Many coaches follow a script or program. They buff, tweak and improve your life/business - a little.
I Change Lives.
I have no set script because YOU are my material. My 'program' is in your speaking.
Where does this almost always lead?
*Confidence. No more second-guessing decisions & over-analysing. Trust your instincts. Making a habit of acting in spite of fear.
*Purpose-driven career transitions that allow for freedom. Break the shackles of passionless employment!
*Living in the present & fosteringgratitude. Overcome anxiety, unfulfilled dreams & frustration.
*Authentic & assertive communication. Learn to prioritise yourSELF.
Audio Program: 'Should I Hire A Coach?'
I have struggled with a litany of the most common symptoms of what we call the ‘human condition’:
- A relentless addiction to achievement
- Multiple Career Syndrome (Wedding DJ, anyone?)
- Chronic fatigue/insomnia/brain fog
- Being a ‘spineless social chameleon’ (an early girlfriend’s words - also an English literature graduate) who couldn’t live without the approval of others
- Anxiety & Depression
At it’s height, I was trading the financial markets for a hedge fund, whilst pursuing a snowboarding passion living in the Canadian mountains, running dance music events and writing music, only sleeping for 20 minute naps every 4 hours, eating literally nothing but red meat (sorry, vegans, this particular madness only lasted a month & I ate no meat for a year to atone for my sins) ...
Then, surprise! I had a breakdown. My mid-life crisis came at the ripe old age of 24.
On reflection: It was the best thing that ever happened to me (at the time, it sucked).
Through intense self-reflection, receiving coaching and more trial and error than I care to admit (imagine a ‘Rocky’ training montage, but running into lots of walls until he eventually breaks through one), it clicked:
‘To do/have/be what I REALLY want, and experience all the peace/joy/love as I go: Relax in to the flow. Move at the speed of life… Rather than forcing and fighting to “get ahead”.’
It was a hard won truth. Now I help others find their speed of life.
There's only one question on your mind:
'Can you help me?'
Set aside 90 minutes, and so will I. Let's find out. No obligation.
Scroll down to the bottom of this page, or visit my LinkedIn (link to the right of this text) for a rough idea of who I have helped & how.
Training, qualifications & experience
- BA (Hons) Management - Oxford Brookes Business School
- Classification: 1st Class
- Ministry of Entrepreneurship Accredited Coaching Qualification
- Member (MAC) at the Association for Coaches (AC)
- Achology Certified Life Coach
Association for Coaching
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Areas of coaching I deal with
Other areas of coaching I deal with
- Mid life crisis
- Quarter life crisis
Free initial telephone or online session
The value of powerful, fearless Coaching can only be understood by experiencing it.
After our initial free session, 1 of 3 things will occur:
- You are complete. You've had life changing insights. We part ways as friends.
- I recommend or refer you. Someone or something else is better placed than I to serve you right now.
- You want to know what more of this would be like.
At this point, we co-create the exact program you're looking for. Duration, frequency, payment plan.
See my LinkedIn page for more.
'Coaching with Elliot has been transformative for me. When I began, I wasn't so sure what I wanted (out of life or out of coaching!), but i had this subtle feeling that I was spending my time on earth constantly trying to fix 'something' - but i couldn't quite figure out what that something was.
From the very first session, I began to grasp what the problems were. I had difficulties expressing my emotions, especially at work, where my performance was lagging for some unknown reason (the fact the reason was unknown frustrated me even more!). I couldn't convince anyone of my point of view.
This difficulty had lasted so long I was oblivious to it. Elliot helped uncover the blind spot with some deep, challenging questions. Once we had discovered the real issue, the solutions came one by one.
First at work, where I was attempting to influence the company towards a completely different type of product development. Slowly I was able to let go of my 'I know best' attitude, and begin to involve others in the creation of ideas, subsequently improving them, and stakeholder buy in. I developed relationships that were far more enjoyable and productive and... Ultimately, after 8 years of getting nowhere, my efforts are being realised and senior leadership is seeing value in my suggestions. My product development theory is now in practice.
At home and in my personal life, I am opening up more to people around me. Discovering new emotions and feelings all the time, constantly breaking ground. Elliot is always there to go deeper and remind me of my defense mechanisms when they are getting in the way. As a result, my wife and I are communicating in a wholesome way, rather than a fractured one, and the time I spend with our baby is REAL, one on one, present and joyous time. Completely for the moment.' - Troy, Software Development Executive, New Zealand
'Quite simply: I hired Elliot because I wanted a promotion.
Through our conversations, I came to understand some resentment towards my employers as a feeling of entitlement. After initial embarrassment, I realised that the entitlement was justified: I was performing a role at a pay grade, but receiving the pay grade below. They were, as is to be expected, getting the most they could from me, at the lowest cost.
