Lila Ramsahai - Wellbeing Life Coach and Psychotherapist, Relationships & Career
Hi, I'm Lila and I am an accredited and experienced Wellbeing Life Coach and Psychotherapist. Within Life Coaching I am specialized in Relationships where I help both couples and individuals learn the tools to make relationships thrive and Career Coaching. Relationships and Careers are fundamental to our sense of happiness in the world and it is important to find the pitfalls that might be preventing you from living the life you so desire. Life Coaching can help you achieve this and much more.
I was born in Suriname in South America and immigrated to the Netherlands with my family when I was a teenager where a mix of Eastern and Western philosophies, values and beliefs has been a very enriching experience that led me to my interests in studies of the human psyche, cultural identity and personal growth.
My interests resulted in the following qualifications: BSc in Psychotherapy, a Masters in Intercultural Communication & Relationships, and a Wellbeing Life Coaching accreditation. It always touches me deeply to assist in people's growth and development.
Together with my psychotherapeutic background as a Wellbeing Life Coach, you will gain deep clarity and understanding through my holistic approach that will enable you to clear the personal 'obstacles' that are preventing you from achieving your goals and dreams. Call me today for the special programs in Relationship and Career Coaching.
Relationship Coaching (cross-cultural)
Regardless of who we are, our relationships are embedded in cultural values and beliefs, which impact our thinking, feelings, emotions, perceptions, behaviors, etc that become our drivers when relating to others. This is quite an 'automated' process where often we don't fully realize how we communicate, listen, or act when with others. Our upbringing, how we were treated as a child and the messages we received about 'relationships' also influence the way we deal with others and ourselves. Furthermore, intercultural or mixed marriage relationships can also put a lot of strain on one's relationship but also the current pandemic or Covid-19 where many couples and people work from home.
Do you recognize any of the following in terms of relationships?
- Problems with communicating effectively and often being misunderstood
- Issues with commitment, trust and attachment in close relationship
- Lack of confidence in building & maintaining relationships
- Not in sync with each other where love life is lacking passion and intimacy
- Clash of cultural values & beliefs when in close relationship with someone from a different culture
- Thinking of ending the marriage/relationship but not sure how or whether to give it a last chance before filing for divorce or separation
- Difficulties in finding a love partner in this pandemic
- Issues with parenting which has been magnified due to Covid-19 - as more time is spent together as a family
Career & Life Purpose coaching
People turn to career coaching for different reasons where each case is very unique. It can be to explore and find your true calling, or connect more deeply within your current role, or to chase your dream job. Especially with the current Covid-19 pandemic, there is a big surge in career coaching where sadly many have lost their jobs or have been made redundant, furloughed, or just very uncertain about the future of their career.
Poignantly, especially NOW is a good time to seriously think about your career and where you are heading towards, who you want to be, or what you want to become. See further my blog on this topic at the end of this page.
Let's have a chat and explore your options for your Career!
All sessions are online via a video call or by telephone, depending on which you find comfortable and more convenient.
Please contact me for a free 30-minutes taster session. The best way to reach me is to either text or call me on 07931 175510 or email me through this website.
Training, qualifications & experience
- MA degree in Intercultural Communication (Identity-Culture & Language) -University of Surrey
- BSc. degree in Integrative Counselling (Humanistic- Existential- Psychodynamic and Psychoanalysis)- University of Surrey
- Certified & Accredited Wellbeing Life Coach
- 5+ years of experience in providing individual psychotherapy to adults
- Experience working with adult males, females and couples
- Membership with the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP) and the Association for Coaching (AC) in the UK
Areas of coaching I deal with
Other areas of coaching I deal with
Especially when you find yourself at a 'crossroad' in life (where crucial decisions have to be made), Life Coaching or Therapy can be the tools to assist you, so you can make the right choices. Clients often discuss the below in my session too. Do you recognize any of the following situations? Why not have a chat?
You struggle to know who you really are and others' opinions are important to you. You often please others and neglect your own needs. You want to become stronger so you don't lose out on your own goals and dreams. Your self-esteem is low and it's difficult to ask for help.
You have lots of goals and dreams but lack the motivation to start or you may have started but given up halfway through because you lack confidence or self-belief to carry on or you find the current pandemic quite depressing and lack trust to start anything but realize quite well you need help if you want to succeed.
You are not happy with your body and in need of a big change. You want to tackle your overweight which you also gained during the lockdown due to Covid-19. It's not just the body you are concerned about but you also considering adopting a healthier lifestyle i.e interested in good nutritious food, changing diets, keep fit and maintaining healthy relationships etc. This is a big project for you and you are ready to reach out for help.
