Tuba Mutlu

You may already know what you need to do. Say no, protect your time, stop over-explaining, charge what you deserve, switch off or trust your decisions.

The hard part is actually doing it when guilt, fear of disappointing someone,or the pressure to get it "right" shows up.

If you're employed or self-employed and want to build a life that gives you more freedom, but somehow everyone else's needs, requests and reactions keep getting in the way, we might be a good fit.

My work is about helping you ditch the shoulds, stop organising your life around other people's comfort and start making choices you can stand behind.

Why I do what I do?

I grew up seeing firsthand what happens when you spend your life putting other people's needs before your own. You end up living a life shaped by everyone else's expectations instead of your own choices. 

I've always questioned the route we're expected to follow. When I was 19, I left home, moved to another country to study costumes, but ended up changing careers four times, choosing to explore what felt right for me rather than simply doing what was expected. 

What I Offer 

•​Self-trust coaching with mindset focus on setting boundaries and stick to them, even when guilt shows up. 

•​A space to untangle overthinking before it turns a simple decision into a three-day committee meeting in your head. 

•​Help spotting where people-pleasing, perfectionism, over-responsibility or fear of judgement are quietly running the show. 

•​Coaching through real-life situations you experience. Such as requests from clients, colleagues or managers, unpaid extras, availability, difficult conversations, asking for what you're worth, family expectations, and the moments when you want to say no but hear yourself saying yes. 

•​A shift from looking outside yourself for permission or reassurance towards trusting your own judgement. 

•​More internal freedom. Clearer choices, stronger boundaries and less mental noise. 

How We Work: 

You don't need to stop feeling guilty before you say no. We build your "no muscle" so you can hold a boundary while the guilt is still there. 

1.​Awareness: we find the belief underneath the "should", the thing that stops you setting a boundary or sticking to it. 

2.​Pattern: we spot where that same belief shows up across your life, with clients, family, friends or colleagues. 

3.​Values: we find what you stand for, because a boundary needs a value to stand on, or it's just willpower. 

4.​Repetition: you practise saying no until it's automatic, not a fight every time. 

5.​Holding the line: when people push back, and they will, you learn it's expected, not a sign to cave. 

I won't tell you how to run your life, and I also won't sit there like a decorative houseplant while you go round in circles. The goal is not for you to depend on me for answers. It's for you to catch the pattern sooner, tolerate the discomfort better and trust yourself enough to choose differently. 

What I Believe About This Work 

•​Knowing the right answer isn't the same as acting on it in the moment. 

•​Boundaries aren't about controlling other people. They're about being clear on what you will and won't do. 

•​Other people are allowed their reactions. Your job isn't to prevent their disappointment. 

•​Self-trust grows through practice, not by waiting until you feel 100% sure. 

Do You Have The Time? 

Do you have 60 minutes a week, or every other week, for yourself? Sessions are weekly or fortnightly and we work on it together. Between sessions, you may be asked to journal and practise small habits in real life. But no piles of homework. 

We're Likely To Work Well Together If… 

•​You value freedom. This one's non-negotiable. 

•​You're a big-picture thinker who likes to think out loud. 

•​You can't stand injustice, including when it's done to you. 

•​You're loyal and you respect people's time, and you want yours respected back. 

•​You love learning and you're curious about yourself. 

•​You're determined and open-minded, and you welcome a challenge. 

•​You want a thinking partner, not another authority figure. 

What I Can't Help You With 

•​I am not a business consultant and I will not build your business strategy, marketing plan or pricing model for you. 

•​I am not a career coach and I do not provide job-search, CV or career-placement services. 

•​I do not make decisions for you or tell you what you "should" do. 

•​I cannot guarantee that other people will like your boundaries, agree with your choices or stop being difficult. 

•​Coaching is not therapy, medical care, legal advice, financial advice or crisis support. If what you need sits outside my scope, I will say so. 

The Offer 

1:1 self-trust coaching for women who want to set boundaries with confidence, at home and at work and stick to them even when guilt shows up. 

Together we find the pattern that's costing you the most, whether that's people-pleasing, perfectionism, over-explaining or saying yes when you mean no. Then we work on it in your real life, so you can stop organising your life around other people's comfort and start choosing yourself. 

What You Can Walk Away With (If You Put the Work In)

The goal isn't just to get better at saying no. It's to have more time for yourself, build healthier relationships, set boundaries you can stick to, and trust your own decisions without constantly worrying about what everyone else thinks.

Ultimately, it's about having more freedom to live life on your own terms.

Coaching Fees

Single session: £150

3-session package: £360 (£120 per session)

6-session package: £720 (£120 per session)

Payment plans can be discussed for packages of 6 and more.

Payment via bank transfer.

Cancellation policy applies.