5 steps to a more confident you

Do you feel you're lacking in confidence? Do you appear confident on the outside but inside you're full of self-doubt and fear? Are you worried that lack of confidence is limiting your potential for a successful, happy life? You're not alone. Read on to find out how you can stop limiting yourself and unlock your potential for a more confident, happier you.


'Confidence' comes from the Latin word 'fidere' which means 'to trust'. In my coaching practice, I help people know themselves and trust themselves so they can live a life they love with self-belief and courage. Confidence is within all of us. Think of it like a muscle. It has to be used and developed a little bit at a time to grow and get stronger.

Here are five steps you can take to grow your confidence so you can enjoy new experiences that come your way and live a happy, fulfilling life.

1. Know who you are

Sounds obvious, right? 'Who am I?' It's a small question with a big answer. Know what you stand for; what your values, strengths and weaknesses are. Know your boundaries; what you'll accept and what you won't accept. Know the kind of person you want to be and what you need to do to get the outcomes you want.

2. Love who you are

There's nobody else on earth like you. That's amazing! Love all the parts of you, even the parts you'd rather hide or not have. Loving yourself doesn't mean everything has to be 'perfect'. Perfection doesn't exist, despite what social media leads us to believe. We are all made of strength and struggle. Embrace who you are and strive to be the best version of you.

3. Be the master of your mindset

We all experience negative self-talk. The human brain is hard wired for negativity so we have to work hard to adopt a positive, growth mindset. Prove to yourself you can do it. Refuse to accept negative self-talk. Talk to yourself like someone you love. Find people who inspire you and find out how they achieved the outcomes you want. believe that anything is possible. 

4. Be courageous

Confidence is not the absence of fear. Challenges, new experiences and facing things that are important to us create mixed emotions of nervousness, excitement and anxiety. It's ok to feel fear but don't let the fear control you. Fear tells us we're stepping out of our comfort zone, and that's a good thing. People who do brave things feel the fear and have the courage to do it anyway.

5. Take action

Nothing changes, if nothing changes. Taking action is the only way we can achieve the confidence and the outcomes we want. Wishing for confidence, wanting confidence and researching confidence isn't going to help us achieve it. Do a little to exercise your confidence muscle every day. Begin by taking small risks and you'll start to notice the amazing sense of accomplishment when you overcome nerves and fear.

Check out my signature 'explore and empower' package for more information.

Coach Bec x

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