Breaking out of the prison of indecision

Many of us can resonate with a feeling of being stuck. Trapped in our circumstances. Limited in our options. We tell ourselves that there’s nothing we can do, and so we settle back into the (dis)comfort of our own unhappiness. Months can pass; years even… until circumstances change things for us. Because one thing is for sure: change is coming. And you can choose to make it yours to own, or sit still and wait for the unknown.

Part of breaking out of this prison of indecision and taking control of our own lives is recognising that life is transient. Nothing stands still for long and the future is unknown, regardless of the choices that we make.
 
No matter how stuck you feel, you always have options. They may not be ideal, and it may mean taking some risks, but you always have a choice. Even deciding not to do anything about your situation is a choice in itself. Would you rather make choices and own the repercussions, or be life’s victim? 
 
What exactly is it that's preventing you from making the decision that will change your life for the better? Often, the story that you’re telling yourself – about all the reasons why you can’t make a change and all the things that are standing in your way that make it truly impossible - are your mind’s way of protecting you from your fear of the unknown. What if it’s the ‘wrong’ choice? What if I regret it? 
 
From the second you wake up in the morning until you go to bed at night, you are making decisions, big and small. An important thing to realise is that these choices are neither ‘good’ or ‘bad’, they are just choices; made in the moment based on the best information you have available to you.  

You might choose an egg salad sandwich over a BLT because it looks fresher. And you may then take a bite, and wish you hadn’t. But you move on to the next decision, and bank that data for a future lunch break. The decision you need to make today – be it big, or small – is not the be all and end all. It’s not win or bust. Whatever happens as a result, you will deal with it by making the next decision, and then the next.
 
Imagine you are in your eighties, and looking back at your present self. Would you say that you’re living your best and most authentic life? What advice would you give yourself? Doing this exercise helps you to tap into what’s really important to you, and helps you to establish your life goals. What needs to change, now, to ensure that you don’t look back on your life with regret?


If any of the above rings true for you and you’re ready to make a change in your life, perhaps I can help support you on your journey. To find out more, message me and book an appointment for a no-obligation consultation call. 

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Written by Helen Barnes

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Helen Barnes is a qualified coach specialising in leadership and personal development. Prior to coaching, she spent 15 years in PR and communications working in leadership roles within fast-paced agency environments.

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