Your inner critic - banish criticism and doubt from within
1st September, 20150 Comments
Written by: Jennifer Boon CPCC ACC
We all have a chatterbox (or a few chatterboxes) in our head, they are the voices that say- ‘oooh I wouldn’t wear that’, ‘you can’t do that’, ‘steer clear of saying your opinion - they don’t want to hear it’, ‘you’re not good enough’, ‘you’re not clever enough’, ‘see I told you you’re rubbish at xxx” fill in the blanks accordingly - the theme is the same - all keeping us small and all fear based.
It’s interesting that the inner chatterbox voice that is constantly with us and we rarely escape from is also the voice that is often the most critical of us.
It feels like a constant part of us wants to sabotage us and does not want the best for us - the outcome is we are kept small, we procrastinate, we stop dreaming.
We think we’re not good enough, pretty enough, clever enough to go for the things we want to really do - the saboteur keeps us procrastinating.
When we listen to our chatterbox and believe everything it is saying it can hold us back from living the life we want to lead - it stops us putting ourselves out there, it stops us from wearing a bright pink skirt for fear of ridicule from others - even though this is how you want to express yourself (change pink skirt for whatever uniqueness you are holding back within).
Tactics in shaking off the negative inner chatterbox:
- If your inner chatterbox had a name what would it be? If it looked like somebody or something what would it look like? By separating ourselves from the voice and observing it and realising we are not the voice - we are something more - the voice loses some of it’s power over us. Get into practice of referring to it by its new name so you know it isn’t all of you.
- Become aware of what is it saying, keep a note of it, then ask yourself - is it true? Is what it’s saying really true? If there was 2% truth in what was said what would that 2% truth be?
- Become aware of the body posture you adopt when your inner critic is talking - what is the opposite of this body language? Perhaps if your inner critic body language is hunched the opposite would be sitting upright- practice getting in this body posture when you have a inner critic attack.
- Practise pushing physically your arms out – pushing the negative voice away when it comes up.
We all have a negative inner chatterbox or saboteur to manage - the key is looking at who is running your life - is it a positive nurturing part of you that has the best intentions for you, or does your saboteur run the show?
Inner negative chatterboxes are a key area to overcome to step into the life you want - coaching empowers you to step into this life of letting go of the saboteur and ending the fear - it's about stepping into the life you want to create now.
About the author
Jennifer Boon empowers clients who are committed and ready to make breath taking changes in their lives. She is passionate about working with you to create the life you dream of and lots more!She knows what it feels like to be stuck and how to break through the shackles of fear to a life of yes, a life of love and life of fulfilment.
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