Elliot and I discovered some ways I could approach communicating this. As a result, I now have a far more honest communication with my managers, and the recognition I deserve. Financially and inter personally. I feel confident that I can deal with these situations in the future, and in my ability to be assertive.' - Jack, Maritime Insurance Lawyer & Executive, London.
'I was at the end of my patience with my 9-5 when first talking with Elliot. Having been in software development for many years, I was jaded, bored, easily irritated and fatigued. Not just with my job, either. It was spilling over into the rest of my life: relationships, creativity etc. I resented my job for what it took from me.
I had no idea what to do next. I had grown comfortable with my salary, and feared risks.
After working with Elliot, I have begun the process of starting my own business, using my artistic passion as the focus. With a failed attempt in my past, I had many reservations and was scared of this path. After a few conversations, It became clear that I had to try; or continue to shrivel inside.
I discovered much about myself along the way, and dealt with a few setbacks (coronavirus being one!) but at this point I know what my potential is. I've done my first few installations and paintings, learned to develop and use my network, become more assertive and business savvy, and am confident in my financial needs as i transition from salary to business income.
Most importantly, I am living with passion and intensity again. Thank you.' - Patrick, Creative Arts Business Owner, Belgium
'I couldn't work out why I never stayed focused on one thing for longer than 3 months, despite success. I wanted to commit to a career, a relationship, a lifestyle...
Working with Elliot was challenging, painful at times, but my self awareness grew to the point where I understand which of my beliefs, behaviours and priorities affect the results I get, but don't want. I am now running a programming business which has been going for 6 months, with a great team.' - Fred, Programming/Coding start up co-owner, Oslo
'I started coaching wanting assertiveness more than anything, especially at work. We started there, and quickly I was getting amazing results: saying no to projects that didn't excite me/weren't worth the companies time, getting 1 on 1's with my CEO and them valuing my input...
We went deeper. Discovered some of the fundamental reasons I lacked assertiveness in the first place. After dealing with those, I have hold of something I never knew I didn't have: self-acceptance. Coaching is expensive, but when I tried to put a price on accepting and loving myself for who i am, right now, rather than who I was or could be, it seemed priceless. Well worth it' - Paul, PhD & Sustainable Planning Executive, Oxford
'I lost my confidence, having given up on an amazingly enjoyable job in the airline industry, to focus on a 'career' in the more typical sense. I wanted something that would provide for me and my future, but was also fun and drove me towards my passions.
But my confidence was so low. The online job search was so bleak. Nothing seemed to inspire me.
Through coaching, I noticed my perfectionism was my excuse for not taking action. Elliot didn't let me get away with that excuse anymore, and soon after the amount of jobs I was applying too shot upwards. I was having interesting conversations with people in my network, in industries I wanted to be involved in, visiting museums and interacting with employees there.
Taking action in spite of fear. That was the major takeaway. Not only am I pursuing the career I really want, but this action focus and confidence have spilled over into some other areas. Thanks Elliot.' - Alice, London, The Arts
'At a challenging time, Elliot has offered a valuable insight into the methods than can be used to take back control of an unnerving situation. His assistance and carefully tactile process has been paramount in allowing me to see things in a much clearer light, all without the need of being pushy, judgemental or intimidating. It is easy to think that you have covered every single corner of possibility in looking for solutions and that there is no other way forward, however Elliot is able to let you pave your own way and stumble into new ideas with his professional and leading yet sensitive approach. There is no one more dedicated and easier to work with than Elliot.' - Pete Robson. University of Bristol & Dog Grooming Business Owner.
'Elliot is a great executive coach. He gets to the real core of the matter very quickly, has a persistent but warm style, and his interactions are intelligent and insightful. If you truly want to progress in your goals and remove your barriers effectively, I highly recommend working with Elliot.' - Ronal Shah, MBA. C-level Exec, Fintech, Banking and Asset Mgmt, Board & Exec Coach.
'I recommend Elliot as a coach. He pushed me to go deeper and to understand myself better, to grow and to shift my perspective. He is also pretty savvy at business which makes him valuable as a business mentor as well.' - Elisha Klein. VP at Datacrushers (Software Engineering), Exec Coach.
'As a busy sales manager I often lack time for myself and can often find myself out of ‘self’. Elliot has shown me how to create a perfect and productive work life balance which has hugely benefited me and my family - thank you again for everything you have done!' - Guy James, Outbound Sales Manager.
'Elliot is great! He's got a knack for getting to the core of the issue your dealing with and helping add clarity. I've got some clear actions to go away with feeling very positive about making the changes I want to.' - Ian Greaves, Owner Free-Flow Injury & Performance Clinic, Rehab specialist.