Deciding if a coach is the right fit for you

Engaging with a life coach can be a pivotal and courageous decision, as the right coach can provide guidance, support, and tools to help you overcome challenges and reach your goals. However, choosing the right coach for you can be a nuanced process that goes beyond just the initial connection call.


In this article, I'll delve into the key factors to consider when deciding if a coach is the right fit for you after that crucial first conversation. After all, it's likely you will be investing a good deal of energy, time and money with this individual, and entrusting them with your inner thoughts and vulnerabilities.

1. Alignment of values and goals

One of the most significant factors to consider when evaluating a potential coach is the alignment of values and goals. During the initial connection call (which in my opinion, any decent coach will offer), pay close attention to whether the coach's approach, philosophy, and values resonate with your own. A coach who shares similar values can better understand your aspirations and tailor their guidance accordingly.

Ask yourself:

  • Do the coach's values align with your personal beliefs and principles?
  • Does the coach demonstrate a genuine interest in understanding your goals and aspirations?
  • Do you feel that the coach's approach resonates with the direction you want to take in your personal or professional life?

2. Effective communication

Effective communication is at the heart of any successful coaching relationship. During the initial connection call, evaluate the coach's communication style, as well as their ability to actively listen and provide insightful feedback. A coach who can ask thought-provoking questions and genuinely listen to your responses will be better equipped to guide you through your journey.

Consider the following:

  • Did the coach actively listen to your concerns and goals during the call?
  • Were they able to communicate their ideas and insights clearly and effectively?
  • Did you feel comfortable discussing your thoughts and emotions with the coach?

3. Professional expertise and experience

The coach's professional expertise and experience play a crucial role in their ability to guide you effectively. While coaching is a distinct field, a coach with relevant experience or expertise in your area of focus can offer valuable insights and strategies.

Ask yourself:

  • Does the coach have a track record of working with individuals who share similar goals or challenges?
  • Do they possess the necessary skills and knowledge to guide you through your specific journey?
  • Are they certified or trained in coaching methodologies, demonstrating their commitment to professional growth?

4. Empathy and emotional connection

Empathy is a fundamental trait for any successful coach. An empathetic coach can create a safe space for you to explore your thoughts, emotions, and vulnerabilities.

During the initial connection call, assess whether the coach exhibits genuine empathy and whether you feel a strong emotional connection with them. This is really important. They could be highly qualified and accredited, but if you don't feel comfortable in their presence then you won't be fully open and honest. Don't get me wrong, great coaching will often feel very challenging at times, but you shouldn't ever feel personally uncomfortable with the coach.


  • Did the coach show understanding and empathy towards your concerns and struggles?
  • Could you sense a genuine desire to support you on your journey?
  • Did you feel comfortable sharing your emotions and challenges with the coach?

5. Goal-oriented approach

A coach's approach should be centred around helping you achieve your goals. While discussing your objectives during the initial connection call, pay attention to whether the coach outlines a clear plan of action and demonstrates enthusiasm for guiding you towards your desired outcomes.

Ask yourself:

  • Did the coach show a proactive interest in your goals and aspirations?
  • Were they able to outline a potential roadmap for your coaching journey?
  • Did you feel a sense of motivation and excitement about the possibility of working with this coach?

6. Feedback and testimonials

Feedback from previous clients and testimonials can provide valuable insights into a coach's effectiveness and impact. Before making a decision, take the time to research the coach's online presence, website, and any available reviews or testimonials.


  • Are there testimonials from individuals who have worked with the coach?
  • What do these testimonials highlight in terms of the coach's strengths and contributions?
  • Do you notice any consistent themes in the feedback that align with what you're seeking in a coach?

7. Mutual commitment and expectations

A successful coaching relationship requires mutual commitment and aligned expectations. During the initial connection call, openly discuss logistics, scheduling, payment terms, and any other practical aspects of the coaching engagement. 

Talking of payment you'll see coaches offering fees either per session or block bookings. There are pros and cons for both. Single session payments often make it easier to afford as you aren't handing over a big upfront amount of cash, but block booking can aid commitment to change as by doing so you've shown you are in it for the long haul.

Ask yourself:

  • Did the coach explain their coaching process, including the number of sessions, session duration, and the overall timeline?
  • Were they transparent about their fees and any other associated costs?
  • Did you feel that both of you were on the same page regarding the expectations and commitments?

Choosing the right coach after an initial connection call is a pivotal decision that can significantly impact your personal and professional growth journey. It's essential to evaluate factors such as alignment of values, effective communication, professional expertise, empathy, goal-oriented approach, feedback and testimonials, and mutual commitment.

Remember, finding the right coach is a highly individualised process. Trust your instincts and take the time to reflect on how you felt during the initial connection call. Don't feel pressured to sign up with a coach at the end of a free connection call. It's your decision, so take your time. 

And personally (it's happened to me), if they start stepping into a sales pitch along the lines of the coach giving money off sessions if you sign up there and then, run for the hills! A coach who resonates with you on multiple levels and demonstrates a genuine commitment to your success is more likely to be the right fit for your transformative journey ahead.

Ready to take the plunge? Then contact me and let's see if I'm right for you.

The views expressed in this article are those of the author. All articles published on Life Coach Directory are reviewed by our editorial team.

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