Siobhan McMillan Coaching
SO WHAT'S IT ALL ABOUT ?
We can all be pretty good at getting in our own way – kicking ourselves for not achieving what we’re capable of, or beating ourselves up for not being good enough. Many of us have felt at one time or another that because of how we feel, we somehow can’t think straight. Or maybe we’ve felt stuck in unhelpful, even damaging patterns of behaviour, doing the same old thing time and time again and not getting the results we want.
If any of this sounds familiar then coaching could be for you.
I will teach you to choose how you feel. Imagine if you were able to decide how to be in, say, an interview or on a date, or with someone you find difficult; able to take control of how you experience those situations and get what you want from them. It’s actually easy when you know how.
I coach using NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming – which is hugely effective for making lasting rapid change in your life. It’s like the instruction manual your brain didn’t come with – you’ve been using the default settings, but with a bit of reprogramming you can stop doing things automatically, things you don’t necessarily want to do, and take charge of your own life.
I will teach you simple, practical and powerful techniques that allow you to CHOOSE how you think, feel and respond in any given situation. Working together we’ll enable you to realise your fullest potential, to be successful on your own terms and really enjoy your life. There’s nothing more liberating than realising you can choose for yourself how you respond to the world – no more good days, bad days, that’s just the way it is. You’ll learn to choose your own thoughts, feelings and moods.
Our sessions will be solution focussed. Unlike some other forms of therapy, this is not about going back over and over your past problems to work out how you got here. This is about looking forward and making the changes you want and need. You won’t be a passive player in the sessions - instead you’ll be taught to be empowered and think for yourself, and we’ll make you the most powerful influence in your own life. We’ll design a future for you which is not determined or limited by your past, or by anyone else’s idea of how you ‘ought’ to be.
I can help you to achieve your personal goals, sort out feeling stuck and passive in your life, resolve family and relationship issues and sort out limiting beliefs that have been holding you back. You can radically improve your physical and mental health, resolve phobias, anxiety, nerves, low self esteem, depression, fear, self doubt - these obstacles to your happiness are actually self imposed, and I will show you how to stop imposing them! We’ll get rid of negative self talk, give you more confidence and clarity about what it is you actually want to be achieving in your life, and help you to discover your fullest potential and bring out the best in yourself.
The tools I’ll equip you with are easy to understand and put into practice, and the process is genuinely fun! Change is usually very rapid indeed and in my experience clients will usually only need between one and six sessions to get to where they want to be.
SOME COOL NLP STUFF TO WHET YOUR APPETITE ...
NLP has a whole host of pretty amazing stuff to offer, including brilliant ideas for viewing things in fresh and interesting ways. Very often, simply through switching up our established perceptions about ourselves and our worlds we can transform our experience! So, with that in mind, here’s a little food for thought ...
‘If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got’
It seems kind of obvious doesn’t it, but that doesn’t seem to stop us from getting stuck, sometimes for years, in doing the same things over and over and somehow expecting things to turn out differently. Einstein said that was the definition of insanity! But we all do it - we’re really trying to sort things out, but if we’re just doing the same thing each time then how can it? But often by being more creative, more flexible and just doing something different - ANYTHING different - it’s interesting to notice what naturally turns up in our lives as a result.
‘The map is not the territory’
Think about a map. It gives you an idea of what a place will be like but it’s certainly not the real thing. In the same way, our idea of the scope of the world is just an approximation. There’s more to it than that! The maps of the world that we have in our heads, just like any other map, will need updating from time to time to reflect the fact that things change. When we learn to develop our views, experiences and relationships beyond what it says on our maps we can achieve a far richer experience. Just because what you want isn’t currently on your map doesn’t mean you can’t have it. Which leads us onto…
‘People already have all the resources they need’
We all exist in the same world, we all have the same bits. And yet some people appear to be really successful, in the way we would like to be, and we don’t feel able to access that type of success. So many of us say things like ‘I’m not a confident person’ or ‘I’m just not good at that’, but these types of limiting beliefs really get in the way of our success and happiness because we see them as truths. Are you confident that you can tie your shoelaces? Then you’re capable of confidence! It sounds almost too simple to be true, but confidence is confidence. If you can be confident of one thing, you can be confident of anything, and that’s true of so many other states - I can teach you how to access the state you want whenever you want it and change your mood at will.
‘There is no such thing as failure there is only feedback’
We don’t particularly like being wrong, but very often we’re given ‘feedback’. Imagine if we were able to consider feedback as interesting, useful information which simply enabled us to do it even more brilliantly next time, and didn’t consider ourselves wrong or broken in some way. You didn’t give up walking just because you fell over the first few times! If you could think ‘ooh that’s interesting’ rather than ‘ooh I’m just s**t’ then the world can be your lobster!
