How to find love

Imagine this: You're sitting in a cosy corner of a coffee shop, lost in your own thoughts. As you lift your gaze, your eyes meet theirs. A subtle smile crosses their face, and suddenly, you feel a gentle warmth inside. They walk over, holding a cappuccino, and ask what you're reading. What starts as a simple conversation soon turns into hours of shared stories — laughter over past adventures, dreams for the future. There's a soothing sense of connection, a comforting familiarity with someone who was just a stranger a few hours ago. Not in an overwhelming way, but in a peaceful, natural way.

You see each other again. And again. And it feels effortless. New, yet comforting. Sometimes, the ease of it all makes you question how it’s possible. But then you remember — you've worked hard to reach this place, where you can let healthy love unfold organically.

It all starts to make sense. Every step of inner work you’ve done has led you here. 

In that moment, you realise that when you're truly not searching, the right person finds you.

So, let me ask you this: How would you live today if you knew that the love of your life would enter your life tomorrow?

You'd start to cherish your solitude, savouring the quiet moments. You'd embrace your single-hood, finding joy in solo adventures. Waking up alone on a Sunday would no longer feel lonely; it would feel purposeful, even blissful. The fear of being alone would transform into the sweetness of solitude.

You'd let go of emotionally unavailable connections, and instead, invest in yourself. You wouldn't compromise on your needs, values, or desires. You'd be content, knowing that the love of your life will come to you, embracing you just as you are.

It almost feels like a dream, doesn’t it?

But here's the truth, as someone who guides others through love's journey: This deeper, more nourished love only arrives when you reach a place of true self-acceptance.

We’ve all heard our grandmothers say, "Love comes around when you least expect it." And while we might roll our eyes, wondering what we’re supposed to do with that advice, the reality is, we can’t control external factors. What we can control is the work we do within ourselves.

We can’t expect to welcome the love of our lives if we haven’t first learned to love ourselves.

We must heal our own wounds so we don’t unconsciously seek out relationships that reinforce old patterns of unworthiness. Those relationships are reflections of how we treat ourselves.

So, how do you begin this journey? Through a relationship coaching framework, you can explore what it truly means to heal your relationship with yourself. You can build your self-esteem, trust yourself, release preconceived ideas about the love you deserve, and open yourself to the right kind of love.

As you move through this process, you’ll notice a shift. An inner peace will settle in, where you validate yourself and act purely for your own well-being. And in doing so, the right people will naturally be drawn to you.

When you live with the intention of pleasing only yourself, without even realising it, you’ll lock eyes with the love of your life — and in that instant, your world will be transformed forever.