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Does your child sometimes think “poor me” and feel that the whole world is against them? Maybe they think they're unlucky and nothing ever works out right for them? Do they often feel guilty even though they know it wasn’t their fault? This is the ‘victim’ in Stephen Karpman’s 'drama triangle' and it is the opposite of self-esteem. A drama triangle occurs when there are three people taking the roles of victim, persecutor and rescuer. As the drama unfolds the...

As mums and dads, we worry about our children and teenagers, don’t we? In fact, I should own up and admit that like many of my same age friends, I still worry about my children even though they are now in their 20s! The question is, how do we broach the subject of feelings without them closing down? The standard response from most children when asked about how they feel is to say they don’t know. This is usually true. They don’t know. They feel overwhelmed, confused and...

I was at a recent networking event. As I introduced myself to everyone in the room I used an example of a vision which one of my mum clients created. Two of the mums said ‘that sounded just like my vision!’. It wasn’t theirs, but this got me thinking about the similarity between the visions which my mum clients tend to set when they work with me. A vision might be the most powerful way to keep you focused on what you want in life whilst keeping you motivated in achieving it....

Reading Reading educational or fictional books allows us to abstract and leave our minds, just for a little bit. Expand your knowledge means you are spending your time in a fulfilling and useful manner, sparking creative thoughts and stretching your imagination. If you read a book a week in your specialism, you’ll have read a full degree worth of information within just one year. Within just five years, you’d be one of the most educated people in the world in your field. Though...

So how do you know what you are good at and which course or job is right for you? It begins with understanding who you are. A hospital wouldn’t function well in a toilet block and a café wouldn’t have many customers if it was in a pigsty. As Rick Warren said, “Before architects design any new building they first ask, "What will be its purpose? How will it be used?" The intended function always determines the form of the building.” In the same way, some animals...

Once a year on 14th February, many of us declare our love to someone we admire – our Valentine. You might do this secretly with an anonymous card or openly at a candlelit dinner. However, feelings are too important to express only once a year. The failure to express feelings can lead to emptiness in relationships and ultimately misunderstandings and conflict such as:

Why didn’t you tell me? Well you should know how I feel But I don’t know how you feel if you don’t...

Individually we all have different opinions, perspectives and skills - we are all unique. While these personal characteristics inform who we are, what we do and the results we get on our own, when we operate in a group-setting, these personal qualities can be intensified and/or complemented by the skills and opinions of others. Group collaboration has multiple benefits for all concerned.  Groups can be anything from work/sports teams, workshop participants, friends and families to...

I've found myself being asked this question recently, and my honest answer is...... No! The reason I say this is because for most people that ask, they are asking because they want to fit everything into their lives in equal proportion: Spend time with their family/partner Read the latest books/see the latest films Play/watch more sport Cook more Etc. etc. There are ways we can balance our lives much better, by being smarter and more efficient, but I think some problems come from social...