"Coaching with Siobhan has honestly changed my life, it’s empowered me in so many ways. I recently had a session with her the evening before a big job interview - I walked in the next day in the absolute optimum state of mind and was offered my dream job the very same day. I know who to thank for that!"
"Siobhan helped me immensely with my general work stress and made me realise how the words I use help to enforce my negative perception. She reprogrammed me to be more positive and assisted me in clarifying what exactly I want and need to be happier. She also threw in a neat trick to help with flying anxiety, and all of this in the first session!”
"My sessions with Siobhan have been incredibly transformative for me. I was surprised at how quickly I was able to change. I was extremely anxious, often panicking so much that I was unable to get onto public transport to work. I am now so much calmer, able to feel relaxed in an instant and am happier and more focussed as a brilliant bi-product. I can't recommend this approach highly enough."
"I felt I had completely lost my confidence after losing my job quite suddenly. I felt very low and I didn't know what I wanted for myself anymore. I was definitely stuck. Siobhan helped me to engineer some huge shifts in my life and I now have a new job that I love. Thank you so much."
"I was really skeptical to be honest but NLP honestly does work and has helped me so much more than years of traditional therapy did. I no longer feel like I'm stupid and a failure and instead am confident that I can be a brilliant mum and excel in my career too. Siobhan's solutions are real and effective."
"I was at a low point in my life, where I felt that the depression I had been suffering for years was just a part of who I was. After just a couple of sessions with Siobhan I feel like myself again. I have so much more energy, I'm positive and excited about my life for the first time in years."
"I struggled for years with a crippling fear of flying. To my amazement, after a single session with Siobhan I was able to fly calmly, long haul to the U.S and it seemed so easy and natural. I’m seeing things in a whole new light. I only wish I’d found her years ago!"
"Siobhan helped me with my anxiety issues. The techniques she explained were simple and effective. I could use these discretely and felt my confidence grow. Siobhan empowered me to change my line of thought, this led to less anxious symptoms. I thank her and believe it is never too late to make that change."
Training, qualifications & experience
I started my career as an actor, having trained at the world renowned Royal Academy of Dramatic Arts (RADA), and I worked prolifically and successfully in theatre throughout the UK and in Europe for over a decade. Working in such a highly competitive industry which demands huge amounts of confidence, self motivation, thick skin and focus, I struggled with nerves and anxiety which could be crippling at times, and often felt I had little control over my own career and how I felt about myself.
After discovering Phil Parker and his work within Coaching and NLP, I realised that I was able to exercise far greater influence over my life and career and actually be happy while doing it! Since then I’ve flourished not just as an actor but also as a writer - something I’d previously been told I wouldn’t be capable of. I now successfully write, produce and perform all my own work including, most recently, a rapturously received one woman show in the West End, something I’d never dreamed I’d be able to achieve. Beyond my career, I’m transformed as a person - my relationships are now genuinely authentic, happy and healthy and I’m far more content, confident and self sufficient in every aspect of my life. I’ve realised that I can have my own version of success in all areas of my life, on my own terms.
The difference that Coaching and NLP have made to my own life inspired me to train as a Coach and help others to transform their lives just as I have my own. I studied under Phil Parker at The Phil Parker Training Institute where I obtained a Clinical Diploma in NLP and Life Coaching and since setting up my practice I’ve helped many people experience profound change in their lives. I’ve been coaching for over a decade, in particular within the creative industries - actors, writers, people applying for top drama schools and universities, and I’ve had incredible results in completely shifting all kinds of problems that have been keeping people stuck for years, enabling my clients to reach their full potential.
I’ve helped people with confidence, self esteem, independence, successful speech, communication and public speaking, successful interviewing and dating, being more imaginative, creative, focussed and successful at work, gaining health and vitality, sleeping deeply, relationships, gaining relaxation and calmness, getting more humour and fun, life long phobias such as flying, heights etc (usually completely cured in half an hour), anxiety, stage fright, limiting beliefs, depression, resolving allergies and food intolerances, weight loss, stopping smoking, inspiration and motivation, conflict resolution... the list goes on.
Areas of coaching I deal with
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Sessions cost £120. I am running a special autumn deal where you can get a package of 3 sessions for just £300.
Type of session
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Afternoons, evenings and weekends by appointment. I practice at OneTwoFive, a lovely boutique space in Crouch Hill. https://www.onetwofive.me