From inner critic to inner coach: How mums can step up and shine

Returning to work or starting a business after having children is a significant milestone.

For many mothers, it’s an exciting yet daunting time, often accompanied by self-doubt and a persistent inner voice that says: “You can’t do it, ”“You don’t have the time or skills,” or “You’ll embarrass yourself.”

This voice, known as the inner critic, is trying to protect you but also is holding you back from realising your full potential.

The truth is, motherhood has equipped you with incredible skills that are directly transferable to the workplace or running your own business. By shifting your mindset and silencing and befriending your inner critic, you can embrace these strengths and step into your next chapter with confidence.

Why mums hesitate to step up

It’s common for mothers to feel hesitant about career advancement or entrepreneurship after a career break. Many experience doubts like:

• Am I still capable after so much time away?
• Will I be judged for prioritising my career alongside motherhood?
• Can I really balance everything?

These doubts are reinforced by societal pressures and the overwhelming narrative that mothers must “do it all” perfectly. But this mindset overlooks the wealth of skills and resilience mothers gain through their life experiences.

Motherhood: The ultimate executive role

Mothers juggle multiple responsibilities and step into a variety of roles every day:

• Project manager: Planning and organising schedules, activities, and household tasks.
• Crisis manager: Handling unexpected challenges with creativity and resilience.
• Negotiator: Navigating family dynamics and resolving conflicts.
• Mentor: Teaching and guiding children to develop important life skills and also managing emotions.

These roles demand a high level of emotional intelligence, time management, problem-solving and adaptability—skills that are just as essential in the workplace or when running a business.

The Comfort zone vs. The stretch zone

Your inner critic thrives in the comfort zone, keeping you safe by avoiding risks. While the comfort zone feels familiar, it can limit your opportunities for growth. The stretch zone, however, is where confidence, courage and growth emerge. By stepping outside of what feels safe, you discover your true potential and gain the clarity and skills to thrive.
 
Your inner critic doesn’t define you, and you can replace it with a supportive inner coach. Here’s how:

Reframe limiting beliefs: Replace “I’ve been out of work too long” with “I’ve gained invaluable experience and skills through motherhood.”

Acknowledge your strengths: Recognise the resilience, time management and problem-solving skills you’ve mastered.

Focus on progress, not perfection: Remember that every step forward is growth, even if it doesn’t feel perfect.

Take the first step

Whether you’re returning to work, pursuing a promotion or launching your own business, the first step is the most powerful. By quieting your inner critic and stepping into your stretch sone, you can unlock the confidence and clarity needed to succeed.

Your journey may not be linear, but the skills you’ve gained through motherhood are your foundation for success. Motherhood has already shown you how capable, resourceful and resilient you are. It’s time to recognise these qualities and bring them into your professional life to thrive.

By turning your inner critic into your inner coach, you’ll not only challenge self-doubt but also create a path for growth and fulfilment.

If you’re ready to embrace your strengths and take the next step in your career or business journey, coaching can help. Reach out today to learn how coaching can support you in rediscovering your confidence and reaching your goals.