We’ve all been there. You’ve hit a crossroads in life and are faced with a number of different choices. Some may feel risky, scary even, while others feel safe and comfortable. Knowing which way to go can be difficult, especially when we start to torture ourselves with ‘what ifs’.
Whether it’s figuring out if you should quit your job or knowing if moving abroad is the right choice for you, decision making can bring out our inner critic, telling us we “can’t do it” or that we’ll “fail”.
To ensure the decisions we make come from a place of trust, not fear, it can help to put pen to paper. Journaling is a great tool to get to the bottom of our own thought processes, allowing your true feelings to surface.
The next time you find yourself facing a big decision, try writing out each choice available and, underneath, journal your thoughts on the following questions for each:
- What is your first reaction to this choice?
- Imagine this is the choice you’ve chosen. Visualise your life five years from now – what does it look like?
- Reconnect with your goal/mission in life. Does this choice bring you closer to that?
- Does the thought of this choice make you feel energised or drained?
- What information do you need to feel more comfortable with this choice?
Once you’ve done this for every potential choice, you should have a clearer idea of which way to go. So often we know deep down what it is we want to do, but fear stands in our way.
Connecting with yourself through regular journaling, meditation and other self-care practices can help you recognise when this fear is justified and when you need to tell the fear ‘thank you for trying to protect me, but… I’ve got this.’
Navigating big decisions and facing down fears is a big task. If you’re finding it difficult and feel you could benefit from support, a life coach could be the guiding hand you need. Working with you to understand what it is you really want out of life and knowing how your decisions impact this, coaches offer accountability and support.