5 things confident people do

Are you willing to 'do the work' and make an effort each day to stretch yourself out of your comfort zone to increase your confidence? Success and confidence don't fall in our lap; we have to take action and learn from experiences to get the results we desire.

1. Confident people have management techniques for anxiety and fear 

Setting aside some time each day to practise mindfulness meditation, pray, chant, go for a walk or run, practise yoga or listen to some calming music helps us reconnect with ourselves, grounds and centres us and may work to manage anxiety and stress.

2. Confident people are not too proud to ask for help or for advice

Not asking for help and struggling is a futile exercise. Confident people are not full of pride, so they don't feel awkward asking for help or admitting they don't know everything. They listen to learn and learn to listen, and when they need to, they reach out.

3. Confident people are not living in fear

They are aware fear is dispelled every time they rely on their inner strength and face uncertainty with courage. They watch their self-talk and notice overly critical or unhelpful self-talk and consider whether there's a more balanced way to respond. This allows them to give their full attention to the events transpiring and override fear so they can cultivate a healthy self-image even in the face of adversity. 

4. Confident people turn an adversity into an opportunity

They keep situations in perspective as they understand no problem means the end of their world. They don't become defined by failure when things go pear-shaped. They realise every situation offers a unique opportunity to respond in a more mindful way and that they can transform an obstacle into an opportunity by shifting their perspective.

5. Confident people focus on their inner circle

They are careful not to spend too much time or energy around people that they don't feel boost them up. They are aware enough to know that whoever they associate with, they may emulate certain behaviours of. Confident people are not rude or aggressive to people not within this; they just don't engage with them for long or hook into their drama. 

How confidence coaching can help

If low confidence is holding you back, confidence coaching can give you space to explore what may be contributing to it. A coach can help you notice patterns such as unhelpful self-talk, consider how you respond to challenges and setbacks, and identify practical steps towards feeling more confident in the situations that matter to you.

Building confidence can take time. The aim isn't to become fearless or unaffected by difficulties, but to develop greater trust in your ability to respond to them and keep moving towards what's important to you.