Kate Kilby

Hi, I’m Kate. 

I support thoughtful, capable women who feel stuck, uncertain and quietly unhappy. I help them reconnect with themselves, regain clarity and confidence, and move forwards into a life and career that they genuinely enjoy and that fits who they are.

If you’re anything like the women I work with, you might feel:

• Trapped in a cycle of overthinking, second-guessing and self-doubt
• Pulled in different directions, yet unsure what you actually want
• Restless, unfulfilled, and frustrated - but unable to see a clear way forward
• Exhausted from keeping everything going while quietly questioning if this is really it

You may look like you’re coping just fine on the outside, but inside you feel foggy, conflicted, and disconnected from yourself. 

You sense there’s more… more ease, more meaning, more fulfilment, more peace… but you can’t quite access it.

And the longer you stay stuck, the heavier and harder it feels.

I’ve been there.

After 14yrs of building a career in media and advertising, the combined pressures of a demanding yet unfulfilling job, the juggle of motherhood, and constantly battling my own inner critic and self-doubt left me exhausted and disconnected.

I couldn’t paint a picture of a brighter horizon that felt accessible. I was a fog of indecision, jangled nerves and self-doubt. And yet, since I had no better ideas(!), I just kept going. Surviving rather than thriving.

Then the sh*t hit the fan and I was pushed to burn-out when these on-going challenges collided with the chaos of COVID, followed soon after by the grief of losing my Mum.

That was a real turning point for me. Finally, I paused. I gave myself time to think. I listened to what I truly needed, and I allowed myself to create the changes I’d been craving.

But I kept wondering WHY had it taken hitting breaking point in order to finally find the courage, confidence, (and perhaps permission?!) to figure out what I wanted and go after it?

It’s why today I’m deeply passionate about supporting women in finding their own clarity, self-trust and sense of agency and direction… hopefully before they hit breaking point.

How I support you

My coaching offers a calm, compassionate and deeply supportive space where you can slow down, feel heard, and hear yourself.

Together, we will:

• Untangle confusion, uncertainty and overwhelm so you can tame the overthinking spirals and hear yourself properly
• Gain clarity on what you truly want (beyond expectations and ‘shoulds’)
• Build confidence in yourself and your choices
• Gently challenge self-doubt, fear and limiting beliefs
• Define realistic, meaningful steps towards a life and career that feel right for you

Clients describe working together as warm, insightful, grounding and empowering.

What you’ll gain

• A deeper sense of self-trust and inner calm
• Clarity about what matters most to you
• Confidence in your decisions and direction
• Renewed energy, motivation and emotional resilience
• A feeling of being back in control of your life and future

A gentle first step

If something here resonates, I invite you to book a free 60-minute Clarity Kickstart Call with me.

This is a no-pressure, supportive and exploratory conversation to help you make sense of where you are, what you want instead, and what you might need next, while also giving you a feel for me and how I work.

Many women tell me they feel lighter, clearer and calmer even after just this first (free!) conversation.

Contact me via the Discovery Call button on the top of this page, or schedule directly by pasting this link into your browser: https://katekilby.com/freeclaritykickstart/

What my clients say

"For the first time in years I feel creative and inspired again! Kate has helped me to believe in my capabilities as a business owner and also helped me become more confident in my personal life."

“I have had such a great experience coaching with Kate, I have built my self belief and confidence and feel so much more in control of my decisions."

"Kate was the perfect coach for me during a very tricky period of uncertainty...Her warm, nurturing and supportive approach was just what I needed to help me navigate the uncertainty, and I wouldn’t hesitate in recommending her to others (in fact, I already have!)."

“I really enjoyed my first coaching session with Kate. I went into it feeling quite stuck, but by the end I had much more clarity, with clear goals and practical next steps to work on. I came away feeling motivated and positive about moving forward."

"Coaching with Kate has been one of the best things I've done in a long time! Each session I learned new things about myself, had insightful takeaways and was able to implement new ways to reframe situations immediately."

"Coaching with Kate was an incredibly insightful experience."

"Working with Kate was a real pleasure. She made me feel supported and heard."

"I wholeheartedly recommend coaching with Kate. She creates a brilliant, supportive space for discussion, effective self-reflection and clear next steps."

"Kate made me re-see everything with different eyes. I'm so very grateful for her support."

Curious to explore how coaching can help? Let's have a free 60-minute Clarity Call. 

