Tamara Nikolic

Hi, I'm Tamara and I help women build their confidence and a healthy self-esteem, by guiding them through the process of developing positive habits (mindset, beliefs, attitudes) and daily practices to enable them to reach their goals and ultimately feel fulfilled. 

So many of us go through periods of life when we feel that a lack of confidence is stopping us from achieving our goals and dreams. It starts with the thought or the feeling, and then we find ourselves in this endless loop of negative thinking, and before we know it, we are witnessing ourselves actively hiding, hesitating, not speaking up, and avoiding opportunities. We feel stuck and helpless and it feels disheartening and lonely.

If I were to ask you a question – “If you had more confidence, how would your life change for the better and how would you behave differently?” – what would your answer be?

When we start uncovering what is behind our lack of confidence, we often find a number of reasons: 

-       Excessive expectations
-       Harsh self-judgment
-       Self-doubt
-       Fear (of unknown; change; rejection; failure..)
-       Negative thought patterns and limiting beliefs (such as ‘I am not good enough’)

The first steps to making a long-lasting change are raising your self-awareness – understanding why you are where you are, why you feel the way you do, and why you think the way you’re thinking. This process of self-discovery is, in itself, hugely empowering and liberating. Imagine what a relief it would be to understand why we behave in a certain way!

We’ll then examine all different aspects that are causing you frustration so we can get to the source of the problem, as it is only then that we can start developing our willingness to practice self-acceptance, personal responsibility and personal agency that gives you the courage to create your own future.

Here are the 3 main outcomes you can expect to gain by working with me, all of which set a more empowered foundation from which to make a positive change in life:

1. Clarity
- on where you are now and where you want to be (life and work-wise)
- on what defines you- we'll work on increasing your self-awareness so you can understand and perceive your own thoughts, intentions, expectations, feelings, behaviours, strengths & weaknesses

2. Freedom
 - from self-imposed limitations: identifying and unpicking negative thoughts; limiting beliefs; assumptions and unhelpful behavioural patterns
 - from the stress cycle - learning not just how to handle stress, but how to manage what is actually feeding the stress in our lives

3. Confidence
- increasing self-esteem (self-regard & self-efficacy) by committing to practices of self-acceptance, self-responsibility and self-assertiveness
- increasing emotional intelligence to develop the ability to recognise internal states and triggers so you can choose how to respond (rather than impulsively react) and ultimately build strong, healthy relationships

If this resonates with you, I would love to hear from you.

To book a free 40-minute Consultation call, please contact me. 

Building Confidence / Increasing Self-belief / Low Self-esteem/ Limiting Beliefs/ Negative thought patterns / Critical Inner Voices / Clarity / Purpose / Values / Motivation / Procrastination / Fulfillment / Work-Life Balance / Time Management / Life Coaching / Personal Growth and Development/ Positive mindset / Developing positive habits

I offer a 40-minute Consultation call, which is complimentary and non-obligatory. The purpose of the call is to get to know each other, discuss coaching and how coaching can help, specifically how I can support you, and how we might be able to work together.

During this call, together we'll discuss the fees and packages available to best fit your needs.

I work Monday to Friday and can also offer evening sessions. 

How I work:

The power of coaching begins with our relationship, which I see as an equal partnership engaging in conversation that leads to action. Establishing an effective and confidential coach-client relationship is important to me, as I want to create a space for you that is safe, considerate and non-judgmental, to enable you to freely explore any challenges.

As your coach, I will be supportive and encouraging of your journey, whilst providing accountability. My approach to coaching is holistic and I integrate scientifically tested and approved methods, such as Cognitive Behavioural Coaching (changing habits), Positive Psychology, Mindfulness (Mindful Practice/Living), Transactional Analysis (building strong relationships) and Emotional Intelligence (effectively managing our emotions, rather than emotions directing our behaviour).

Testimonials:

"I cannot express how much I appreciate and value the time Tamara and I spent working together. I contacted her at a very special moment of my life; I was returning to work from maternity in a company going through a huge reorganization. I found myself lost and insecure as never before in my career – and in my life – and what is worst: stuck, and not really knowing which direction to take. Long story short, Tamara helped me to dust my vision off, sharpen it, put my crown back on my head and work towards it!

I am now at a completely different place and great things are happening! There was serious work and reflection in this journey, of course, and she was there all along the way, helping me to keep focused and accountable and throwing in the right questions and ideas to get me out of thinking loops. Plus, she helped me to do this pretty fast. Honestly, she has been to my life like the Nitro button in Too Fast too Furious.
Extremely intuitive, she always taps on the essence of things, quickly identifying your needs and stretching when needed to get the best out of you. She is practical and gentle, and has a great sense of humour, so the sessions are also fun! She is a total rock star and I am really grateful that I found her! Thanks a lot, Tamara!!"

Naomi Peña

"Finding Tamara has been a god send for me. Through circumstances I had lost direction and self confidence and I had to find a new career. From the beginning Tamara’s approach and professionalism was empathetic and understanding and helped me to feel at ease opening up her and her sense of humour added light to our sessions. Tamara gave me the tools to help clarify my thoughts, find my values and see what my strengths where. I was able to organise and set goal that I actually achieved and was able to see progress for once. She helped me put my skills into the right use and align with my values which I had struggled with for so long, once this was in place the foundations to my direction started to appear. Tamara has given me my self-confidence and a feeling I have a purpose again, she is a fantastic skilled coach I will continue to work with her and recommend to anyone needing clarity in any area to work with Tamara"

Emma Arslanian, Spain

"I worked with Tamara for almost a year and it has been a fantastic journey especially since I was trying to figure out my life and business. Tamara was very helpful, positive, and was a great listener. She helped in focusing in the things that were stopping me from moving forward by asking the right questions. I gained more clarity and confidence about what to do next but also more clarity about who I am and what I want to achieve. I definitely recommend her as a coach!"

Latifa Aarab, Consultant

"I have been working with Tamara for the past 4 months and navigating a challenging time, which I didn’t expect when I started the coaching. Her support was unconditional. Her ability to guide you forward is gracious. I am not an easy person to deal with and yet Tamara found the sweet spot so that I can allow myself to feel vulnerable and there I found the way forward. It was a real pleasure. So recommended."

Giulia, Director & Lead Interior Architect 

"I have had the great pleasure of working with Tamara for the last six months. She has really helped me work with some mindset and confidence issues which were causing me a lot of difficulty in the work environment - with the added benefit that this has also helped me in my life outside the workplace. Tamara has a lot of different techniques and experiences to share which really chimed for me, I always felt like she was able to adjust her approach and offer suggestions based on what was most resonating with me. She had some amazing insights to bring as well, so it wasn't just her reacting to what I had to bring. The thing that I appreciated the most was that Tamara brought some personal insights and engagement into our sessions which enhanced my ability to dive more deeply into my experiences. It felt like I was talking to a very wise and knowledgeable good friend which made the experience more personal than my previous work with similar professionals. I plan to work with Tamara more in the future and would not hesitate to recommend her."

Georgina, Scientific Leader

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