You understand that personal growth and personal development are vital to becoming an all-round success in life often encompasses all three aspects- body, mind and soul. You've always invested in yourself in terms of growth and want to reach much higher levels in your personal development and ready to embark on that journey.
Some additional areas of experience are:
Dealing with life changes - for example, Covid-19* At a cross-road in life / mid-life crisis/menopause * Relationship issues * Divorce * Body image* Overeating * Comfort eating * Under eating * Body dysmorphia * Loss of Identity * People pleasing *Lack of confidence * Feeling overwhelmed * Exhausted * Worried all the time * Low energy *Lethargic * Procrastination * Empty nest syndrome * Suicidal thoughts * Not feeling good about life * No sense of meaning to life (meaninglessness) * Angst * Dread * Purposeless * Infidelity * Betrayal of trust * Issues with intimacy in relationships * Debts and financial issues * Death & Mortality * Spirituality * Religion * Culture * Identity Crisis * Multilingualism & Identity* Shame* Guilt * Anxiety* Stress * Abandonment * Childhood memories * Depression * Extrasensory--perception (ESP) * Kundalini awakening.
I offer a FREE 30 min chat/discussion as a taster session.
The most cost-effective way to work is to opt for a Wellbeing Package below depending on your needs but you can also opt to start with just a few sessions. The prices below have been discounted (15%)
COVID- 19: ENJOY A 15% DISCOUNT FOR ONLINE AND TELEPHONE COACHING
(If on a low income, please call for special rates, I still have some places available)
Individuals: single session: £85, now with discount £ 72
Couples: single session: £ 120, now with discount £ 102
Below are the coaching packages I currently offer and I have applied a 15% discount due to Covid-19 where I only work online. You can also opt to start with just a few sessions. The below are the prices for individuals, for couples please call for further information.
Career focus package: 3 sessions of 50 min now £216
Bronze Wellbeing Package: 6 sessions of 45 min £ 510, minus 15% now £ 433
Silver Wellbeing Package: 7 sessions of 50 min £ 595, minus 15% now £ 505
Gold Wellbeing Package: 8 sessions of 50 min £ 680, minus 15% now £ 578
VIP Wellbeing Day (8 hours): price and programme on request
VIP Wellbeing Day (4 hours): price and programme on request
The sessions can be taken when it suits you best. For example, it can be taken weekly/bi-weekly/monthly/quarterly etc. Should you require any additional sessions these can then be purchased for a reduced rate.
Payments are upfront and there is an option to pay in instalments if necessary. At present, I only take payments through bank transfers.
I also possess some 8 years of experience in Psychotherapy and a Registered Member of the BACP - British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. You can find my therapist profile here: www.bacp.co.uk, should you need therapy or counseling for deep-seated issues.
Before I became a Wellbeing Life Coach/Therapist I worked internationally in roles such as Accounts Manageress, Multilingual Sales Executive, Customer Care management, and Operations Manager. I experienced these roles in a bunch of different European countries such as Holland, England, Spain, Gran Canarias and Lanzarote. These positions enabled me to experience even more diversity and added more fuel to the fire that is my interest in the human psyche and potential.
Since the last two decades, the UK is my home and the following often gets my attention: people, diversity, challenges, love and harmony, cooking, travel, the Arts, reading, socializing, poverty, inequality, mindfulness, connecting to nature, wellness and wellbeing, increasing others' personal growth and wellbeing, spirituality.
A quote that is close to my heart:
Life doesn't get easier, you just get stronger!
Before Covid-19 I covered the surrounding areas such as Burgess Hill, Lindfield, Crawley, Brighton, Ditchling, Handcross, Staplefield, East Grinstead, London and Cuckfield however due to working only online and telephone (at present) people can also approach me from abroad.
Client work (recently conducted online through Zoom):
Marcus - "I wasn't sure about being coached but knew that I needed to talk with a professional. I came across Lila's profile and after the first telephone contact (which was free for 30 min) I decided to take up 6 sessions with her. I had a rough idea of the areas I wanted to work on such as my weight (quite overweight), divorce and issues with infidelity. Lila was really able to get to the bottom of some of my persisting issues and we worked very hard in the sessions. With her help, I was able to find some clarity in my messy life. The 'homework' she further gave me helped to ease my stress and anxiety at home. I still continue with journaling my thoughts and feelings (which was one of my homework) and have noticed to feel very relieved afterward. I hope to take some more sessions again with Lila'
Sharon - "Lila's sessions helped me a lot when I was having a relationship breakdown just before the lockdown. The sessions helped me to understand the reasons behind the breakdown and why I remained so long in an emotionally abusive relationship with my then-boyfriend. Lila's sessions gave me the strength and courage to choose for myself and to accept myself as I am. Thank you Lila!'