I'd love to hear about what's on your mind and what you're hoping for. You'll gain some initial clarity, and we can see if working together feels right. Copy and paste the below link into your browser to book your free call at your convenience:

https://calendly.com/katekilby/clarity-kickstart-session

TESTIMONIALS

Trudy:    “Coaching with Kate has been one of the best things I've done in a long time!  Each session I learned new things about myself, had insightful takeaways and was able to implement new ways to reframe situations immediately. Kate is both calm & warm which helped me to unearth layers of unhelpful thought patterns, all the while making me confident that the space I was in was safe & non-judgmental. I highly recommend Kate for coaching for anything and everything!  You will not regret it.”

Jenni:    “I started working with Kate in a very strange time of my life. In my mid 30's, I returned to my career after taking a year out for mental health reasons. I was unsure when I returned to my career if it was actually what I wanted anymore and needed to figure out if it was it or me! Kate has helped me remove the brain fog so I could move forward with my new ideas. For the first time in years I feel creative and inspired again! She has helped me to believe in my capabilities as a business owner and also helped me become more confident in my personal life. I couldn't recommend Kate highly enough. She's calm and pragmatic but isn't scared to ask the nitty gritty questions to get you thinking! Thank you Kate, here's to the future!”

Katie:    “Coaching with Kate was an incredibly insightful experience. I am getting ready to returning to work from my parental leave and have felt overwhelmed by decisions I thought I needed to make now. Though talking to Kate and having her reflect back my ramblings in a concise and considered manner has helped slow down my mind and take stock highlighting that decisions don't have to be made at such a break neck speed. Her approach is warm and encouraging with clear direction and insightful reflections. She is a fantastic coach and I would encourage everyone to work with her.”

Saskia: "Working with Kate was a real pleasure. She made me feel supported and heard. She provided insightful guidance and helped me make decisions with more confidence and clarity. Highly recommended!"

Jo:    “I wholeheartedly recommend coaching with Kate. She creates a brilliant, supportive space for discussion, effective self-reflection and clear next steps. She is generous with her time and expertise, and tailors the session to meet what you most need from coaching. Thank you, Kate!”

Lisa:    “It has been a privilege to work with Kate. Her ability to build a trusting, calm and safe space has allowed me to be vulnerable, to cry and to begin to rebuild. Kate has given me tangible solutions to overcome barriers and to be kind to myself as I evolve personally and professionally. If you do one thing today, sign up to work with Kate, she is phenomenal.”

Marietta:    “In one session with Kate it feels like a weight has been lifted. She helped me pinpoint patterns in my thoughts and behaviour that were affecting different areas of my life. By understanding why things have been difficult of late, she helped me realise my self-compassion needed a boost and that I can stop questioning everything I'm doing. Simply talking it through with Kate's guidance helped me drill down on my issue and I have some key take aways to help me. After the session I felt relieved and hopeful and those feelings are still with me. Thank you Kate!”

Kate:    “Kate created a kind and safe space for me to speak open-heartedly. She held a mirror up for me and gave me grace, and allowed me to stumble my way through the session until I was able to have conviction in my thoughts and answers. She pulled out something very special in me, and I was buzzing after the session!”

Hayley:    “I felt at ease with Kate quickly. She has a warm and attentive presence. She is a skilled coach asking good questions whilst allowing me the space to get to new understandings at my own pace. In one session talking to Kate helped me to reframe something that has been a big problem for me.”

Anne:    “The coaching session with Kate came at a time which worked extremely well for me. I have found myself at a bit of a crossroads with goal setting for 2023 and closing out 2022. I was able to use this coaching session to reflect, and Kate's coaching style meant that I felt supported, but also empowered, Kate comes across as warm and personal which meant I trusted her immediately and I was able to use her to provide a level of challenge and focus which I needed. Thank you Kate."

Sophie:    "I've never been 'coached' before...The session took me by surprise; Kate made it very comfortable for me very quickly to open up and we were able to cover a lot of ground in a short space of time. I finished the session feeling much better, and confident that there are tools to explore further to help cope with the challenges I have. Kate is kind, gentle, calm and methodical in her approach. Trust in the process - and in a coach who knows exactly what she's doing - and genuinely wants to help." 

Rosa: “If you recognise some challenges within you that you would like to explore, and would like to do so in a safe space with a coach that cares, work with Kate! it is powerful and will move you forward in more than one way!”