Confidence booster no.1: Maintain proportion

You only get one go at this... make it count.

The challenge: To keep issues in proportion

We have all heard the adage that this life is not a rehearsal. What that says to me is “please do not waste a day” and that is what I try to instil in clients who suffer with low self confidence and low self esteem. True, we cannot always succeed but it is a good reminder to have in the background to nudge us from time to time: avoid dwelling on an issue that we may have perhaps built up beyond its importance – also known as, wasting time.

The exercise: How many days do I have left?

Pick an age you wouldn’t mind reaching 80, 85, 90, message from the Queen? It’s up to you. Then convert the years from the present until that date into days. Seeing your life quoted in days can cause a moment of pause and bring home just how precious each day is. You’re not always going to be able to have good days, in fact some may be down right hard work, but the idea is to become more determined as to how you view your valuable time and your priceless life.

The benefit is that getting into this habit will help to put issues and problems into context. It will not make them disappear, but in the grand scheme of your life, they may well take on more realistic dimensions, and appear in their correct proportions – and not seem to be monumental obstacles.

Try it and see…