontaneous age regression (e.g. temper tantrums, giving the silent treatment) to noticing your behaviour patterns and being able to reparent yourself in those situations
  • procrastination, worry and indecision to clarity, personal power and aligned action-taking

Inner child work supports you to get deeply in touch with your feelings, needs and desires. This journey will be unique to everyone as we have all had unique upbringings.

At its core, it is about meeting yourself with a loving curiosity and holding space for yourself, your emotions, patterns and behaviours. It is about self-discovery and learning how to reparent yourself with mindfulness techniques, self-compassion practices, boundaries and validation.

Therapeutic coaching and dynamic hypnotherapy

If you feel as if something is ‘out of kilter’ or out of alignment in your life, and you have a sense that there is more to life than this for you, therapeutic coaching and dynamic hypnotherapy can be incredible tools to help you heal and find more of you and your truth. Coaching will support you to define what you want more of in your life and to understand your current circumstances and situation, increasing awareness of any blocks and obstacles. Alongside this, dynamic hypnotherapy, allows us to effectively rewire subconscious patterns that are no longer serving you with where you want to go in life. It also allows you to heal the wounded inner child on a very deep level.

If you are interested in exploring more about how inner child healing works, and specifically how therapeutic coaching and dynamic hypnotherapy can support you, please get in touch via my profile, or visit my website to book a free discovery call.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Life Coach Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Written by Emma Humphrey, Wellbeing & Mindset Coach and Dynamic Hypnotherapist
Peterborough, Cambs, PE6

Emma holds a distinction-level diploma in personal performance coaching (via the Coaching Academy). Her mission is to support people through coaching to be well, feel well and live well through making changes in life, career, mind, and body.

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