Lost your mojo? My top 4 tips to find it…
Do you ever just feel a bit ‘meh’; Not wanting to work on the things that usually fire you up? Wondering if you are even doing the right thing with your life? Lacking your usual imagination and sense of self and not filled with your usual excitement? In a word… uninspired?
I think it’s safe to say we’ve all been there at one point or another, sleep walking aimlessly through a day, a week or sometimes longer before we can shift that uncomfortable feeling that something is lost and we don’t know how to find it. A missing mojo can feel like a sorry event because it has run off with our confidence, our energy and our enthusiasm.
But how on earth do we find it again? Where did it even go?
Firstly, give yourself a break
Sometimes it is easy to overthink life’s ebbs and flows, to get wound up about them and dive into a rabbit hole of wanting to make some radical changes to shake it off as quickly as possible. But, why not pause and take the option of acceptance over resistance?
Perhaps your mojo has gone missing to give you a chance for pause and reflection; this lull in your energy and enthusiasm might be a sign to take stock of what’s going on for you. Instead of becoming frustrated by your change in mood, take a spoonful of self-compassion and allow time to do its thing.
Take some time to acknowledge what you’re feeling as opposed to trying to avoid it or push it away. Explore where you think it came from, label it for what it is and sit with it, without needing to move it or change it. Have you had some rejection lately? Are things not going as planned? Has something knocked your confidence that you’re trying to sweep under the carpet?
Secondly, explore your situation
Spending 10 minutes with a pen and paper to make two lists could help; the first list is a brain dump of everything that feels heavy for you right now, the second is a list of what inner challenges and beliefs your facing (doubt, not feeling good enough, procrastinating, fear of failure and so on). Just get it all out on some paper, that in itself can feel like a positive and cathartic action.
With the first list, cross out all of the things that are outside of your control, leaving a list of things you have control over. For each item remaining on the list write down one thing you could do this week that would improve it by 5%, just choose a really tiny action.
With your second list, take each of those thoughts to ‘court’ and ask them in turn:
- ‘How is this belief serving me?’
- ‘What evidence do I have to support this belief?’
- ‘How old is that evidence?’
- ‘What would I like to believe instead?’
Again, do this activity with self-compassion, even just getting a better grip on a few things to focus on and being a bit kinder to ourselves will help to pick up your energy and bring some momentum.
Thirdly, reconnect with your ‘why?'
When was the last time you got excited and felt that fire in your belly about your future, about all your dreams, the things you want to be, do and have? Oftentimes this can get lost along the way and we need to take time to reconnect with our personal visions.
So, have some fun and get creative; what are all those dreams of yours? Think big. Get excited! Visualise yourself there in the future, how will it feel? Making yourself a vision board can really help to shake things up a bit, a chance to do something different, to focus on the future and bring some energy for a renewed trajectory.
Finally, have some fun
Change your state; if you’re in a funk, it can be all too easy to indulge it and let it bring you down. Instead, remember back to when you were a child… what was the one thing that you loved to do? That one thing that gave you a sense of achievement and feeling of excitement? For me, it was mastering my purple, glittery hula hoop, spending hours in the garden try to keep it spinning around my waist. There was frustration along the way, but ultimately, I came out full of confidence that I was getting better with each practice and with a sense of achievement.
Reconnecting with this is a great idea, a reminder that a sense of achievement is there to be had and that it can be fun getting it! So, if you’re in a funk, change your state completely by doing something the little version of you loved to do!