How the language you use affects your experience of life

How we talk to ourselves is one of the most important aspects of our lives. Our language patterns not only reflect our thoughts but also help to shape them. If we can regulate our thoughts and choose more positive language, this will have a big impact on our behaviour and well-being. In this blog post, we'll explore how the language we use affects our experience of life. We'll look at how self-talk shapes our perception and guides our actions, and discuss some ways to create more positive language patterns for ourselves.


Ludwig Wittgenstein, the famous philosopher of language, said "the limits of my language are the limits of my world".

In other words, our experience of life is defined by the language we use to describe it. This is why self-talk is so important – the things we say to ourselves have a big impact on how we feel and what we do.

For example, if we regularly tell ourselves that we’re not good enough or that we can’t do something, this negative self-talk will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. We’ll start to believe these things and our behavior will reflect this. On the other hand, if we choose to speak to ourselves in a more positive way, this will also have an impact on our lives. We’ll start to see ourselves in a better light, feel more capable of achieving our goals and live a more enjoyable life.

How can we create more positive self-talk?

One way is to become aware of the things we say to ourselves on a daily basis. Pay attention to your inner monologue and see if there are any negative patterns. If you find yourself regularly putting yourself down, make a conscious effort to change this. Start by acknowledging your achievements, no matter how small they may be. Give yourself credit for the things you do well and focus on your strengths rather than your weaknesses. Remember, you are in control of your self-talk and you have the power to change it.

Another way to create more positive self-talk is to avoid absolutes such as ‘never’ and ‘always’. For example, instead of saying "I can never lose weight", try "I’m working on losing weight." This small change in language can make a big difference to your mindset. When you use absolutes, you’re putting yourself in a box and closing off any possibility of change. But when you use more positive language, you’re opening yourself up to new possibilities and giving yourself the chance to succeed.

Also, try to see the silver lining in every situation. This doesn’t mean you have to be happy all the time or ignore your problems. It just means that you should try to find a positive aspect in every situation, no matter how difficult it may be. For example, if you’re going through a tough time at work, instead of thinking "this is the worst job ever", try to focus on the things you’re learning and the skills you’re developing. This will help you to see the situation in a more positive light and feel better about yourself.

If you want to improve your self-talk, practice being grateful for the good things in your life. Every day, take a few minutes to write down three things you’re grateful for. This could be anything from your health, to the weather, to a delicious meal you had. Focusing on the positive things in your life will help to shift your mindset and make it easier to change your thought pattern to a more positive one.

Finally, don’t be too hard on yourself. We all make mistakes and we all have moments when we fall short of our goals. What’s important is that we learn from our mistakes and try to do better next time. So instead of beating yourself up, be kind to yourself and give yourself some credit for the progress you’ve made.

By paying attention to our language patterns and making a conscious effort to change them, we can have a big impact on our lives. We can start to see ourselves in a more positive light and feel more capable of achieving our goals. So let’s be mindful of the things we say to ourselves and choose our words carefully. They have the power to shape our lives positively or negatively. The human brain is a great mimic, and it learns patterns by repetition. The more we do something the better chance that pattern will stick with us—although sometimes positive self-talk can be strengthened through regularity too!

Use these tips to start changing your self-talk today and see how it affects your experience of life. If you’re not sure where to start, try picking one tip and focusing on that for a week. Then, once you’ve made some progress, move on to another tip. Soon, you’ll be speaking to yourself in a more positive way and reaping the benefits in your life.

What kind of self-talk do you want to have? The choice is yours!

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Life Coach Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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Written by Ayesha Giselle Dornelly, Life Coach & Hypnotherapist
London, Hackney, E9

Ayesha Giselle is a highly sought-after life coach and Solution Focused Hypnotherapist. She is passionate about helping people to become the best version of themselves. Ayesha trains her clients to be mentally fit, develop their self confidence, expect success, handle setbacks quickly and easily, supporting them on the road to positive change.

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