3 ways to reduce the impact of catastrophising

Catastrophising refers to a tendency to perceive a situation as far worse than it actually is.

It means often imagining the worst outcome in a situation, no matter how unlikely that outcome might be. You might consider it like a snowball rolling down a hill. It might start small but as it gets quicker and the hill is steep, it grows larger and faster until it becomes a huge ball of anxiety and fear within us.

How do we catastrophise?

We catastrophise in a couple of ways:

1. By magnifying and imagining the worst possible outcome of something and blowing it out of all proportion.

2. Building up negative thoughts of a potentially disastrous future event and reinforcing them by playing it over in your head, increasing the anxiety.

These are equally distressing for a person and prey on people's minds reducing well-being.

Examples of catastrophising:

• Imagine you have had an argument with a family member. Catastrophising creates scenarios in your head that sound like: “She’s never going to speak to me ever again.", “This is a nightmare. Everyone will hate me for this!”
• You made a small mistake at work. Instead of looking at this as a one-off incident, you might start to catastrophise about it and think: “I had a good job, but after this, I’ll never get that promotion and my boss will be on my back all the time.”, “I’ll lose my job because of this. I won’t be able to pay the mortgage. I won't be able to pay my bills. And my family will suffer. I may have to sell the house!"

These are typical examples of catastrophising. A single event, which normally people consider to be small and less significant, suddenly spirals into something much bigger and anxiety-inducing.

Catastrophising can hugely impact our lives, affecting relationships, careers, health and even day-to-day life. So it’s really important to notice when you are beginning to catastrophise and what these patterns of thought are creating for you. And then find ways to begin to manage them more helpfully for yourself.

What is actually happening?

When you are somewhere that creates anxiety within you or you feel stressed, there (to some level) is a presence of a (perceived) potential threat or risk, signalling a reaction. In effect, a danger or risk to your safety has been 'identified' and the body essentially readies to deal with it. This can lead to catastrophising. Thinking worst case scenarios will trigger specific feelings, thoughts, and emotions that induce the effects of stress, anxiety and fear.

Often our instinct is to get away from these situations to try and reduce these unpleasant feelings. This is the stress response that initiates what has been called the ‘fight or flight’ mechanism. 

There is a difficulty, in that as a natural response if you do run, or act to avoid the situation, it becomes more likely that you might create an association in your mind with that situation or scenario. You then reinforce that anxiety and store it as a memory associated with that scenario. It can then be resurfaced each time you revisit that situation or place in future, replaying and creating similar anxiety or stress each time.

So, what can we do to relieve anxious thoughts?

1. Use your breath purposefully

By using your breath purposefully you can actually calm your own nervous system down more effectively by breathing in a managed way.

Here is a breathing technique to try; breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth.

Begin by breathing in, with your belly rather than your chest (if you aren’t sure how, put one hand on your belly as you breathe. You should feel with your hand as the belly rises and falls). Make sure your belly is rising as you breathe in rather than your chest. And then when you breathe out your belly should contract in again. 

Breathe in for four seconds, then hold your breath for a second or two and then breathe out slowly for eight seconds. Hold your breath for a second or two and start again.

Do this at least four times. (The longer you breathe purposefully, the more you will calm down.) This process takes just a minute or two and within that time you focus on breathing, on your belly, and on your counting.

2. Challenge and reframe your negative thoughts

By actively challenging catastrophic thoughts, you can create rational responses to irrational thinking by becoming more aware of what it is you are thinking about. Then ask yourself if there's real evidence to support these thoughts – challenging the thoughts rather than merely accepting them as factual. And then deciding to choose a different reason for that thought. Often, catastrophising involves irrational thinking and the thoughts in our heads have no substance when challenged.

Then consider an alternative thought, what could be a more realistic explanation for the situation? In effect, what would be better to believe about this? Challenge your negative assumptions and replace them with more balanced positive thoughts. 

If you can, seek the advice or perspective of a person you trust who knows you, to gain a more objective view of the situation.

Challenging negative thoughts will guide you through your thinking and enable you to find more helpful outcomes for your thoughts.

3. Managing discomfort

Although difficult, sometimes a strategy might be to learn to be able to sit with the stress or fear if you can and be brave enough to try to stay in that place or activity, even if stressful or uncomfortable to begin with, so you offer yourself the time to allow those feelings to naturally subside within you. 

The caveat with this is if you are in a ‘dangerous situation or personal physical threat’ that is entirely a different matter because personal security isn’t a memory or created through thoughts, it is an actual state of being.

But for the most part, the danger will be only perceived and not physical. It is more because we are assuming and then predicting something bad will happen. Mostly it is far less likely than we think.

Understanding this and that you can take action to cope with anxious thoughts and be safe, means you have some opportunity to overcome the anxiety. And that if you can sit with the discomfort, these thoughts will start to subside as you see there is no real danger.

Remember that reducing catastrophising is a process, not merely an on-off button you can push. It requires some effort and practice on your part, but it is entirely within your ability to achieve. 

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