Coaching & Mentoring for Young Males: With Emerge & M Barnes-Smith

Coaching & Mentoring for Young Males: With Emerge & M Barnes-Smith


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Emerge Coaching & Mentoring for Young Males


  • 1:1 and group support for young males aged between 16-24
  • To support young males with their mental, emotional and physical health
  • A safe and confidential space to talk and express how you/they feel, think and see the world: without fear of judgement, criticism or ridicule.
  • To empower the young male to take responsibility for their life and choices.


From a young age, males are often told that ‘being a man’ means you need to be tough, strong, dominant and show no weaknesses. Emotions and feelings are left unacknowledged or bottled-up, and left to manifest only as anger and sometimes aggression.

Young males are often under a lot of pressure to prove their masculinity in ways that put them and others at risk, and they are influenced by cultural expectations of how they should be behave.

Stereotypes associated with “being a man” can be harmful for young males as they don’t allow the space for the individual to fully express themselves and their emotions, and this will have a massive impact on the quality of their relationship with themselves and others.

OUR AIM is to intervene early enough in a young males life, and to engage in a conversation around what ‘being a man’ means, on their terms. This way, they can begin to see the world from a confident position and make decisions in their life that empowers their identity.


  • Services are for anyone who associates themselves as being male
  • 1:1 sessions are conducted face to face with our professionally trained, DBS checked and insured coaches and mentors.
  • You primary and direct contact will be Matt Barnes-Smith


  • Package sessions of 6, 9 or 12 sessions
  • Session time of 60 or 90 minutes
  • On a weekly or bi-weekly basis
  • Based in Hitchin, Hertfordshire, with sessions conducted from multiple convenient professional locations.
  • Session can be conducted at your home or via Skype if required (please enquire for further information)


  • What are your costs?

If you are interested in discussing the above services, please contact Matt to arrange a short chat about yours or your sons circumstances.

I offer a free, no obligation, consultation meeting before any decision to work together is made. After this meeting, I can send you details of my packages & pricing structures.

  • Are your services confidential?

Yes, 100%. The contracted relationship is between the coach & mentor and the young male. Anything that is discussed during sessions stays between the two individuals, and is not reported back to parents. If parents wish to be involved in the sessions this needs to be agreed with the young male before an agreement to work together is finalised.

  • Do you offer therapy services?

We do not offer traumatic therapy or counselling services, however we are happy to direct you in the right direction if this is you preferred service.

  • What subjects can you help with?

Here are some examples of areas I can work with you or your son;

  • Masculinity
  • Anger
  • Fear
  • Worry
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Self-esteem
  • Self-belief
  • Confidence
  • Goal, dreams, next steps
  • Body Image
  • Heath & Wellbeing
  • Fitness & Exercise
  • School & Education
  • Exams
  • Careers
  • Communication
  • Hobbies
  • Friendships & Relationships
  • Bullying
  • Phobias
  • Understanding others
  • Choices & decisions
  • Happiness
  • Identity
  • Values & beliefs
  • Habits - breaking and forming
  • Embarrassment
  • State Management

For any other specific areas that are not listed above, please call to discuss.

Training, qualifications & experience

1:1 session are conducted face to face with our professionally trained, DBS checked and insured coach and mentors.


"Working with Matt has been absolutely life changing, he has a huge talent for connecting with people no matter what their background is and has a fresh outlook on the world and the society we live in. He has helped me step out of my comfort zone and given me the confidence and self belief to achieve my dreams, and doing what I love has made me happier than I have ever been. He is not only a wonderful coach but also has become a great friend and I would recommend him to anyone." B Brown

"Matt has a wonderful enthusiasm and positive approach to life coupled with the ability to really understand the pressures of today’s society which makes him an ideal person to help young people. He has helped my son grow in confidence, shown  him how to manage  his emotions, how to present himself and communicate more effectively with people and how to overcome challenging issue that he finds worrying. He has provided  an environment  for him to be able to discuss his anxieties and problems without embarrassment or judgement. As a result of the sessions he now believes he can achieve his ambitions and dreams and has put into place the necessary building blocks to fulfil these both on a vocational and social level. As a parent I would recommend Matt without hesitation." S Brown

"I had found myself stuck in a rut and it was getting harder to change my ways. I booked some sessions, and am so pleased I did. His kind, calm manner and patience to listen, no matter how big or small my obstacles were was comforting. His methods and phrases will stay with me for years to come. Will 100% recommend to anyone." J Gorman

"Being coached has been such a valuable experience. From day one we built great rapport and trust. Matt is neutral and free of judgement, professional, and positively challenging – keeping me on track and helping me learn and develop. This meant I felt comfortable disclosing very personal insights and thoughts that I have not verbalised to other close friends and family." C Moore

"My sessions were an exceptional experience, taking me to new levels of thinking and confidence that I never knew existed. Matt used clever and imaginative ideas to help me find ideas and ways of how I can overcome my obstacles. He was patient, kind and unassuming." Helen Griffiths

"I have had to step out of my comfort zone and face some of my fears. Thanks to the sessions I have managed to become more comfortable in promoting myself and expressing my thoughts and ideas. I am very satisfied with my sessions and feel it has helped me both professionally and personally." H Griberg

"Matt really helped me to open up new possibilities that I had never considered. I feel much closer to my goals and have a definite action plan that I know I am capable of following." J Devonshire

"Matt helped me with various concerns I had in my life that were causing anxiety. I found his style and method to be very effective and he worked with me and tailored his approach to get the best participation from me. I often got frustrated that I couldn’t explain how I was feeling but Matt was always patient and listened to what I was saying before coming back with a question that helped me to open up and get the best out of our sessions." K Heasman

Photos & videos

  • As featured in Positive Kids Magazine
  • Matt


Please see FAQ

Further information

Emerge offers a "Young Mens Group" session FREE OF CHARGE, on the fourth Thursday of every month. These a conducted from the Hitchin Youth Trust and are for 18-24 year olds to connect and talk about life together. 

Please enquire for more information. 

Hitchin, SG4

Type of session

Online life coaching: Yes
Telephone life coaching: Yes
Face to face life coaching: Yes

Practical details

Sign language: Unspecified
Other languages: None


Wheelchair access: Unspecified


We are available at various times of the day 7 days a week - please call to discuss further.