How to find your ‘why’ through quiet reflection

Most of us have reasons for getting up and doing what we do. Do you know your why?

Our choices and actions are influenced by many different motivations. Understanding what matters to you may provide energy and direction. Aspirations need a charge!

Your why may involve:

• Getting up and going to work that you enjoy.
• Getting ahead as an entrepreneur.
• Looking after your children.
• Practising a health routine, whether that involves walking, yoga or swimming.
• Making meals for your family.
• Looking after your animals, whether you have a smallholding or a small dog.

In exploring your reasons, you may find greater impetus to get up and go.

So, how might you begin finding your why?

A reflection exercise

Sit somewhere comfortable and allow yourself to relax. You could lie on the floor if that appeals and it is comfortable for you.

Slowly move your attention around your body, becoming aware of each part:

• Hands.
• Feet.
• Arms.
• Legs.
• Stomach.
• Spine.
• Shoulders.
• Head.

Allow each part to relax as much as it comfortably can and notice how your body responds. You do not need to force yourself into a particular state or remove every anxious or stressful thought.

Let yourself settle into a quiet, reflective space. As you sit, notice what comes to mind without trying to control or judge it.

Do you notice:

• An image?
• Words?
• A shape?
• A colour?
• A memory?
• A feeling?
• Anything else?

You may be surprised by what arises and the clues it offers. Equally, nothing obvious may emerge straight away, and that is fine too. Reflection can take time.

After the exercise, which might last for up to 20 minutes, make notes about what happened. Record any facts, feelings, memories or insights that seemed important.

This exercise may help you uncover clues about what motivates you, what you value and what may be calling you to take the next step.