Don’t use the ‘R’ word! - Redefining the concept of retirement

Don’t use the ‘R’ word! That's what I hear from many clients who approach me for coaching over the age of 50. The word in question is "retirement". There I said it!

For some, the word conjures up images of rocking chairs, endless bingo games, and a general slowing down of life. However, if you're over 50 these days, chances are this traditional view of retirement doesn't resonate at all. There's good reason for not liking the word!

The notion of retirement is outdated

Firstly, the idea of retirement as a winding-down period feels outdated. Today’s over-50s are more dynamic than ever. Often healthier, more active, and more engaged with the world around them, retirement suggests an end, a sort of withdrawal from the vibrant, active lives being lived. After decades of building careers, raising families, and contributing to communities, the thought of just stopping can feel not only unrealistic but undesirable. Many see this stage of life as an opportunity to pursue new passions, learn new skills, and even start new careers.

Furthermore, the traditional notion of retirement can feel limiting. It suggests that one’s most productive and meaningful years are behind them, which simply isn’t true. Today’s over-50s are often just hitting their stride. With wisdom, experience, and often, more financial freedom than before, there's an eagerness to travel, volunteer, start businesses, or engage in activities that were not possible during earlier years. The term “retirement” doesn’t capture this sense of continued growth and exploration.

Another reason many over-50s dislike the word retirement is that it doesn’t reflect their identity. For decades, they've identified as professionals, caregivers, community leaders, or all of the above. These roles don’t just vanish at 65. The term “retirement” can feel like it erases these identities, reducing lives to a series of leisure activities. But there is more to people than the sum of their past job titles or family roles. They are multifaceted individuals with a lifetime of skills, interests, and dreams still to be realised.

The word retirement also fails to account for the diversity of experiences among those over 50. Not everyone’s journey is the same. Some might want to continue working because they love what they do, while others might seek new endeavours. Some may need to keep working for financial reasons. For many, the so-called retirement age doesn’t align with their personal or financial goals. There is a desire for language that reflects the reality of their lives, not a one-size-fits-all term that doesn’t fit at all.

So, what’s the alternative? 

Many prefer terms like “reinvention,” “next chapter,” or “second act.” These phrases encapsulate the idea that life after 50 is not about slowing down but evolving. It’s a time to reassess goals, focus on passions, and prioritise happiness and well-being. Whether picking up a new hobby, travelling the world, or spending more time with family and friends, this stage of life is about living fully and intentionally.

Share the load

If you’re over 50 and feeling like the best is yet to come, but unsure how to get there? One-to-one coaching can make a world of difference. 

Coaching provides clarity. At this stage in life, you’ve accumulated a wealth of experiences, skills, and wisdom. Coaching helps sift through all that to identify what truly matters to you now. It’s about honing in on your passions, values, and goals to create a clear vision for your future. Whether it's exploring new career opportunities, pursuing creative endeavours, or planning a fulfilling retirement, coaching gives you the direction needed.

Secondly, coaching offers personalised support. Life after 50 can come with unique challenges — perhaps adjusting to an empty nest, caring for ageing parents, navigating retirement, or dealing with health changes. As a trained coach and practising occupational therapist, I have developed a wealth of insight into many of these experiences people face, as well as facing some of them.

Coaching provides a safe, confidential space to discuss these issues and develop strategies tailored to your specific circumstances. It’s about having someone in your corner who listens without judgment and helps you navigate the path ahead.

Moreover, coaching fosters confidence. It’s common to feel uncertain or even stuck during this life transition. Coaching empowers you to recognise your strengths and achievements, bolstering your self-belief. This renewed confidence enables you to tackle new challenges and seize opportunities with enthusiasm and assurance.

Finally, coaching is action-oriented. It’s not just about talking; it’s about doing. We set actionable steps through regular sessions and hold you accountable for them. This ensures that you’re continuously moving forward and making tangible progress towards your goals.

So, if you’re ready to embrace the next chapter with purpose and passion, one-to-one coaching is the perfect place to start. Together, we’ll turn your dreams into reality and make your 50s and beyond the most vibrant years yet.