Begin to find happiness - the 5 core elements
You have five core elements that need to be in balance to allow you to be happy, these are;
1. Your soul
This is at our innermost core and it's often something we forget about. Everything else feeds into it and it's the most precious thing we have. It's that bit that does somersaults when we fall in love, the bit that feels sadness and loss and the part that will ultimately give us the strength to be the person we uniquely are and allow us to be happy. One of its most recognisable elements is intuition. It is so important that we trust ourselves and follow our intuition - that gut feeling that just comes from somewhere. It isn’t impulsive, it's strong, calm and enduring. Trust yourself to be yourself and you will begin to shine.
2. Your heart
This is your relationship centre - and that includes your relationship with yourself. Everybody deserves love. Identify who or what brings love into your life, be honest about what invites positive energy in and what eats it up. If there are relationships that take away more than they give, the balance will be out of kilter. Protect your boundaries around such relationships and refer them to your mind a little more. Your heart centre works best when it is happy to give and receive.
3. Your mind
We all need enough mental stimulation to keep us bright and interested. What drains our energy in this area is too much worry or over analysing. Ensure you have enough things in your life that are mentally stimulating that you enjoy (even if that’s just the crossword at the end of the day). Become aware of any unnecessary thoughts that are clogging your mind. Create some space - our subconscious mind is an amazing thing, it can work out the most complex situations if it is given the chance. Going to a meditation class, restorative exercise or even just doing something you love, along with getting enough sleep will all give your conscious mind the chance to stop worrying and let your silent inner mind get to work.
4. Your physical self
Sometimes it's easy to think of our physical self as separate to the rest of us - especially when we have weight issues or may feel unwell. This can create a feeling of being out of control of our bodies. The truth is, that your body is part of you and the way we behave and think will impact upon it hugely. It isn’t about looking ten years younger necessarily, its about remembering that your body is your tool in life. If you had a car that could take you anywhere you wanted to go in life, for free, you wouldn’t let it rot away in the garage (neither would you run it into the ground). Our bodies are designed to help us, from allowing us to smile and spread happiness to keeping us less stressed when we exercise. Your body is your Rolls Royce, begin to use it in a way that will help you.
5. Your vision
There is much said of living in the moment. What we need to remember it is what we do in that moment that creates our future. Having a vision of how we want things to be really helps us become that person and create that life. It allows us to use all of the opportunities around us to become the person we want to be for ourselves and others and make a positive impact in our lives and the world beyond. Instead of just thinking about how you don’t want things to be, instead ask yourself how the world will look when those things are real. How are you behaving? How does it feel and what did you do to get there?
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