Do you want to live a life you absolutely love? Dream big

Have you ever dared to dream big? Have you ever had a dream big enough that scares and excites you a little? Is there an idea that’s burning inside of you that you'd like to see come to fruition? Do you feel that you could be playing a bigger game than the one you’re playing?


If you want to achieve big things, reach what seems to be unthinkable, be financially free,  start a business, or have a dream job that allows you to travel the world — anything is possible. It starts with having the guts to dream big.

Dreaming big

Anyone who has achieved anything big started with a 'big dream.’

Most people do not dream big enough. Even the ones who think they are dreaming big enough, don’t. Nearly every one of my coaching clients at the start of our work together is afraid to dream big. However senior, however successful, or however wealthy. In private, when you talk to them, they are afraid to dream big.

Not dreaming big means you keep on doing what you are doing, what you know how to do. You may avoid risks, failure, discomfort, feeling stupid, and growth; all this just to feel comfortable and just to feel safe.

The thing is, there’s a problem here. Do you see what the problem is? There is a saying that, “If you keep doing what you're doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.” Nothing changes, nothing grows, and nothing gets better. The truth is we regret more the things we don’t do than the things we do.

And as humans, every single one of us wants to live the highest, truest expression of ourselves. Our well-being depends on it. For us to truly flourish in life, we have to dream big.

We are not born to just live a mediocre life; we are not born just to survive. We are born to flourish. Yet why are we so afraid to dream big? Why do we doubt our abilities? It is said that humans have around 50,000 thoughts a day, and our negativity bias means a high percentage (80%) of our thoughts are negative. And of those 80%, most of those thoughts are about ourselves. Do you know how damaging it is to our confidence when we constantly talk to ourselves (unknowingly) negatively, every single day?

We have seen photos of how damaging smoking is to our health. If we smoke every day, we see what it does to our lungs and that image is imprinted in the back of our minds. If we could only see a photo of how damaging our negative self-talk is to our mental health, it might just make us sit up, pay attention, and quit doing this.

Dreaming big is about intentionally thinking about the things we actually want to create in life instead of unintentionally letting our thoughts run wild and getting what we don’t want.

Creating your big dream

The first step to dreaming big

I want you to write this down in one powerful statement in a journal — somewhere that you will review it regularly. “My big dream is to…” and set a time frame for when you will achieve it.

Just before you do, I challenge you to two things.

  1. Can you make that dream bigger until it actually scares you a little?
  2. Can you make that dream happen faster? The time we give ourselves is usually the time it takes us to do it. Halve the time you initially thought you would need to achieve it.

We tend to dream small, and we all tend to give ourselves too much time to achieve them. In other words, this dream needs to be bigger in size and shorter in time.

The second step to creating your big dream

The second step is to watch your language. The words we speak create our reality, and the two most powerful words follow “I am…” Whatever we say after these two small words shapes our reality because our subconscious mind takes it as a command.

I know you all know this, yet study after study shows that we don’t practice it. You may think that positive self-talk doesn’t really make a difference, that it’s just a feel-good thing, that it doesn’t really change anything.

I am here to remind you that our self-talk is actually the fastest way to produce a self-fulfilling prophecy on a neurobiological level. Sounds complicated, yet it’s super easy.

When you have regular conscious, positive self-talk, your brain releases chemicals that not only make you feel good but also help you perform better and reach your goals faster.

If you’re a tennis fan, you'll know of Novak Djokovic, a Serbian professional tennis player, currently ranked world number one for a record seven times. He has won an all-time record 24 Grand Slam men's singles titles. Google the mindset of Novak Djokovic, and you will see in many of his interviews, he frequently shares his story, and his tips on how to build a winning mindset. And it starts with having the courage to dream big.

I love working with clients who dare to dream big, so if you’ve got a dream and you want to make it happen, you don’t have to do it all alone. It’s not a weakness to ask for help; it’s a strength. The smartest, the elite, the executives, and the professional athletes all have coaches, so it’s time to put it into action. Not tomorrow, not next week, not next year. Life is short; don’t waste another day. My advice is to start now, start before you’re ready, start today.

Want to know more or have a question? Reach out, message me, share your dream, and let’s partner and build it step by step together!"

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Bagshot, Surrey, GU19
Written by Susan Li, Wellbeing Coach, MSc in Positive Psychology, EMCC Accredited
Bagshot, Surrey, GU19

I am a Wellbeing Coach, committed to helping people achieve optimal wellbeing and lead happier, richer, more meaningful, more fulfilled lives.

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