Get more confidence back into your life

Feeling low in confidence is a challenging feeling to have to face in life. It can show up in so many ways; be it social confidence when meeting people, being at work and speaking up, feeling able to speak up and state boundaries, not feeling good enough in relationships - it can affect us in so many areas.

From all my years of working with confidence, what is clear to me is that so many of us have periods of low confidence, and the more we don’t do anything about it, the more it impacts our life and permeates into all areas.
 
Firstly what I want to say to you if you are reading this, is that so many of us feel that lack of confidence in some part of our life, the feeling is a normal feeling. What happens though, is that it can take over and we can then feel fear and shame, and it can seep out into more areas of our life. 

How to boost confidence

If you want to face the challenge of feeling this way in some part of your life, here are some ideas to help you work on raising confidence:

Reflect and journal

Behind lack of confidence is often fear, so ask yourself, "What is the fear I have?," and, "What beliefs are holding me back?".

Journaling about this and spending time reflecting on what is making you feel low in confidence may help you become aware of what is going on inside. Awareness is always the first step.

Regularly check-in

Our inner world is the place of our thoughts, feelings and beliefs and this all impacts our behaviour. Every day, pause and take a listen to the thoughts that come up around this feeling. Be a detective in your approach, listen with kindness to yourself and don't judge. When we know the thoughts that keep on showing up, we can start questioning them - are they helpful? Are they accurate?

Use your body

Your body is one of your keys to confidence. How do you stand and act when you are feeling unconfident? Do you get smaller? What would your confident posture be?

When we connect with our bodies and into feeling confident in our posture, it sends a message to our brain and mind that we can do it, and we really can. Take a look at Amy Cuddy Power Pose on YouTube for more information on the research of using your body.

Comfort zone stretch

We can all get stuck in our comfort zones and when we're lacking confidence in a part of our life, this can become smaller. Start thinking about what would be a stretch for you.

Start pulling together a list of ways you can move out of your comfort zone and set yourself challenges - the more you slowly challenge yourself and succeed, the more you grow in situational confidence. 

Feeling a lack of confidence impacts all of us at some point and in some way. It's an opportunity for us to reflect and see what our inner talk is all about, and a chance to grow and evolve into who we are meant to be.